I never used a pacifier for my son who is now 2 1/2. I suppose that I had what I thought were good reasons not to, such as dependency on pacifiers, mouth formation, milk production etc.
I try to attachment parent as best as I can.
Our surprise twins were born about a month ago. I'm finding that there's nothing like being the mother of multiples to challenge many of my parenting principles. I can only change, dress, get to one baby at a time, though I definitely can tandem nurse and do what I can tandemly. This inevitably leaves one baby crying, sometimes for a few minutes. It breaks my heart. I never let my son cry for minutes. The smallest little whimper from him and I came running. But I'm only one person with two babies and a toddler.
So my question to other attachment parenters out there is do you use pacifiers and if so or not, what is your justification for using or your reasons for not using pacifiers? When do you use them,, if you do? If you don't, what other coping strategies do you employ to keep your children from crying it out until you are able to get to them?
Your answers are very appreciated.