A few things really stick out to me about this post.
1.) It seems that there is still quite a bit of confusion about the differences between Hypnobabies and Hypnobirthing
2.) I have seen a few say that it didn't work for them yet they were never open to it working in the first place
3.) I have seen a few take other childbirth classes in addition to the Hypnobabies class even though it specifically states NOT to do so!
4.) There are misconceptions about what the program actually teaches.
I think it's important as informed consumers to research and know our facts a bit before speaking about them on open forums. I know it is easy to just write about something you have heard from someone else or to give advice based on opinion rather than factual information, but typically speaking most women on these forums are full of knowledge and educate themselves on options religiously. It kinda makes me sad that the same effort hasn't been shown in this thread.
First let me say that I am a believer in the Hypnobabies program and used it for my third birth and had wonderful results. It was an intense labor, but I never thought my birth would be pain-free...only agreed with the suggestions given in the tracks that I would have a comfortable birth. I went into the program with a willingness to learn the techniques fully, to practice daily, and to avoid other classes. Hypnobabies does not teach a stationary method as has been stated before. During our Birthing Time class we practiced being in open eyes hypnosis and moving around to various stations about the room. I knew how to continue my hypnosis while on a birth ball, while standing, laying down, while someone was massaging my back or applying counter pressure etc. I still had all of the tools that other classes promote as coping techniques as well as the added benefit of being completely relaxed. I was taught a few different techniques with Hypnobabies and was able to choose what worked best for me as labor started. I felt that that the finger drop as well as the peace cue were what helped me in my birth hypnosis the most. Others I have spoken to have said the secret place was what the gravitated to.
I was NEVER sold on anything pertaining to a pain free birth...not once. I was taught to re align my birth philosophies with those pertaining to normal birth and to relish in those thoughts rather than the stories of pain and agony and horrid experiences that were being consistently thrown in my face by others around me.
Hypnobabies opened my eyes to a new way of birthing my baby in peace. Intense as it was, I still knew that everything was normal, that my body was working properly and that I was well equipped to spot when something wasn't going right. It taught me to be more in tune with my body and my baby and to not rely so much on traditional methods.
Hypnobabies may not be for everyone, but for me I received a quality childbirth education with a multitude of tools to use as well as learning the art of self hypnosis. Some may not have the same results and do every single thing the "correct" way, but overall I believe their success rate is quite high for comfortable births in comparison to other methods and even in comparison to Hypnobirthing. I also want to mention that the Home study course is meant for those without actual class options in their areas. You get SO much more from the class situation than you would from the home study course. That comes straight from the Hypnobabies site as well.
To the OP. I am very sorry that your birthing experience wasn't all you believed it would be. It truly breaks my heart to hear of women being saddened by their experience. My hope for you is that your able to come to a place that in light of how your birth journey went, you will be able to find certain parts of it that were beautiful and pleasing to you. I'm sure your baby is a beautiful representation of you and the courageous qualities you have earned in becoming a mother!