To Raelize....loved this about your post:
my plan is to make suicide and depression one of those things like safe sex, driving, drugs and alcohol, and guns in houses that is discussed A LOT growing up and figuring out ways together to deal with these dangerous situations. we were talking yesterday about when people feel so terrible they want to end their life. i related it to her celiac and how we had to search for the right doctor and it took us a while but kept at it till we found the right doc. that depression is the same thing. you need to keep trying different approaches and doctors until you find a scenario that works.
I lost a nephew to suicide in October 2010 and this plan to make suicide prevention as everyday as safe sex, drugs, etc. is exactly what I have been asking everyone I meet to do. We have fire drills and physical screenings in schools but we do nothing for mental health. I have named it the "sad drill." So it's not whether or not you are sad at some point, but WHEN you are sad that I address. Who will you talk to? It probably won't be a parent.....what trusted adult does your child have in her/his life? Name that adult, make sure your child knows who she/he will talk to...
We all have great sadness or questioning of purpose in our lives at some point, some to a far more severe degree. But parenting magazines seldom address preparing for the worst. We all buy blankets, diapers, educational toys, videos, music, etc in an attempt to make our children happy and healthy. But not once during my pregnancy or early infant and toddler years did I ever consider preparing for if they are NOT happy.
Now I talk about Will all the time. I tell my friends and anyone I meet that they are free to "use" my nephew's death as a way to say, "Honey, I me a woman whose nephew died by suicide. I can't let that happen to you. If you ever feel so sad that it hurts too much, who do you think you could talk to? me? a neighbor? an aunt/uncle? a teacher?" And then I'd call that trusted adult to let them know that they are "on call!"
You can all visit www.mentalhealthscreening.org to see their SOS program for schools and start using their A.C.T. motto if someone even hints at being depressed: Acknowledge that their is a problem, tell them you Care and don't want them to hurt themselves, then Tell a trusted adult.