My nine month old son was retracted by his pediatrician at his six month checkup. At his nine month checkup (yesterday), I requested that she not pull back on his foreskin and she said, "Oh, you've probably read online not to do that. You're just supposed to do it gently, like this" and proceeded to retract him again. DH didn't come, but he was mad that I didn't push her out of the way and take my baby off the table, but to be honest I was just so shocked that she could completely disrespect my wishes that I couldn't even speak. DS didn't cry, but she pulled it back far enough to expose the head of his penis. I put some diaper cream on it when we got home and it seems fine today outwardly.
As she was retracting him, she said, "Wow, his goes back really far for this age." I have never pulled on his foreskin and he hasn't done it himself at nine months old, so I wouldn't know. He has never had any babysitters and was never retracted by anyone other than this particular pedi - twice. She pointed out that he had some smegma and told me that I needed to be cleaning it in the bathtub, and commented again on how surprised she was that it went back that far with him only being nine months old.
So now I don't know what to do. Obviously, we're switching pediatricians. And I'm still not planning on touching his foreskin. But should I be concerned that she said it could go back so far? Does that mean he's partially retractable already?
I'm just so upset and worried that she did my baby permanent harm. :(