Doubledutch, that's an interesting one. I hope someone else can help you with the answer ... I'm not too sure!
Gillian28, awesome!! Things are going pretty fast (in a good way) with your online guy, that's like three meetings in a week or so isn't it?
PM, it sounds so romantic... I'm happy for you and Tech Guy! I hope it keeps going strong.
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Ok so what i've been doing with LCG and 'the rules' (of no initiating contact) seems to BE WORKING!! After a pattern of no contact for days and calling once or twice a week, he has phoned me three times in twenty four hours! None of the calls, I took (not game-playing, just was genuinely busy) and I think that's good because I always 'leaped' on the phone before. I did call him back a few hours after the first one, and we had a GREAT chat and I was really feeling it from him, he was saying a few times how much he missed me and couldn't wait to see me, and how only seeing me in 9 days time was just not soon enough, etc. When I spoke to him I really focused on the positive in my life this week (another tip I've picked up), I think sometimes I was quite 'poor me' with him before, if things weren't feeling so great in my life, but I was upbeat, although not fake.
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Anyway he apologised for not being in contact and when he explained what his work hours had been (like appointments from 8 am, client dinners till late, etc) it was totally understandable. I realised that he is just NOT a text/email guy - he's a face to face and phone person. And when he doesnt have time to phone and talk to me properly, he thinks 'I'll call her when I have time', and that looks to me like 'no contact'. One of my best friends is like that too, and I often doubted if she gave a s**t about me, but after a few conversations about it I realised that she loved me and cared for me, but that was just the way she was. She just wasn't attached to the end of her phone like some people (like me!) are. ANyway, so the last voice messages he left me, he explained his exact movements for the rest of the day and said he could talk to me after that - it's like he's really keeping me up to speed with where he's at - and the second one, he suggested taking time out from work and coming up (an hour away) to meet me for lunch on Monday (coincedance that it's V-Day? I wonder!). I think he's making a lot more effort - I'm thrilled! I had been dampening down my feelings for him b/c I was feeling so insecure about it all, but now I'm feeling more relaxed.
And btw I did watch 'He's just not that into you' finally yesterday and cried through some of it - the marriage bits - realising how much I do just want someone who really commits to me and maybe even marries me. Although my ex (father of my son) and I were engaged, he of course turned out to be SO not 'the guy' - addict, etc. But it just reminded me of those shattered dreams, of being married and settling down etc.
  
