BTDT parents.... should I "do" anything different or just go along as I am? Here is the story:
Started p/t EC with DD when she was 2mo. Used cloth diaper backups a lot of the time but very happy with the overall process.
By the time she was 15mo we were ready to transition- most of the time- to trainers. We still have some misses- almost always pee. She often said her word for potty a few moments before eliminating- so that as long as you were paying attention and could get her to the potty quickly, she usually made it. But then... it seemed like she stopped with the warnings.
As of yesterday she was 21m. She has plenty of words to communicate about elimination (pee, poop, bum, potty, undies, diaper, pants). She is just so infrequent about giving any warning on having to go potty. Also, the past few weeks she is much more likely to insist that she doesn't have to go potty, and then not 5 minutes later, pee in her pants. So, I feel like we still use primarily timing. She almost always holds her pee all night, and never wets during naps or anything. We catch virtually 100% of poops-- pretty much always have from the get-go. But pees are so much more hit-or-miss. We'll go days where she is dry and then, like yesterday, three wet pants in one afternoon (and twice that was right after she really fought me about not wanting to use the potty).
She tells us while she is going. I always take off her pants and if we are near a bathroom I immediately put her on the potty (in case she isn't done...). Sometimes I catch her mid-go. Yesterday she sat there and pointed at her wet pants saying, "I potty, pee pee pants". I said, "pee is supposed to go in the potty, not in your pants". She looked at me with a sort of sad face (I don't think I sounded mad or anything, but she is very sensitive about doing the wrong thing).
She plays lots of games about the potty (dolls and animals use the BBLP, the toy potty, the real potty). She has several choices about where to use the potty (flip-down seat, BBLP, reducer ring on the potty at grandma and grandpa's house upstairs). As I said, plenty of language about the potty and the whole process.
A funny thing is, I swear she wets LESS if she is in diapers than undies. Today she's out with papa... I told her she was wearing diapers because she has been peeing in her pants a lot and diapers can help to catch pees. She just looked at me and cooperated with wearing the diapers.
I dunno. Things sound like they are going well? Should I just stick with timing? At some point (lol, maybe when the cold weather is eased up) should I just stop taking her myself and see if she will initiate it? And let her wet her pants more often (which she doesn't like)? Other thoughts?
I'm not upset about how its going, I guess I just wonder when will she take over?