A ghost visited me and ds slept through the night for the first time ever. How is this?

[Koalamom]

A month or so ago a friend had commit suicide and visited my bedside for hours the night after he CS.  We visited for a long time, and for the first time ever 18 month olds ds (co sleeping, breastfeeding 5-10 times a night) slept through the night.  And he did the same for the next 2 nights.  Then after that, he hasn't since.  Help me understand how this happened and why?  I now wonder if I am creating a spiritual enviroment that makes ds wake up? 

[Koalamom]

Bump!  No thoughts on this- perhaps I posted in the wrong forum?  No dream experts around?

[~Boudicca~]

I have no advice to offer but I think your story is rather fascinating.

[Koalamom]

Yes a very fascinating experience.  Even more neat is we visited for a long time but no words were spoken, we spoke with feelings.  I never did that before but it was amazing.  His visit has made a very big impact on my life spiritually today.

[Koalamom]

I am still trying to figure this out but some more to piece things together for me - I went and saw a newish therapist and we spent some time talking about what this ghost friend was about and I really interalized things during our therapy session.  And what do you know, ds slept amazing again last night.  Still trying to figure this out...

[Panserbjorne]

no answers, but I would never discount how much our emotions affect those around us.  I'm thinking of you and hope you're feeling good! 

[Momma Moo Martin]

I can't really help explain this but I can share an experience of mine.  My daughter is 2 years old and still wakes up at least a couple times throughout the night.  Several months ago, I received Reiki through a long-distance session before bedtime and my daughter slept peacefully the entire night without waking up.  It was also the best night's sleep I've personally had in years and not just because my little girl wasn't waking up.

[SamuraiMom]

I think your friends presence calmed you in your sleep and in turn your LO sensed your calm and slept peacefully as well. It says a lot about you and your DS's connection. 

[Nicole730]

I don't have any experience or expertise, but I agree with PPs.  Sounds like your relaxed and content self was passed on to your son.

[desertrose]

what a blessing to both be visited by your friend, AND have your ds sleep through the night. It sounds like you've been going through an overwhelming time.

I'd like to think your friend has something to do with ds sleeping. While your emotions definitely affect things... I think there's got to be more to it.

either way, that is just lovely.

[Koalamom]

Originally Posted by desertrose 

what a blessing to both be visited by your friend, AND have your ds sleep through the night. It sounds like you've been going through an overwhelming time.

I'd like to think your friend has something to do with ds sleeping. While your emotions definitely affect things... I think there's got to be more to it.

either way, that is just lovely.

Yeah I do think that there was something brought by my friend and I didn't feel an extra peace and relaxation, but it was just a nice visit. I would love to recreate what happened energy wise so perhaps ds could sleep through the night again. Still I have noticed that the energy around is just better from some serious life changes I have made due to the ghost visit.

[Panserbjorne]

that's wonderful!  Do you feel comfortable talking about it a bit more?

[Koalamom]

It doesn't bother me at all but I have not mentioned it to his parents so it is fine sharing here as I think they have no idea even what MDC is.

I was not that close to this 20 yr old named Hans. I dated his brother for a bit and my brother is married to hans' sister. So we kind of know each other. He was experiencing alot of religious struggles and was in deep depression for about a month before taking his life. I heard he took his life the morning after it happened, and all that day I was praying for him. I felt a connection to him. That night, I was praying alot more and that is when ds slept through the night. I was in half dream world as I saw him in front of me and we spoke only with emotions. We didn't say any words, but the feelings for example "I understand your feelings", but not saying that with words. Then he would respond with what he was feeling- a longing to be filled. I have had evil experiences with ghosts, but this was in no way a bad feeling at all. Some people would assume it would be evil since he commit suicide, but it was not that way at all. I think we "spoke" for hours but time didn't exist. And finally I woke up as I was kind of awake already, and there he was at the foot of my bed. He had a heavy mound on his back kind of like a trench coat over his should look, but I think alot of that was emotional symbolism. I felt his longing again, and I felt connected so much as we both share many of the same feelings of sadness. Then I waved my hand in front of my face and said out loud with real words this time, "go in peace". At that instant he was gone, and I couldn't sleep any longer and had to get up to think about what happened.

I decided not to tell his family as alot of his feeling were against his family, and when I told his sister (my sister in law) she was quite offended that he came to me and not to close family. But you see I realized that his visit was for 1- to be noticed, and 2 -to share his feeling with someone who understood. And who knows how many other people he visited and how many of them could not see him. I have seen many people that have past and am sensitive to it.

He wanted to be free and I felt it. I hope he finds freedom now. What I take away from this is his religious issues and I would never have considered leaving my religion until now and I am in the process in changing every bit of religious worship/personality. If it weren't for him visiting me, I would still be in this religious rut I was in. He took his life as he was in this rut and saw no way out. He had not a bit of support and and there is alot more to this. Luckily I have tons of support from my loving dh. I am in no way saying suicide solves problems, but I feel for the young man and find what he did motivating for me to live the life I have longed to live and never could before.

[momtoS]

My brother recently took his life. I would love a comforting visit like this. Thanks for sharing

[Koalamom]

Mom2S, I am so sorry. I don't have much else to say but that we need to have no judgment- only love, and learn form their mistakes. I will be praying for you and your brother.

[Tuesday]

I've had two different experiences very similar to yours. In both cases, the person died young and unexpectedly and one death was a suicide. Each person came to me in different ways but the experiences were so profound, so unique - unforgettable.  I can't explain though why your child would sleep well that particular night.  Many reasons, I suppose.  It's a remarkable thing, when this happens (both the visit and the sleeping through the night! lol!)

[Tuesday]

I'm so sorry.  A good friend of mine killed himself quite violently.  I had a visit .. don't want to explain on the forum ... it was definitely not a dream, though.  I thought about writing a letter to his family to give them comfort but then later thought they might just become angered or frightened.  I do hope, momtoS, your family finds some comfort after such a great loss as your brother's death.

 

Originally Posted by momtoS 

My brother recently took his life. I would love a comforting visit like this. Thanks for sharing

[justKate]

mom2S, I'm sorry for your loss. My cousin lost her teenaged son in an accident years ago, and while she continues to speak to him, he only visited his brother shortly after he passed.  Her son communicated with her differently, and was able to give her comfort.  I hope that you're also able to find comfort in the wake of your loss.