Originally Posted by Hykue
Val: I'm glad telling your family went so well! I think more than being hurt, my sister (and parents for that matter) would have been just plain confused if I had lied to them about it - confused that they hadn't realized I was lying, because I'm the world's worst liar. Also, they are great at supporting me, so I would rather just tell them. It's interesting to me how different this is for everyone.
Cristinimartini: I'm glad to hear the preseed is working out so well for you! Let us know how the grapefruit juice works too. I have to ask, out of sheer curiosity - is your sister having a scheduled c-section because she prefers it, or for a medical reason? I'm not asking in any kind of judgmental way, I just was wondering how that works for her. If it were me, I would only have a scheduled one if my doctor could convince me (and it wouldn't be easy) that it was medically necessary. Personally, I would rather go through any amount of effort, pain, whatever it takes, than be unconscious. I've only been knocked out once (to get out my IUD) and I was pretty scared of it. It wasn't actually that bad, but I still don't want to do it again unless I have to. But other people have other opinions on this, so I'm curious what's up with that for your sister. And I totally know what you mean about your sister's pregnancy not feeling real, since you're not there for it. I saw my sister when she was a couple of months along (and got to see the ultrasound picture), and I didn't see my best friend pregnant at all . . . so the having babies parts seem real enough to me (what with all the baby pictures and meeting both babies - one at 5 months and the other at 2 weeks), but the pregnancy part still seems kind of like a myth . . . even though I know they must have been. As to finding out the gender . . . I'm a little torn on this one. In some ways, it would be nice to find out and have a more "personal" relationship with the baby before it's born, just have a better mental image, even though it probably won't be quite accurate. In another way, it would be so entirely fun to leave it as a surprise. And my husband and I are both pretty opposed to sex/gender stereotyping, and I don't really want "blue for a boy, pink for a girl" stuff, so that might be easier if we just didn't know. But I get very impatient, and I always say, "Not knowing's the worst" - that's why I always hated the 2ww even more than I hated getting AF. At least then I knew. I flipflop on the issue, and my husband can see both sides. I guess we'll see . . . and I have a "feeling" about what sex it is - I did long before I even got pregnant. I wonder if I'm right?
ShannonO: Thanks for the tip, and that has happened before, but these last few times it wasn't the backspace key - I couldn't hit the forward button . . . it took me back a few pages but it was like it erased that I had ever been anywhere else, the forward button was greyed out. I'll just hope like heck it doesn't happen again, because I can't figure it out. And I will take all the zits and nausea necessary to keep this pregnancy, I care not a whit if I look like a sniveling drunked teenager, all zitty and throwing up . . . I guess not having that happen would be even better, but I'm really not that picky! I think that if you're only going to add one thing to your TTC routine, and you want to minimize obsession possibilities, that OPKs are a good choice. And the uterus stretching thing is kind of strange, but for me at least it kind of just feels like "something" is happening in my lower abdomen, it's hard to really feel anything specific. I really still feel a lot like it's just AF coming in a couple of days, when I'm having a bad AF month. Good luck on beating your swimming competition!
Taxlady: Well, I hope my dream comes mostly true for you then, that you get pregnant and lose some weight - but not down to 65 pounds, PLEASE! That would be awful. If you've got any inkling and the time (and it's not too early), I was wondering if you had any gender predictions for me? Just when you get a chance.
All the other people who didn't post since I last did:
Everybody: What's your favorite temperature/weather and why? I absolutely LOVE sunny spring days, so clear and sunny is my favorite weather, and it goes very well with a nice cool but pleasant temperature of about 65 - up to about 75 is fine, too. I like the sun because it makes me so cheery, whisks away any seasonal affective disorder, and those temperatures are when the sun is still low in the sky (seasonally or daily), so the light is the prettiest at those times . . . I like the same conditions in fall, too (although at the warmer end, temperature-wise - 65 feels really cold after the summer! Really cold is not my thing, because then I can't go outside to enjoy the sun (although I might just do that today, anyway) and really hot (for here, so anything above 80, really) means that the sun is overhead and everything looks harsh and unpleasant . . . and that I'm going to sweat and get dehydrated.
Everybody again: It sounds like Taxlady isn't going to have time to be next month's threadkeeper. Now taking applications for the position of March threadkeeper. Benefits include a crown (soon to be ready) and the possibility of threadkeeper's luck (worked for me!). Qualifications include typing and editing posts. Training included (I will send the threadkeeper instructions to whoever takes the position). Pay to be given in gratitude from fellow Bajingo Juice Club members. Duties are adding people to the list on the first page and changing statuses when BFP's are gotten. All applicants welcome, no previous experience required. Apply in text on this thread. The first application will get the job. Long-haired freaky people feel free to apply.
I woke up still pregnant! I think I'lll still be much more cautious, emotionally and physically, than I would have been if I hadn't had a loss, but I'm feeling pretty good about it now. I feel like I can finally start to get excited. Also, I went and made an appointment at the clinic, and I don't know if I'm lucky or if they only schedule with the one doctor for prenatal stuff, but I got in with the BEST doctor I've ever met! I saw him at my "preconception" visit - which was actually my pre-anesthesia visit for getting my wandering IUD out - and he was incredibly helpful, spent a long time discussing conception and marriage maintenance after baby with me, and also reasssured me about how the IUD was almost certainly just migrated too high, not embedded in my uterus, and that even if it was embedded, I could still get pregnant after it was removed. I also read reviews of him on some site where patients rate doctors, and he had ONLY good reviews, with the exception that he sometimes keeps patients waiting (which in Canada is ALWAYS the case), and in his case it's because he is so thorough and so careful to put people at ease. Even the negative "timeliness" reviewers said so! If I'm lucky enough to get him at the hospital to catch my baby, I swear I'll be 10X as relaxed as I would be otherwise.
Phew! I hope you ladies don't mind that I just went on and on . . . I know it might be a bit much, but I've been sharing my fears with you, so I wanted to share my relief too!