I took my intact son for his four month checkup last Friday. I mentioned to him that when bathing, his foreskin still appears to be very tight, and if this was ok. I should add that I have never retracted or used any force on his foreskin. Up until then, the doctor's advice had been "just pull on it a little bit, not too much". When I found that I couldn't pull on it at all, this is what led to me asking the doctor about it.
The doctor then proceeded to tell me that when they circumcise, the foreskin is fully retracted, so doing it now is the same thing. I have since learned that obviously a circ removes the skin, whereas a forced retraction on an intact penis can cause adhesions to form. So my son's foreskin was fully retracted, and the doctor told me everything looked fine. I didn't really think too much about it until I noticed that it was slightly red and inflamed at the end. This led me to googling, reading all of the info about this and basically obesessively worrying that I have allowed my son to be harmed.
I'm very confused that the Pediatrician did this because he was trained in England, where circ rates are very low. You would think that he would know how to handle an intact penis.
I'm really interested in hearing from parents who have had this experience. Specifically how they cared for the penis in the months/years afterward and if there were any problems or infections following the retraction, and if the foreskin naturally separated after the forced retraction, and when.
I am thinking of switching Pediatricians and getting a referral to a urologist, just to check that everything is ok.
Thanks you so much in advance for all help and guidance.