Hi Mamas,
I have been putting off posting and introducing myself on this forum, since I am still coming to terms with my own feelings about the term "special needs" and how/if it will apply to my DS, born at home in June (I also have a 3.5 yo DD). I had a fast labor and home birth, and DS was born with his arm across his face and weighing 8.5 lbs. My DD had also been born this way, weighing 9 lbs., and had no issues, so DH and I didn’t think to much of it. His left arm seemed a little floppy at first and my MW said it resembled an Erb’s Palsy, except his delivery had not been traumatic – far from it.  By the next day he was moving it just as well as the right arm. When we saw his pedi at one week, he told us it was probably a little pinched nerve that would work itself out.Â
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From the beginning, DS was nothing like his sister. To call him irritable would be a vast understatement. I kept saying that he seemed “ill at ease in his body” and our homeopath even suggested that he looked a little shocked to be earthside. We eventually settled on calling it colic, as imprecise as that seemed to be. We battled thrush, mastitis (twice), and postpartum depression, quite unexpectedly. Around 4 weeks or so, we noticed he kept his left hand fisted and his fingers (except his thumb) were quite tight. We were referred to EI, OT, and a pedi neurologist. The initial “diagnosis” was that it was likely a brachial plexus injury that he sustained when his arm got caught when he rotated into position for birth. The treatment was OT and an MRI at 6 months if there was no improvement by then. OT loosened up his hand dramatically, but he did not regain any function in his fingers and so four weeks ago we had an MRI which indicated a massive right side stroke that occurred prenatally. When I saw the images, I nearly passed out – almost the entire right side of his brain was affected, including the cerebral cortex and parts of the internal capsule and thalamus on that side.Â
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According to the pedi neuro, the stroke occurred early (in terms of brain development), likely around 30 weeks. This means that the parts of his brain that were affected did not yet have any specialized function attached to them – and that the rest of his brain could take over those jobs that were destined for the injured area. So the area where the stroke occurred is now filled with cerebral spinal fluid which will not be reabsorbed.
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Prognosis seems good, as far as these things go, I guess. He will likely have trouble with fine motor skills on the left hand, and those fingers will always be slower and clumsier. Other than the fingers, the rest of his left side seems to have recovered almost completely. Since the stroke encompassed the frontal and parietal lobes of his brain, he may have some difficulties with visual-spatial skills – reading maps, following complicated directions somewhere, and possibly with handwriting, at least initially. The doctor believes that his cognition and language will be normal.
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We are continuing with OT and he started PT two weeks ago. We are also getting cranio-sacral work done (our chiro came to the house when he was a day old to start working on him – how amazing is she?). Technically, because there is a motor delay involved, this is cerebral palsy, but the doctor prefers to say he suffered a prenatal stroke since it is more specific and since CP encompasses such a wide spectrum.
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I am so grateful that we learned what happened when we did, rather than earlier, as it enabled me to continue with my pregnancy and to provide my son with the gentlest possible entrance into the world. I am also grateful for breastfeeding, co-sleeping, and babywearing as they have enabled me to provide DS with a more connected and nurtured transition. He is now a happy, fat, 7 mo. old who has reached all of his developmental milestones so far.
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I am here to make connections and find support and information from other parents. I am especially interested in connecting with others who may have children with similar issues. Thank you for reading this far and I look forward to getting to know you as mt family embarks on this journey.Â







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