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post #141 of 347

Hey All, Happy Valentine's Day!stillheart.gif

 

I have had a hard time as usual keeping up with posts.  I've been reading though!

 

It's toooo funny that Taxlady and Calycanth think Eli is sweet!  Ha ha ha ha!  Ok, he is but he's bratty as all get out!ROTFLMAO.gifTank, you've got it right, though.  Jackson is a sweetie, except when he's trying to eat all the dogs he sees on the street.  Your guys are so cute, and I'm jealous of your land!  We are pretty tight here in the city, and my dogs would love more space.  Caly, your Kitters is a sweetie!

 

Hykue, Bel, Caly, Cristini, the weight issue is big with me.  I'm not obese but overweight and having such a hard time getting it under control....I tend to eat junk on the sly, and too much of it. It sucks.  But I'm hearing that I'm not the only one! 

Hykue, thanks for your explanation of mulit and quote but I'm still confused.  I'll figure it out eventually.

 

Bel, totally understand the way you feel about your friend being pregnant.  It's like this bitter happiness and longing.  I totally get it and I feel like we all probably do.

 

Amber,dust.gifto you!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Ramzubo, Shannon, Val, wave.gif

 

 

CD 12 here.  DP being a huge butthead and I'm grumpy too.  irked.gif OPK neg today but expected that.  Don't hardly FEEL like any BD right now!

post #142 of 347

Happy Valentine's Day!!!!!

 

I won't be getting in any lovin' today though...stupid witch!! Hahahaha...she totally taught me a lesson though. Don't pee on anything until you truly expect it to be the answer you want it to be.

 

So I bought the digis...I got home and hid them away in a cabinet so I wouln't be tempted. I knew I had one crappy blue dye left, and that was making my mind say "just use it! Come onnnn, you know you want to! Now you have those "others" and it won't matter if you use this one up!"...so I caved. I peed on it. It was negative. We started to watch a movie, and I got up to pee about two hours later and there she was...I was so mad at myself. Seriously. Had I just stuck to my usual plan of POAS by this morning if she didn't come, I would have been much happier. Then here's the real kick in the gut. I got a text from my friend at 9AM yesterday morning (we started temping together) and she's pregnant. I was settled and calm with my period coming...I was okay with it. Then I got the text. That broke me. I cried, and was unhappy all day. Even got into a fight with DH about it. He thought it was something he did, but how do I say "I'm sad I'm bleeding and my friend isn't"? That just sounds so bad to actually SAY out loud to someone else who doesn't go through this. I mean he "does", but not on this personal of a level. He doesn't see and feel it...it's not fun. Physically I'm fine. No cramps, no real complaints. Emotionally, I'm tortured. So last night he wished me a Happy Valentine's Day (he's working the night shift tonight) and I let a tear slip. So he tried to assure me by saying "You said yourself! Our chances of getting pregnant each cycle are only 20%! I don't even win a free soda when my chances are that good! Do you want me to get tested?". I had to laugh a little...he's right. I'm just mostly bummed that it wasn't me sending a text to my good friends who are TTC to share the news. Oh well, maybe I'll have an 11/11 baby? thumb.gif

 

And my little sister has 5 weeks and 2 days until her scheduled C-section.

 

Shannon, I haven't run a full marathon, and I don't think I have the attention span to actually do one, ever, but I'd like to do a 1/2 one one day. Right now, I just run 5ks a couple times a week...I'm in the process of doing the 5k-10k upgrade though! Any tips?!

 

So, does anyone else here not really check their CM? I notice it if it's on my underwear or toilet paper, but I don't go "checking". I'm thinking of trying the grapefruit juice experiment this month, do any of you ladies have any stories or thoughts on that? I'm hoping to see lots of EWCM so I can definitively check that box off on my chart!

 

Anyone have any big plans for today? I'm not a big V-day celebrator, but we'll be going to a comedy club this weekend, so that should be fun!!

post #143 of 347

cristini,

i have had that exact experience.  in fact, last time one of my friends told me she was pregnant.  the silent cry. while on the phone. i totally get it.

i also don't really "go checking", except right around now, CD 12-16.  last night had a whole lot of EWCM and it was kinda gross.

what is the grapefruit juice thing?

post #144 of 347

cristini - So sorry AF came. :( Although11/11/11 baby sounds ridiculously auspicious, no matter what god or gods you believe in. :)

 

As for running, the major thing for me has been to schedule out a whole training plan on my calendar. I put every training session up from start to race day, and when I missed one I crossed it out. It had a psychological effect.

 

And I love love love my heart rate monitor. I have a fancy GPS one now, but when I trained for my first half I had a $35 timex. Instead of listening to my body (and stopping whenever if hurt a little), I listened to my HR. I have never "failed" in a run since then. I know that if my HR goes to high, I need to back off. Speed is not a consideration during training, just HR. Speed workouts are good, but the rest of training are strictly HR-based. 

 

All that, plus eating a lot of good good food. It's really a lost cause to workout a lot and try to go longer/faster without fueling. 

 

I tried to check my CM so I could get used to it leading up to TTC (I've been "preparing" to TTC for a year now ha ha.) But no, I don't. It's not fun. I'm guessing if I'm here in a few more months, I'll be checking obsessively...

 

AFM: I have a strong urge to pick up a FRER tonight. I have ICs at home. Is that dumb? Maybe AFf will be here before I have the chance. ???

post #145 of 347

Hi everyone...back home. Thanks for the birthday wishes.

I'm just feeling a little down. Had a good time at the concert but the rest of the trip was marred by really nasty allergies that have left me feeling like I have a cold or sinus infection. Furthermore, i am at CD 28 and all of a sudden have EWBJ? So confusing, need to take an opk sometime today I guess? I have no idea, this is so weird. On soy my cycles were 28 days long. Left on my own, they were more like 33-35. Feel like I messed up this month, no trying, no idea what was happening in my body. Just also feeling a little sorry for myself for various other reasons.

 

More importantly, love to all and I am going to post kitty pics galore a little later. Loving seeing everyone's furbabies. :) They do help, don't they? :)

post #146 of 347
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Originally Posted by catheleni View Post

cristini,

i have had that exact experience.  in fact, last time one of my friends told me she was pregnant.  the silent cry. while on the phone. i totally get it.

i also don't really "go checking", except right around now, CD 12-16.  last night had a whole lot of EWCM and it was kinda gross.

what is the grapefruit juice thing?


I would love to just feel kinda gross and know...no need to scoop and swab...hahaha...I've read about grapefruit juice causing you to have more fertile CM (or BJ winky.gif) but I've never tried it. There's even a video on You Tube of a lady who tried it and then "checked" every couple of hours and reported back on what she saw. She definitely got fertile juice!! It took about 6-8 hours to peak (I think, if I remember correctly). I figured it can't really hurt, it's cheap, and I'm not a BJ Checker, so maybe, just maybe, this would give me the kinda gross amount I'm hoping for? I think I'll give it a whirl this month...
 

 



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cristini - So sorry AF came. :( Although11/11/11 baby sounds ridiculously auspicious, no matter what god or gods you believe in. :)

 

As for running, the major thing for me has been to schedule out a whole training plan on my calendar. I put every training session up from start to race day, and when I missed one I crossed it out. It had a psychological effect.

 

And I love love love my heart rate monitor. I have a fancy GPS one now, but when I trained for my first half I had a $35 timex. Instead of listening to my body (and stopping whenever if hurt a little), I listened to my HR. I have never "failed" in a run since then. I know that if my HR goes to high, I need to back off. Speed is not a consideration during training, just HR. Speed workouts are good, but the rest of training are strictly HR-based. 

 

All that, plus eating a lot of good good food. It's really a lost cause to workout a lot and try to go longer/faster without fueling. 

 

I tried to check my CM so I could get used to it leading up to TTC (I've been "preparing" to TTC for a year now ha ha.) But no, I don't. It's not fun. I'm guessing if I'm here in a few more months, I'll be checking obsessively...

 

AFM: I have a strong urge to pick up a FRER tonight. I have ICs at home. Is that dumb? Maybe AFf will be here before I have the chance. ???


I'm dying for a HR monitor!!! My husband uses a Body Bug, but it doesn't track HR, otherwise I'd get one too. I need to find one that is either lightweight or small enough so I don't really notice it. When I play the kinect and have to wear the one around my arm it's totally distracting and slips off...I've heard good things about a Timex one, but the one I think I saw was more like $106 or $110...Right now it's waaay too cold to run outside, I think my lungs would freeze, but it should be warming up soon, so I'm looking forward to running outside again. We just moved and this new neighborhood needs some exploration! I do miss my old route though.... guilty.gif  Do you ever wonder about TTC and exercising so much? I'm not even close to being underweight, and I'm hoping to lose like 30 pounds getting back to my weight lifting/running routine...
 

 



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Originally Posted by bootsvalentine View Post

Hi everyone...back home. Thanks for the birthday wishes.

I'm just feeling a little down. Had a good time at the concert but the rest of the trip was marred by really nasty allergies that have left me feeling like I have a cold or sinus infection. Furthermore, i am at CD 28 and all of a sudden have EWBJ? So confusing, need to take an opk sometime today I guess? I have no idea, this is so weird. On soy my cycles were 28 days long. Left on my own, they were more like 33-35. Feel like I messed up this month, no trying, no idea what was happening in my body. Just also feeling a little sorry for myself for various other reasons.

 

More importantly, love to all and I am going to post kitty pics galore a little later. Loving seeing everyone's furbabies. :) They do help, don't they? :)


Sorry about the allergies, Boots!!! And I understand the feeling...hug2.gif...I'm going to go check out your chart...

 

In the meantime, here's a pic of my furbaby...he got the green blanket for Christmas from my Aunt and doesn't like to go anywhere without it. He sleeps wrapped up in it and even leaves it on his back like a cape when walking around. I <3 him... It's not the best pic of him, but it was one I had on top on my work computer...

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post #147 of 347

HAPPY BIRTHDAY BOOTSIE BOOTS!!  birthday.gif  I'm sorry you aren't feeling well and it sort of made the trip less fun.  I HATE that, you're all pumped up to go and then something happens.. I know the disappointment.  As for your cycle.. I sometimes get a little BJ close to AF.  I know that is not the best news, but I don't think anything is messed up.  Be my cycle buddy love.gif

 

You too Cristini - and boy oh boy do I know what you are talking about with the happy for them, but sad for you feeling.  And testing early and crying to DH who only can say.. it will happen.  And people that are excited for themselves tend to not think about being sensitive to others.  I also have been a situation where someone tells me they're pregnant early like to say.. it will happen for you too.  Yeah, thanks everyone... uhoh3.gif

 

CALY - I vote for you to rule the universe.  I'll take a 3 day weekend.. thank you very much!!

 

Bel718 - I've loved your positive attitude.  Again, pregnancy announcements are tough.. I'm surrounded.

 

Ramzubo.. Of course, aren't we all pretty princesses? 

 

  wave.gif to all my other BJC ladies.. I'm off to go stalk charts.. bigeyes.gif

post #148 of 347

I just wanted to get in on the fur-baby pictures! 

 

Here are a couple of Spice... she's a bit tempermental and believes she's queen of the house.  She's also the cat that hisses at crying babies. 

 

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Here are a couple of Nutmeg.  She was a stray my vet-tech friend talked me into talking.  She's the complete opposite on Spirce - She loves EVERYONE and purrs non-stop.  She also has some issues, though, I'm guessing insecurity issues, and occasionally pees on the wall.  Anti-depressants seem to keep her in check.  She a sweetie! 

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post #149 of 347

Spice and Nutmeg - You are so cute!  Simon and Johnbrown love boxes too! 

 

Oh and Cathelini.. My DH isn't being that cool today either.. he thought "no gifts" for Valentine's Day.. meant IGNORE IT ALL TOGETHER.  I figured mentioning it was V-Day not less than 5 times over the weekend would have clued him in.. nope.. dumba$$.. LOL!  Men...

post #150 of 347

I am joining this forum to be more informative....Baby dust to all.  I'm 30, my DH is 43, and we are TTC #1 for .the past 5yrs,I could go for straight 6 month without AF.I was given BCPs by my gyno and said this will only make me bleed like every other woman and wl nt get me pregnant...(very mean,was looking as if why is she not crying when she was telling me all d shit abt premature menupause.hormones imbalance...arggggghhhh...Devils incanate...I dnt like her!!!)Finally got to know by BRICHOLE(member on MDC) that i needed to see an RE after having done a comprehensive test and found out my Hormones are inbalance and it was called Premature menupause(I reject it IJN) I Have an appointment with her tomorrow..  I really hope this will work and work soon.  I just claim this year with everybreath in me!!!

post #151 of 347

Welcome Ceccy-It sounds like it has been rough for you, wishing you good luck with your appointment!

 

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post #152 of 347

Hey ladies.  Hope everyone is having a lovely V-Day.  Mine has been very low-key.  DH got me a single rose, and I got him some black cherry licorice hearts, and now he's making tacos. orngtongue.gif

 

Ramzubo, I'm really glad to have a 2WW buddy!  fingersx.gif for you.  I know you're not feeling terribly optimistic, but that seems to be when it happens for a lot of people.  I'll be optimistic for you.

 

Boots, happy birthday!  I'm glad you enjoyed your trip and sorry to hear you're feeling down.  Being sick as often as you have been would take a toll on anyone.  hug.gif  I hope you feel better soon.  I don't know what to tell you about the late-cycle EWBJ.  Since I never get EWBJ, I have no wisdom to share. I can't wait to see pictures of your kitties (and Val, yours are adorable!).  I would get another one if DH was down with it, but he thinks one is enough.

 

Cristinimartini and Bel, we have all been there!  hug2.gif I think men just don't get it - TTC isn't the same for them as it is for us.  They get to have more sex than usual, but otherwise their routines are not disturbed.  We obsess over symptoms and take tests and live in fear of our periods.  It's really not fair.

 

Taxlady, I'm on it!  As for your DH, duh.gif indeed!  Actually, I don't think my DH would have done anything if I hadn't reminded him about two dozen times.  Eh, men.

 

Ceccy, welcome!  I hope you and the RE are able to figure things out.

 

So, I saw my midwife about my spotting today.  Meh.  I still don't like her.  She suggested I try progesterone cream and come back in a few months if I'm still not pregnant.  That's more or less what I expected to hear, but interacting with her is sooo awkward.  I can't imagine being comfortable with her in the delivery room, so I think I'm going to look for a new provider.  I know our local hospital has nurse-midwives on staff, but I haven't been able to find any information on them (other than the fact they exist).  I hate looking for health care providers - it's such a pain - but I don't want to stick with someone who doesn't feel right to me.

 

I don't want to go to work tomorrow.  We're understaffed right now, and I have a feeling my boss is going to ask me to work Thursday morning (I'm currently scheduled 12-8 that day).  Normally that would be fine, but Thursday is my birthday (I'll officially be TTC in my 30's!).  DH is leaving for a conference that afternoon, and we were planning to go to brunch.  Since I don't have any other birthday plans, I'm going to be sad if we have to cancel.

 

OK, I think that's just about enough whining for one evening. shy.gif

post #153 of 347
Thread Starter 

Hey, all.  Happy Valentines day, and HAPPY BIRTHDAY BOOTS!

 

I've been feeling pretty awful the last couple of days, so I haven't been posting at all.  I'm feeling a little better now, but still not great, so I'm not going to do any fancy multiquoting.  Not too much sick, just depressed.  Not even about TTC, really.  Just in general.  I think I'm pulling out of it, but it was some nasty yesterday.

 

Sorry AF found so many of us (four, I think?).  That's a real crapper.  On to the next try, though.  Lots of time, we've got lots of time.  I just keep telling myself - in the short run, our odds are not very high, but in the long run they're very high indeed.

 

Welcome to three new members as well!  I'm a little slow just now, but I will get you added.

 

I can't remember who asked about EWBJ late in their cycle (Boots?) but I think it is fairly common right before AF.  Also, I had a lot of creamy CM in my pregnant cycle.  Quantities like for the fertile period, just not the same texture.  I think some people get EWBJ late in pregnancy cycles.  Not to get your hopes falsely up, just for information.

 

I'm trying so hard to resist the roller-coaster this round.  This morning (8DPO) my temp was really low.  That happened last month too, and I got AF at 10DPO.  On the other hand, I didn't have diarrhea this morning (which I usually do before AF), and I had tingly nipples today.  So I'm trying to just stay on an even keel.  In some ways, I'm afraid that my temp WILL go back up tomorrow, because then I won't be able to resist feeling excited, and I'm sick of the ups and downs.  Sorry I can't be more fun for people to obsess with in my 2ww.  I think I actually do better during AF than I do during the late 2ww.  At least during AF I can hope for everyone else without being too invested in the result.  Wow, I'm just realizing that if this is me feeling better, I was in a really bad way yesterday.  I literally went back to bed to cry, and my sweet husband did the perfect job of helping me feel better without making me feel like he was pushing me or rejecting me for being depressed.  So, yay him!  And I did get better and was productive even though I didn't feel like it, and it made me feel better, so yay me!

 

Thanks for all the critter pictures, I love to see them.  Critters always make me feel a little better.  I still am not going to get around to putting up pictures of my cat or goats (or my pretty donkeys either) because I just really don't have the gumption.  But I will soon.

 

Sorry to be such a downer, I'm sure I'll be back up again before too long.  My husband suggested I start some flower seedlings, and I think that will help a lot.  I love to have the little ones growing in my windowsill . . . they are so hopeful and spring-like, and they need me, and I like the flowers they make later too!

 

I'm planning to start "Stage 1" of the elimination diet soon - this part is really not much of an elimination diet - this book recommends starting with a healthy diet first, including possible sensitive foods like wheat and milk, but excluding coffee, tea, sugar, chocolate, cured meats, very ripe cheeses (think Limberger), alcohol, food additives (which excludes take-out and fast food), spicy stuff, papaya, pineapple, and aspirin.  Yes, that's an exhaustive list.  I don't drink caffeinated stuff (much) or alcohol (pretty much ever) anyway, I can live without chocolate, cured meats, ripe cheeses, and spicy stuff - most of them are pretty easy.  Sugar is hard, because it includes dried fruit - I could eat dried fruit every day and be quite happy with it, so that one is a bit hard.  And the food additives thing means I'm not supposed to eat mayonnaise or crackers or pretty much any packaged food.  If I were more on the ball, that might be easier, so I'll have to get more on the ball.  I'm making lentil soup right now, and I made hummus from scratch (it was easy!) but then ate it on crackers.  So I'm not there yet.  Anyway, I hope that this "healthy diet" stage will take care of my depression and gassiness, and then I won't have to move on to Stage 2, which is a bit harder.  It's the true elimination diet stage.  I'm thinking that the frozen pizza that I just had to have on Friday might explain my feeling like such junk yesterday (Saturday wasn't great either, but it was a picnic compared to yesterday!)  If so, it seems like food additives are a good bet for what causes me the problems, and that should really be pretty easy to fix.  I really hope that's it, because all my cognitive therapy stuff didn't help at all yesterday, because there was NO reason that I was depressed.  I couldn't find the errors in my negative thoughts, because I didn't even really have negative thoughts, I just wanted to lie in bed and cry.

 

So, hopefully in the next day or two I'll be able to get back on my feet properly, and I'll come back and post to all you wonderful ladies!

 

Take care!

post #154 of 347

Cathleni - Thank you!  I totally ate crappy this evening...oh well.  DH cooked a big V-Day dinner.  I will lose weight next week...haha  Hope you are DH are feeling better.  Being grumpy while OPK+ sucks...so hopefully OPK will be + soon and DH will be less grumpy.

 

Cristinimartini - sorry AF came.  hug2.gif  For that and the gut kicking.  If it makes you feel any better I POAS today knowing it would be negative, but thought it would be a very cool thing on V-Day.  AF isn't due for another week.  We just do those things sometimes, plus I think I would have tested a bunch before AF was due so you have great will power.  bawling.gif with you...FB just announced another pregnancy.  2 in one week.  Glad you were able to laugh with DH about it in the end.  As fat as checking CM - not really.  Only when wiping after going to the bathroom...I'm not one to check my cervix either.  I've tried a couple times...its kinda hard for me.  BTW....adorable he sleeps with a blanky.

 

ShannonO - those darn FRER are so hard to avoid!

 

Boots - hug2.gif Allergies are the worst and it is hard to enjoy things when you have other things on your mind as well.  Sometimes CM can look EW but maybe its just a fluke?  Sorry I wish I could help you.  Furbabies sure do help.

 

TaxLady - Maybe we should 'hide' all females on FB to avoid them.  We will get our BFP soon.  AS far as DH, nice...I've stopped dropping flower hints.  I never get them.  But he was ubber sweet today and gave me a card that had tonight's menu inside.  I must say he can cook!

 

ValH - Oh my goodness I love Tortie's!  Dilute and regular...of DH tells me I love everything...yeah he's right.  If its an animal, I want it.

 

Welcome Ceccy!  So glad you are going to get things taken care of with RE. 

 

Rambuzo - gorgeous furbaby!

 

Thanks Calycanth!  Dudes don't get it.  I think he sees now that its hard for me and the other day he made the comment that he hopes nothing is wrong with him.  He is fine not having any children, but knows I want to.  Definitely a good idea to check other mid wives out - just doesn't sound right that she's not 'getting it' either.  I hope you don't let work take brunch away.  You need that for yourself!  (You're not whining!)

 

This is my Tripod - he lives with my mom.  He was a bottle baby.

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These are my girls - Dakodah as a puppy (Mixed Mastiff? from a rescue) and Traeden my Rottweiler.

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Mischievous girls...  winky.gif

 

post #155 of 347

Hello...Remember i hd an appointment with my RE this morning?. Just came in. After a very lengthy discussion, she took some blood for test...though i was told to come back on Friday Morning for the result. and then she dropped a line...she said i am sorry to tell you that if it happens to be Pre-mature menupause;sorry theres no treatment for that (HOW TRUE IS THAT???) and remember i told you my gyno said its called premature menupause..... I hope and pray miracle happens! DH didnot drive me there, i had to go by public transport...very unlike him...Uhmmmmm God have mercy on me... Peepzzz please help me do your findings and let me know if there are drugs to be used.(All this German Doctors ,at times you really have to remind them of some stuffs) I am seriously feeling like the whole world is on me!!! Help mi ass!!!

post #156 of 347
Ceccy: I hope someone here has some answers or can give you a bit of hope! But I would also recommend taking your post to the Bitter Sushi Ladies thread and asking it there. Some of the ladies posting in that thread have seen pretty much everything and might be able to point you in the right direction.

Hykue: I hope you feel better soon. I have always, always found february the worst month for trying to stave off depression. I bought a bunch of flower seeds yesterday as well, I agree that seeing them grow will help! And if the weather stays mild like this, soon we'll be seeing bare patches of ground... and then maybe greenery. that elimination diet sounds hard but promising - I hope it does the trick for you!

Everyone: I LOVE seeing all the furbaby pics. I'm going to try to figure out how to put up a few of mine.500
Comet the corgi pup and Tango the kitten

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Ana - this is the one critter DH brought to the equation smile.gif She is our only purely ornamental animal

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Molly, our farm overseer. Sweetest cat in the world to people, tyrant to anything with four legs!

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The Clydesdale mares, and our Gypsy Vanner stallion on the right

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Last but not least, the three stooges! Three of our Friesian mares, these are the trouble makers!

All pictures taken by Sheri Gordon of Black Horse Design!
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Hykue – Sorry you haven’t been feeling well. hug2.gif (And sorry I missed your post last night.)  Depression is the worst and its always exacerbated by what’s going on around you.  Exactly – onto the next try.  Still holding out hope though…we have to.  I’m sick of the ups and downs and the what ifs as well.  It gets old.  It’s supposed to be exciting and fun, but seems to suck the life outta me sometimes.  But again, we must press on!  Flowers make everything better, kinda like out furbabies.  They are so beautiful.  Good luck on the diet.  I guess I would be ok the first part, but chocolate?  No chocolate?  winky.gif  Hope you feel better!

 

Ceccy – I am keeping   fingersx.gif  that the test won’t be that way.  I’m sorry that I can’t give you any information.  Hope everything turns out well.

 

LivingSky – You are so lucky!  Your horses are beautiful!  (As are the adorable puppy and kitties, too!)  I would someday love to own a horse. (The bigger the better - draft crosses are gorgeous) I know they are a lot of work, but I remember my friend saying they are like giant dogs – well, hers would try to take her homework and be silly with her.  Thank you for sharing!

 

AFM - 10DPO and nothing to report.  Waiting sucks...

 

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post #158 of 347
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Ok, I'm feeling about a hundred times better today, even though it's cloudy out.  So I'm really hoping it was the frozen pizza - that would be so easy to avoid!

 

LivingSky:  I'm glad you found a home for your dog.  That must be a real relief.  Honestly I don't think my identical-looking dog actually tries to kill the chickens - she just likes to chase them and "play" with them.  Even mice and voles she catches and plays with them, and loses interest when they stop moving.  She got the border collie chase drive without the border collie no-bite drive, I think.  Only two more weeks until you get to see the sex!  You must be so excited.  Thanks for the kind words about depression and February.  I know it's probably largely seasonal, and I keep telling myself it's getting nicer - my parents' old friend (she lived to 82 and rode her horses until the very end) always said that if you made it to Valentine's Day, you were going to be okay.  I hope she was right!  The snow has actually all melted under my spruce-and-maple patch in the back yard.  No green for a while, of course (I hope not, or it will all die in the next cold snap) but I think I've seen some buds just starting to swell on the trees on south-facing slopes.  Spring will come . . . it does every year.  I just have to hold out a little longer.  I have to say, Comet is about the cutest thing ever.  I really like big dogs, but I have a special soft spot for corgis.  They're like a big dog with short legs and a kind of small body, somehow.  When I went to the animal shelter in Grande Prairie to get a dog, I actually had my sights set on an adorable corgi they had there . . . unfortunately for him (but luckily for Aria!) he hated me.  He took one look and retreated to the back of his cage, barking at me as hard as he could.  Aria, on the other hand, stood quietly at the door to her cage wagging her tail, and had a sign on her kennel that said, "I promise I'll be good, I just really want to go for a walk."  I took her, and fell in love, and informed my husband that I had found a dog and promised to take her home.  I'm glad we got her, but we were this close to getting a corgi instead.  I hope he wasn't like that with everyone, poor little guy!  Anyway, that picture of Comet and Tango is FANTASTIC!  I especially like the green grass!  orngtongue.gif  And Ana is quite attractive, so she's doing her job quite well.  Molly looks like she takes her job seriously!  She looks just like all the best mousers I've ever known, I bet she does a fine job.  I had forgotten how tall Clydesdales are, and that Gypsy Vanner fella is handome!  The picture of your Friesians looks a little like they're planning something . . .

 

Bel:  Yeah, she's a big fluffy all right.  It's the cutest, softest thing most of the year, but in the fall there are tons of burrs and seeds to get stuck in her fur, and she's just finishing shedding, and it's a nightmare.  Petsmart's alright, I liked it well enough as retail jobs go.  The people tend to be okay, you have to expect a certain number of useless teenagers to be working with you, in my experience.  But they're usually pretty nice useless teenagers.  I can scarcely believe that your family called you fatso as a term of endearment.  I mean, I understand that they didn't mean it to be cruel, but it doesn't take the mos sensitivity to realize that that's not an acceptable name for a kid!  My dad called my sister "big girl" for many years, but it had more to do with her being the older sister and having her growth spurt at the age of 8 or so.  Not that I think it made her feel any better about it.  He finally figured out about 4 years ago that maybe that wasn't appropriate "anymore".  Sigh.  He really did mean well, he just didn't get that maybe being twice the height and weight of the other kids in her class might be a source of shame for her, not just a physical fact.  shrug.gif  Anyway, it sounds like you've managed to give yourself a healthy attitude about it regardless of any help from anyone else.  My cat and dog don't love each other, either.  Unless hissing, scratching, whiny barks and sulking count as love.  Tripod looks really intense in that picture!  What a cutie!  I love how both your dogs are looking SOOOO innocent in that picture, like they could do no wrong . . . when you called them mischeivious.  I can totally see them thinking, "Who, us?"  No worries on missing my post.  There isn't much to be said when I'm feeling down anyway!  I've been working on the no chocolate thing anyway because I know it makes my menstrual cramps worse, and because I watched a horrible documentary about chocolate production (in many places, they still use slaves - they kidnap them and keep them through fear and in places they have never been so they don't know where to go even if they escape).  Now I feel really bad if I eat chocolate that's not fair trade, and it's kind of hard to find fair trade chocolate in my small town.  Furthermore, "fair trade" just means that they pay their workers, not that they pay them a good living wage.  I mean, I love my chocolate, but I just can't eat it in good conscience any more.  So it's hard to give it up, but I have multiple reasons, which makes it easier.  Thanks for the wishes for hope!

 

Birdie:  I'm sorry about AF.  Another try . . . it will happen.  I expect you might not be on for another day or two (I always need a couple days off at AF time).  We'll be here for you when you get back!

 

Mole:  I'm sorry for your AF too.  It's not that you didn't have enough sex - even with perfect timing, it doesn't take every time - in fact, I think it's still right around 20%.  So don't feel like you failed, just feel like this roll of the dice didn't come out in your favor.  You get to roll again!

 

Tickletoes:  You too, I'm sorry AF found you.  That's the part when you're glad you're busy, right?  It helps a little bit, anyway.

 

Tank:  I love your Lucy's ears.  The make her look so goofy and so ready for anything!  They are both lovely dogs, thanks for posting the links.  My parents' dog is really quite fearful-aggressive - she's never bitten anyone, but she snaps at people if they try to touch her when she's in bed.  My niece is now 2 1/2 years old, and Weenie has only snapped at her (not trying to bite, just trying to warn) once, and that was a week or two ago.  And they don't live in the same house.  Weenie was abused as a puppy, so she's pretty extreme.  If Jake is afraid of your kid, I'm thinking two things are pretty likely: 1) He'll get used to it eventually, because he'll actually be living with the kid and seeing how you care about him/her.  2) You'll be able to manage dog-kid interactions if you need to during his adjustment period - he will probably make this easier by trying to avoid the kid if he is afraid, since you will be making it clear that the kid is above him in the pack hierarchy.  I too have to try not to read too much into my dreams, and it's so hard when the kid in them looks like your partner!

 

Calycanth:  Kitters is so cute!  She looks ever-so-content there in that sunbeam.  Ah, the life of a cat, eh?  And I, too, vote you for ruler of the universe.  Weekends don't affect me personally much, but it would be nice if my mom had more time off!  I hope your 2ww is staying pretty chill for you so far.  The answer your midwife gave you was fine, but if you weren't comfortable with her manner then it makes a lot of sense to look for someone else.  I imagine we all will need all the help we can get to feel relatively comfortable when we're delivering!  I hope your boss doesn't ask you to work on your birthday morning!  I would suggest that you just say no, but I know I wouldn't be able to.

 

Catheleni:  Jackson looks an awful lot like a dog that belongs to a friend of mine - mostly his posture and expression in that first picture, and the white around the muzzle.  She's very leash-aggressive . . . I can imagine two dog-reactive dogs on leashes would be not much fun . . . but they sure are cute!  And baby has quite the eyeliner!  Nicky is a beautiful cat - almost enough to make me wish I had gotten a white-and-black instead of my brown tabby . . . maybe less grumpy, too, since you called him both sweet and joyful!  Eli looks to me like he's got attitude - I can imagine him being the boss-man.  No hurry on figuring out multi-quote, I read someone talking about it when I first joined, too, and I think I only started doing it in January - or maybe December.  Sorry about the grumpiness in your house, especially around O time . . . I think that redoubles my grumpiness, because then I'm not only grumpy, I'm grumpy that the grumpiness timing is so bad.

 

Ambers80:  Glad you came back!  Did you have any symptoms of the endometriosis, or did the doctor have to look before you knew?

 

Faerylady:  As mentioned by Calycanth (thanks for taking up the slack for me), we're happy to have you, but you might find a better fit in a thread with ladies who already have kids.  Let me know on here or by PM if you want to be added (just post anything here and I'll go ahead and add you).

 

Taxlady:  I would be delighted if your future child came here for the summer with my future child . . . my cousin came to visit from the greater LA area when I was about 7, he came up for a few weeks I think, in the summer.  He was a couple of years older than me.  Somehow we got on the topic of where mushrooms grew, and then he wouldn't eat mushrooms.  My parents told me I wasn't allowed to tell him where eggs came from!  So I will warn you, if you're going to send your kid/s here, there's a good chance that my kid/s will tell them where eggs come from.  If they can't take that, there could be trouble. smile.gif  I might have to do the reverse trade, too, to give my kid/s a taste of a city . . . and my husband can come too, he's never seen LA!  I'm glad you liked the pictures of my farm, even though they were a less-than-fantastic assortment of whatever I've uploaded for any reason!  Simon is so pretty, and John Brown looks very serious, from the little that I can see.

 

ShannonO:  You're very welcome to hang out here with us.  I don't know a whole lot about fitness and TTC - I know I did read that women who did a whole lot of exercise in early pregnancy were less likely to maintain a pregnancy - according to wikipedia the probability of miscarriage increases with exercise, before the 18th week.  I don't know about implantation probabilities - they're pretty hard to measure - but I would think they're similar.  It only talks about time spent exercising, there's a 10% higher risk of miscarriage with up to 1.5 hours of exercise, and 200% higher risk with over 7 hours a week of exercise.  As for strenuous, I would say probably finding your max heart rate is best done before O, and maybe before implantation, not in the late 2ww.  But I don't really know . . . and other non-wikipedia sources said that exercise isn't associated with miscarriage at all.  I looked all of this up when I found out I was pregnant the day after I had worked my butt off . . . and I still had to keep working at least some.  I did miscarry . . . I have no idea if the two are related or not, but I can tell you that I am going to be one lazy pregnant woman next time I get pregnant.  I'll walk, I'll do yoga, I will do minor strength exercises, but I'm not going to be doing any more running.  On the other hand, I've been so lazy in my 2wws these last few months that I can't help but wonder if maybe that's why I'm not getting pregnant - my body thinks I'm sick because it never moves!  So I've been doing moderate cardiovascular this month.  I'm going to stop now, though, as I'm 8 dpo.  For all I know, this will do about as much good as rubbing a lucky rabbit's foot, but it makes me feel better!  As for the heart rate monitor, I love mine too!  My husband tried and tried to get me into running, and I HATED it.  I always felt like a failure when I would start to feel like it was too hard, like I was some kind of wimp who couldn't even run a tiny little ways . . . so then I would stop running (ah, self-fulfilling prophecy).  DH tried and tried to get me to buy a heart rate monitor, but I thought it was a waste of money - I can take my pulse rate myself, right?  Finally I lost my watch, and didn't find it for about six months (it was on the floor in our seldom-opened storage closet, under a blanket).  I decided to get a new watch, and while I was looking I saw a heart-rate monitor.  It cost the same as a new watch, is a watch, and has a chest strap to take my heart rate.  It turns out, when I am running up a hill and feel like I'm about to keel over, that's because my heart rate is really pushing my max heart rate!  I'm not a wimp after all, I just had way too high of expectations!  I actually really like running with my monitor, much to my surprise.  I like the constant feedback.  Now if only our weather would cooperate for more than about 5 months/year!  And as far as eating, when we went on a cycle tour through California and Mexico, I calculated our caloric intake one day in the first couple of weeks, and it was something like 3800 calories EACH per day!  And I LOST body fat (which I had very little of to lose) - I gained weight, though, all in my leg muscles.  So, if you want to eat like a horse (and love every bite), just spend 5 hours a day exercising harder than you ever thought you could!  eyesroll.gif  (Everyone can fit that into their schedules, right?)

 

Ramzubo:  Definitely keep up the BDing - it's possible to get the LH surge that gives you a positive OPK without it actually triggering ovulation.  I can't remember, are you temping?  If you are, then higher temps will let you know you did O.  If you aren't, I would keep taking OPKs just to be sure it wasn't a false start.  Also, I love that second picture of your dog!  He looks so . . . regal.  Great danes are such attractive dogs, they're extreme but not weird-looking . . . I won't mention what breeds I think are weird-looking for fear someone has one of them that they haven't posted yet (none of the posted ones are weird-looking, they're all lovely and adorable), but suffice it to say that some breeds of dog look mighty weird to me . . . Great Danes are unusual-looking, but in a good way.  They have PRESENCE!  And he still looks so cheery and doggy!

 

Cristinimartini:  Sorry.  It really is a hard thing, to get the hopes up and get them dashed every month.  It sounds like your husband tried really hard to help, so that was nice, anyway.  Don't worry.  I'll say it again - our chances are pretty poor in the short run (each month), but in the long run they're very good.  I know that only helps a little, but it's true.  Also, I think the upgrade to 5-10 km is great!  I never run more than about 4 km, and that's really only in the summer.  In the winter I run nearly 2 k, whenever I feel like it, which is seldom.  Once or twice a week.  But walking through the deep snow with my dog (or, more recently, with my donkeys) is pretty good cardiovascular too!  I don't check my CM, I just note it on the thermometer in the mornings (if it's really obvious) or on my tp.  Honestly, I get pretty gross donkey, goat, dog, and chicken dirt on my hands, and I'm not 100% confident that I get it all when I wash my hands, and then I have to stand in the bathroom with my pants down waiting for my hands to finish drying and I can't actually find my cervix, and besides all of that, the few times I did try, it told me nothing different than keeping an eye on my tp.  So I don't bother to actually "check".  And I have had, one month since we started trying, a crazy amount of EWBJ.  It was a mess, but I was pretty happy about it.  Also, that's a very cute furbaby you have.  He looks so smooth!

 

Boots:  I'm glad the concert was good, I'm sorry that your allergies gave you such a hard time.  Looking forward to seeing your kitty pictures!

 

Val:  Spice looks like she's a bit of a firecracker to me . . . because I've met a tortoiseshell or two, and they always seem to be firecrackers!  She sure is beautiful, though.  I love her upside-down head in the second picture!  And Nutmeg is completely gorgeous!  I love sweet cats, and I'm not too bothered by insecurity in cats - it usually means they want to cuddle more, which I'm in favor of!  Not to keen on wall-peeing, though, I have to admit . . .

 

Ceccy:  I will add you right away.  Don't panic . . . wait until you get your results, they did those to test and see if it WAS premature menopause . . . if they were sure they wouldn't have needed to do the tests, right?  And women can get pregnant even in menopause, it just is less likely because they don't ovulate every month.  I don't have anything experience with this specifically, but someone might.  You might want to check out the "Infertility" forum if your results come back with a result you don't want.  Hugs!

 

AFM:  Well, I might need you guys to help talk me down.  I know there's a possibility I'm pregnant, but I really want to focus on the possibility that I'm not.  I truly don't know if I could take getting my hopes up only to be disappointed right now, so (I know this is a little weird) try to be just negative enough to help me temper my rising enthusiasm, please.  My temp went back up this morning.  It was low (like way below my coverline, pre-O kind of low) yesterday, and then it jumped back up this morning to the same as my other post-O temps.  I took my temp twice yesterday morning and three times this morning, and each day was quite consistent.  When I search on FF for "charts like yours" they come up as 53% ovulatory and 42% pregnancy.  That means it's less likely that I'm pregnant than that I'm not.  I will be calm about this.  I'm only 9DPO, it's way too early to get all excited.  I won't test until at the very least 13DPO, that's for sure.  I'll try to hold out until 15DPO, my recommended test date by FF.  In the meantime, calm.  Have any of you ever had such a drastic temp dip only to not be pregnant?  I know it happens (FF proved that), I just really would like some first-hand calming experience.  Last month it dipped at 8DPO, then jumped back a bit, then fell again and I got AF at 10DPO.  I really need calm.  I'm going to go and clean my house now, and try to not think about this again for about another 6 days . . . yeah, right!  But I'll try.

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Hey guys,

Val, such cute torties!!!  No wonder one is grumpy and one is a pee-pee girl...that's torties for you!  I had a long-haired tortie whom I loved to death but she peed on stuff from the day I had her to the day she passed! Well, not every day, but close!

 

cristini, your puppers is so cute!  Such a cuddly baby!  My two short-haired dogs love their beds and blankets. 

 

Taxi, DP is better.  A butthead for sure the last couple days, but going to make an appt with his therapist, because his grumpiness is damn near  all the time.  His pain because of his autoimmune thing is probably usually the culprit.

 

Hey Ceccy!  I am sorry you are dealing with so much scary information!  

I would definitely seek a second and third opinion, and what about researching alternative therapies?  I don't know very much about what you're discussing, but I'm sure there are many people going through it, too.

 

Caly, I think you should follow your gut when it comes to not loving your midwife.  My co-worker had a CNM with her baby and she just bumped heads with her all during her pregnancy.  The only time it was good was during labor, when the dad was being insensitive and the midwife put him in check. smile.gif

 

Ramzubo, hilarious pic of your Dane running with the toy in the mouth!  I was at my part-time vet job this a.m. to drop off my kitty and saw my favorite dog patient:  Roger, who is an 185 pound Mastiff.  I love big dogs!

 

Boots, seems like you need a hug2.gif.  One thing I realize as I get older and pay so attention to my cycles...my mood is such changing thing from one day to the next.  It's so hard not to be emotional with all of the baby desires on top of the regular other hormonal concerns...

 

LivingSky, such gorgeous critters!  SO lovely!  You have a corgi doing what they should be doing!  My aunt has had corgis for 20 plus years, and they really need to be busy!   Then on my mom's side, my other aunt rescued a corgi too, and he was awesome and very bossy.  Corgis are hilarious!

Also, you are right about the February thing.  I had a very difficult late Dec. and Jan.  Now I'm unearthing myself from my funk, and Hykue and Bel, that includes with eating junk!  Hykue, just take it a day at a time with that diet.  You are a trooper to take it on.  I also struggle with extreme food issues of guilt and longing as well as laziness.  There is a wonderful recipe for lentil minestrone in the book by Deborah Madison called, I think, Vegetarian Cooking for Everyone.  It is really nice.  I alter it a bit, of course.

 

Bel, so funny that your DH says you love everything, that's what mine says!  He says "everything is your favorite."  I just think I'm a positive person!  Your bottle baby is cute!  One of my three kitties was a bottle baby, too! She's nutty because of it. 

My guy also said similar things about something being wrong with him.  Specifically, "so when I go in and we find out nothing is wrong with me or you, then what?"  Caly, you know what?  Didn't you say your DH works nights?  You ever think that might be getting in the way of things?  My DH does and I think it really puts a damper on things, or at least I think that it has in the past, before we were so aware.

 

AFM, got a + OPK two hours ago.   Wish me luck! 

 

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Hykue,

I laughed when you talked about the grumpiness that being grumpy around O time causes.  So the way we are at my house.

I worked out yesterday and thought about the whole O thing.  I want to go today but I certainly don't do over 1.5 hours, more like 45.

How come you're such a statistic queen?  You seem to have all the research.  Statistics drive me crazy when they aren't what I want to hear.

What does O pain feel like?  I forgot if I did know.

You might not O even if you get an LH surge from an OPK?  UH OH!  Then what's the point? 

 

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