Sleeping better seperately...

[WifeofAnt]

We have been having what I'm guessing are normal issues for the first 3 months (cranky at 7, naps 8-9:30, wakes and cries until 11-1) and I've been quietly going insane.  For the past two nights though once it gets close to 10:30 (but not before) I can calm him down until he's 95% quiet, get him in his swaddle wrap, and set him in his bassinet.  Also for the past two nights he has not 'needed' me to put him all the way to sleep...  He takes being put down with his eyes open and falls asleep alone a lot faster than in either mine or DH's arms.

What is bugging me is that he won't do this in our bed at the beginning of the night.  I move just slightly and he's upset and crying again.  He will fall asleep with me after he wakes up to nurse though.  I'm feeling kind of rejected now... he's only going to be 8 weeks old tomorrow!

[calizacar]

Man, I remember that feeling. The first time my son fell asleep in his basinet I was devastated. Now, we're in the middle of sleep training trying to get him back there...... Ugh.....
I recommend nursing, swaddling, and then putting him in the basinet first and getting some quality sleep for yourself. This phase IMO won't last forever. It's kind of like the calm before the storm. And then when he wakes up later you can bring him into bed so you're getting the best of both worlds. Trust me, he needs and wants you and will continue to need and want you more and more. Right now, he's giving you a break and letting you both establish some sort of pattern. You're going to love it that he can do that in 6 months.

[Orionsmama]

I always imagined that DS would sleep all snuggled up in between my DH and myself but in the end he ended up being much happier and sleeping better in his pack and play. We have the sleeper saddled right up to my side of the bed so it is almost flush with the mattress. With even the smallest peep I can be up and have him at the breast just as if he was sleeping in bed with us. Something that has made this arrangement work for us is when he was smaller (he is 7.5mos now) we could actually rock him in the sleeper due to it having the elevated mattress that inserts into the bed. It hangs by supports which makes the mattress supportive but lets it have a rocking motion. On occasion we still need to use the rocking motion but for the most part he is pretty happy in his own space. This option works really well for us as a family, we all sleep better and DH's and my sex life has gotten back to that pre-baby stage-yay! (sorry TMI) but it really does help make the nights go smoother. 

At times I am bummed and really want my little guy all snuggly in my arms but I do feel this was the right choice for us. And I totally agree with Calizacar, he absolutely needs you and wants you, it sounds as if your really on the right path for many good nights sleep.