if she has one more tnatrum I am going to run away

[Honey693]

DD has given new meaning to the terrible 2s.  She's either an angel or a screaming flailing toddler monster.  I don't even know what to do anymore, it's just exhausting.  She'll ask for something (or for me to do something), I'll give to her (or do it), she'll cry b/c that's not what she wanted, I'll take it back and try to figure out what she wants, she'll freak out b./c I took whatever it was.  Repeat for hours.  If I ignore it or whether I try and help doesn't' seem to matter.  It's gotten to the point where I just want to run away and live on a beach alone.

[ScottyG]

Sounds not too different from my DD about 3 months ago.  Quoth the parenting books: "It's just a phase."  Not that that fixes it, and I know that those phases seem impossible and like you want to bang your head on a wall... but it's a phase.  Try to support her as best you can until she gets past it.  

I don't know your DD, but mine discovered the joy of playing alone and that helped a lot.  Sometimes getting her to sit down with a good dollhouse or musical toy, after which she says to me: "Papa, you go do something else"... well, that fixes her mood.  A little me-time for the toddler beast seems to calm it down.  But really, there was an AWFUL month, and then about 4 good months, and then another AWFUL 6 weeks or so, and now she's pretty good again.  Phases.  Deep breaths.  Zen.  Calm.

[shademan]

It is just a phase, as exhausting as it is.

I would really watch diet.  Sugar and caffeine can "spaz" kids out, so see if that is the problem.  Juice is full of sugar.

We don't let me son have much sugar at all and he is still hyperactive.  I can't imagine him loaded up on sugar!

[carmel23]

This too shall pass. 

Breastmilk is full of sugar, too...

Have you ever tried to just be really silly, or ask her for crazy things when she starts?  Like when she asks for a glass of water, and then says she doesn't want it say, "Well, this is for the elephant" or something like that... make it fun. 

[ScottyG]

Originally Posted by Honey693 

She'll ask for something (or for me to do something), I'll give to her (or do it), she'll cry b/c that's not what she wanted, I'll take it back and try to figure out what she wants, she'll freak out b./c I took whatever it was.  Repeat for hours.  If I ignore it or whether I try and help doesn't' seem to matter. 

I was just re-reading this and had another idea that worked for my DD.  She loves to choose things so much, but often it's just as you describe, and no matter how the choice is made, no matter how accommodating you are, a freakout ensues.  So I decided to see what happens in a few situations if I just leave out the choice altogether.  For breakfast, she used to choose... now she gets Cheerios every day, no discussion, no negotiation, just "now let's go to the kitchen for your Cheerios"!  And it worked like a charm.  Maybe there are places where you can pre-emptively make decisions for your DD, so she isn't faced with the tantrum-inducing moment?

[mnm4242]

I just want you to know that you are not alone. This sounds exactly like my 2 year old DD. :-)