Ok I admit this is disproportionately driving me up the wall today
He basically says he sees no point in reading and that if it were up to him he'd do all his learning through the tv or computer. This is probably the single comment that puts me closest to sending him to school.
He thinks reading is too slow and too dull.
He doesn't spend hours in front of a screen. II suppose he has free-ish access to both tv and computers but subject to negotiation, if that makes sense. He doesn't get to watch 17 hours straight, nor, if he asks to watch and we have nothing else planned and he hasn't spent hours in front of the screen already, do I say no. He goes days, weeks or months without watching, then he might watch 3 hours straight if he gets into, say, a series on science. So I don't feel its either forbidden fruit or used to excess-he could certainly negotiate for more than he has and I would be comfortable with that. What he really likes doing is playing various small doll games with his sisters, and that would be his preferred way to spend a day.
The issue, I think, is that he is basically not very good at reading yet. And tbh he has the skills in place, he can sound out words, he knows words, but he won't read of his own accord, and its like pulling teeth to get him to practice with me. He does about 20 minutes a day practice, and that is probably about 16 lines of a Dr Seuss science book (told you it was like pulling teeth). I think he is not becoming fluent because he just will not practice. He is at the stage where he needs to read lots, to do lots of asking me what a word means, and he just won't do this.
I'm trying not to show it, but its utterly infuriating me. I'm NOT saying "for goodness sake, just make an effort". But it does irritate me. He needs to start trying to read or else he's never going to get it, surely. I've been biting my tongue on this for SO LONG thinking, ok, he'll start reading of his own accord, and he just isn't.
I've done everything I think is obvious. I've bought him really interesting books. I've made reading part of everyday life. He has opportunities to write and email people. We read to him. He spends hours listening to audio books. Dp and I are always reading, there is no chance he's gained from us that reading is not a worthwhile thing to do.
His vocabulary is ridiculously ahead of his reading age, and I don't think he's behind generally-in maths and science I'm pretty sure he's ahead.
Part of me thinks I've made it too easy for him to manage without reading. We read to him. He has free access to audiobooks. There aren't that many times in his life where he needs to read something and can't. On the other hand it would feel a little mean to refuse to read, say, a recipe to him because he needed to practice-I encourage him to read this stuff himself, of course, but at the end of the day I wouldn't refuse to let him cook supper because he couldn't read a recipe.
Is this a stage? Do they realise the value of reading? it does not help that he has several friends who are younger and fluent readers