I'm not sure if this is the best forum for this question as the kid I'm asking about isn't my own. But I'll give it a shot.
I'm not even a mom *quite* yet. I'm due with my first in a month! :D
Anyway, I have a friend who has a 17 month old daughter. They live on our street and so she stops by sometimes while they're out walking. Her daughter is a sweet wonderful kid and I like her a lot, but she tears my house apart and her mom does nothing! I don't like to step in and discipline someone else's kid, but what I end up doing is following her around as she pulls books off of shelves and splashes in my dog's water bowl, and generally goes like a tornado through my living room taking everything out of it's place and dumping it on the floor.
I have a chest full of wooden blocks, and a bunch of kid's books/toys/stuffed animals that I try to get her interested in, but her mom does nothing to redirect her to these age appropriate toys. She just laughs as her kid does whatever she wants and says things like, 'oh you're not baby proofed yet??'... ARGH!
Then when they leave, she never offers to help pick up all the stuff scattered around my house. I've already tried to minimize the time they spend over at my house, but what on earth can I say or do about this? Anything?