Because the baby is coming in the middle of the semester (not the best timing... but the baby is already on his/her way), and the school also doesn't allow missing class for maternity leave.... I am not sure what I am supposed to do. If my grades are going to suffer because I be given permission to make work up I feel like I am between a rock and a hard place. I will have to go back as soon as possible, but I don't think it is good for a tiny baby (1-2 weeks old) to be away from me.
I guess I am surprised to hear that people think the baby would be a distraction. Newborn sleep the majority of the time and are often otherwise breastfeeding. I agree that it could be disruptive for my husband to have to be outside the class with the baby... but if I can't miss class and I can't have the baby with me I am not sure what else to do. There is no day care and even if there was I wouldn't feel comfortable leaving such a young baby in one. For successful breastfeeding and to build the best supply, early on-cue feeding is the best method and I just don't think I should have to sacrifice that. I am ready to be mindful of other students and the class as a whole, I just think that my baby's health and a successful nursing relationship are life long issues to consider.
THis. I am always surprised when people claim a baby would be a distraction, especially a newborn. What if people adjusted their idea of "distraction" to include the normal (quiet) noises of a newborn. People clear their throats, their phones might accidentally go off, etc... wuld a baby really make more noise than that? Doubtful.
mine made a lot more noise than that. No way could I have brought kiddo to a college class as a newborn. there is no saying whether or not OP's newborn will be the picturesque quiet newborn or a newborn like mine or many other newborns I have known.
Moreover, if I pay good money to attend college and earn a degree, I WOULD probably be distracted by a baby. I get distracted just by other students fidgeting around. I didn't pay to go to class with a newborn who may or may not just sleep and/or be very quiet. There are plenty of options for OP to explore before bringing her baby to class.
so, how do you handle that? Do you ask the school to ban fidgeting?
I expect to deal with it if I've paid for college. I do not expect to deal with newborns. I didn't pay to take a class with newborns. I expect the vast majority of my class to be about 18 and older.
the op has paid for college too. what if her baby ISN'T a distraction? Should she still have to forfeit her tuition?
That is something to be determined after baby is born. OP still needs a back up plan. If she doesn't want to forfeit her tuition, then it would behoove her to plan for the worst and talk to her professors NOW about other options besides bringing the baby to class or losing out completely. Fighting to have baby in class sounds nice in theory since she is allowed to be there so the law should cover her, but planning only for being allowed to bring the baby to class via complaint is short sighted, and disrespectful to the other students should baby be a distraction and the professor and school unable to turn her away because of the law. She needs to plan for all possible outcomes, and also consider the rights of the other students as well. No student or newborn is more important than the other.
What if the OP has a colicky baby? I guess I just mention that b/c even if the school did decide it was in fact okay to bring her baby to class, and other students were comfortable with this arrangement, there's no guarantee it will actually work out for the best, thus, she should have another plan. Either leaving the baby with someone else for the remainder of the semester (is it really more than a few hours a day, for a little more than a month?) or taking a semester off.
Meh. I know many people who pump and give their babies a bottle "just in case". Most of the world gets by without bottles. Why not cross that bridge (having a back up plan if baby is fussy) when and if needed. Why borrow trouble?