my little girl is a couple weeks old now, and isn't latching. i'm exclusively pumping which is a bit exhausting. my supply is good, thank goodness! but i really want to latch her so i can take her anywhere and not worry about having milk on hand, pumping on the go, etc.
here are some problems we've identified:
-i have extremely large, floppy, "national geographic" boobs. it's hard to put them in the right position for nursing, but it's totally possible, it just ties up one hand.
-i have flat nipples (approx 1-2mm long) that invert when stimulated. also when stimulated, my areola hardens into a dense chunk of tissue that baby can't open her mouth around.
-baby never, ever gets a "wide-open yawn". i think this is the biggest problem, since i was able to bf her big sister in spite of my breast issues.
-baby's tongue is constantly up at the top of her mouth, behind her gums, rather than down on her lower gum, which blocks the way for any nipple (real or artificial). i've no idea how to make her put her tongue down or open up wider.
i'm desperate to make this work, i can keep pumping for as long as i can, but it's just not the same as directly feeding from the breast. please help! right now she's being bottle fed because i'm exhausted and it's the easiest way to get milk into her.. but i know that's not a particularly good idea because it doesn't teach her proper latching. the longer we go without latching to the breast, the bigger the problem might be i think..