First off...let me just say...I am new to the "fostering and adoptive" board. I have read the guidelines but please let me extend my apologies if I don't word things in the right way. I have no intentions of offending anyone and I do welcome correction if need be just please be gentle:)
My dh and I want to become foster parents. Given that my hubby is adopted we feel we have some experience in the area that would be helpful. We both have a very good understanding of the loss that goes hand in hand with adoption and fostering.
I have a few concerns that maybe you all could help with. We have a DS that is going to be six next month and we were wondering about how this would affect him. Emotionally and physically. Even though we have thought about doing this for years we have only started telling our family and friends this past month. They all seem to think this has "come out of left field" and can't understand why we would want to do this. They have also been very forthcoming with EVERY horror story they have heard about foster children. Many of them very sterotypical stories. We feel very judged. Like we are not thinking about our son.
Have any of you experienced this?
I know I need to be realistic. There WILL be problems. The simple fact that the kids are in foster care will be something that will need support.
I guess I am looking for a bit of support.
Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.