Queer & Pregnant: February & March - Page 21

[seraf]

Gumshoe, sorry you're feeling sick.  Sounds like good signs, tho.  Osh was posterior until labor and it wasn't fun.

Wehrli, moving right along you are!  Planning a homebirth?

CJ, I took calcium for my legs.  I was warned not to take too much, tho, because it can make the baby "floppy" at birth.

Library, I'm still waiting for nursery pics!  I've never had a nursery, so I have to live vicariously.  I love the name Myrtle, by the way, but Sara would never let me.

Escher, glad the folks reacted well.  How did you tell them?  We still don't know how to tell Sara's folks.  And no, not finding out the gender, not planning an ultrasound.  Read some silly gender prediction stuff in Oct DDC, so I might pee on some cabbage juice or baking soda.  Chinese gender predictor says girl.  Had a girl dream last night but it was Ari half the dream and some other little girl the other half.  And then I dreamed that I had to insem, couldn't find a syringe, so I was going to use a toothbrush (WTF?) but then I couldn't find my dorm room and had to stop Angel from riding the elevator that would turn him bad...... I am so freaking tired.

2ez, YAY YAY YAY!  Welcome!  We are going to have to come visit sometime this summer.  How about July?  I don't think I have anything planned for July yet.  Maybe we could meet in Nashville or something?

Starling, my job change is the opposite of yours, very slow paced.  I feel like I'm getting fat twice as fast because I'm not moving enough anymore.  My new job is way more physical, less running around, but more rolling and pulling.  I am thrilled that I'm not smelling nursing home anymore, but I really miss my demented old ladies.

AmandaHope, I'm sorry for your loss.  I hope you enjoy seeing your family, despite the sad situation that brought it on.

Edited by seraf - 3/24/11 at 9:12am

[justrose13]

seraf, you and your dreams! lol!! love them. yes, we are planning a homebirth! HURRAY for staying home!!! i can't wait to crawl into bed from the tub with this baby in my arms! really, i just can't wait, it sounds like the best thing in the world!!

[LibraryLady]

Seraf~ HA! That's a great dream!! I especially like the fact that Angel was involved. And yes, Myrtle's a great name, along with Mabel, but probably no.  Oh, and for what it's worth, the Chinese predictor and my dreams were all accurate in predicting my girl.  Just sayin'.

Wehrli~ Your birth sounds ideal. I hope it happens just as you plan!

[gumshoegirl007]

Well I'm moving on from Q&P and an April baby was not to be.  No sadness here as we welcomed our beautiful daughter - Addison Alexis Réal - into the world at 3:30 am this morning, March 24.  We had an awesome home birth and she weighed 6lbs11oz. Contractions started up around 7 pm, and I timed my first one at 7:40pm.  They were 8 minutes apart and 45 seconds on average.  We called our midwife and doula at 11 pm, they arrived at 12 pm and after 3 good pushes Addi popped out at 3:30 am.  I'd actually completed transition and was ready to push around 2:30 am, but we were waiting for the second midwife to arrive (the one who was supposed to come was at the hospital with another mother).  I'll definitely write the proper birth story later - it was short, fierce, intense and absolutely worth it.

DW is an infant natural - she's so maternal. I've been up since yesterday, so probably need to sleep.  We've only had two good latches thus far that lasted only seconds.  I'm looking forward to my MW returning this evening to provide some breastfeeding support.

Likely one of my only delurking moments.  I'm on the bottom and it's my beautiful wife (the best birth partner ever) beaming above me.

[Coco99]

Whoohoo ! She is gorgeous 

Congrats  !
 

Originally Posted by gumshoegirl007 

Well I'm moving on from Q&P !

[seraf]

Gumshoe!!!!!  Congratulations!  I was hopeful that the nausea meant they were real contractions.  She's so tiny!  Enjoy!  I don't have any advice about nursing.  Ari was a crummy nurser in the beginning, but she caught on after about 3 days.  Good luck.  If you don't get the support you need from your midwife, the La Leche League leaders usually rock.

[justrose13]

GUMSHOE, OMG! she's incredible!! wow, wonderful story... and such a quick birthing time. HUGE CONGRATS to both of you gorgeous mamas!!! what do her big brother and sister think of her??

[LibraryLady]

OMG GUMSHOE!!!! WOW!!!! Congratulations to all of you!  It sounds perfect~ quick and powerful and with your perfect baby at the end!!!   She's so beautiful and so are you and your wonderful woman!!     When you get a moment, do come back and tell us wonderful stories.  I'm sure you'll get the breastfeeding problems worked out. SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!!!!!!

[escher]

Hi Everyone,

Gumshoe! Congratulations! What beautiful pictures. Enjoy your babymoon!

Seraf: What a dream! A toothbrush would certainly be a unique tool to use in an insem.

Library: I look forward to seeing picture of your belly and the nursery (and the baby shower?). I hope your last day of work goes well tomorrow!

Wehrli: Nice avatar! I'm glad that you're having fun with your BFF, and I hope your baby comes soon (but also at exactly the right time!).

Cejae: It sounds like you are getting lots done around the house! I'm sorry you're dealing with RLS. I hope that decreases for you soon.

AmandaHope: Are you wanting to take over Q&P for April (or April & May or April & May & June)? If not, we should find someone else (who isn't first tri or about to give birth!). Gumshoe's graduation made me think about that...

2ez: Welcome! Hooray! You're here! Those numbers sound fine to me, but I know how worrisome the early time is as you wait for results. I can't remember if you're already on progesterone, but I had levels like that and my doctor just had me increase my dose slightly and the levels went right up. Anyway, congratulations!

Has anyone heard from Beastie?

AFM: Nothing new. Still feeling sick, and while I totally 100% appreciate how reassuring that has been, I am very ready to start feeling better. Maybe soon?

[AmandaHope]

Gumshoe: WOW!  Congratulations!    How fantastic--a quick, fierce, and successful home birth with a beautiful babe and a fabulous partner...dreamy!  I'm so happy for you both and hope that the nursing gets easier soon.  Can't wait to read the full story whenever you get to it.  I can never get over how one day, a woman is pregnant, and the next day, there is a baby.  It is just the craziest thing. 

2ez: WELCOME and CONGRATS to you!  I haven't checked QC for a few days, so this is fantastic news!  I had hoped that the more interventionist approach would do the trick for you--best wishes for an easy pregnancy and a sticky babe. 

Wehrli: You're up, girl!  I can't wait for your time to come!  Sending ELVs...

Escher: I do hope you are feeling better soon.  Ugh.  The first tri can be so rough.  But it gets so much better!  Thanks for thinking of the new thread issue.  Sure, I'll take it over for April and May.  Gumshoe: I'm new at this, so if you could send me the code (do I need it?) and any suggestions you have for becoming threadkeeper, that would be lovely.  Whenever you have two hands free, that is. 

AFM: Back home and crazy with work backlog.   Thanks, everyone, for your thoughts about my grandpa and family.  Everyone is doing quite well, considering.  The most amazing part for me was seeing how DD connected to my grandpa when we visited him last week (holding his hand in the hospital, telling him she loved him) and  with my grandma after he died.  She kept patting my grandma's back during the service and offering her tissues; she wanted to kiss her face and stuck by her side for hours.  And they've spent relatively little time together--it is not as though they have been very close in past.  DD was just able to sense all the emotions under the surface of the ritual and to be a true comfort to others, especially my grandma.  I'm amazed at how children can reach out to others with such compassion and sincerity--and without the baggage that we adults allow to distance us from others' vulnerability.  Wow. 

In pregnancy news, I'm finally feeling the baby's movements regularly and more strongly.  I love it!  I have a little buddy in there, and she makes me smile at random times throughout the day and night.  I feel deeply blessed. 

[justrose13]

AHope, you don't need the code anymore now with the new MDC format. Just copy the line-up from this thread and paste into a new one. HTH. on another note, your DD sounds incredibly sweet!! and yay for more movement!

[julietea8]

After introducing myself, I dropped off MDC for a week or so. Sorry about that. We bought a little house last year, and love it. It’s my first house after living in apartments for 38 years. But, it’s crazy small… the good news is that the bottom level of the house (an old garage) is livable if we cough up enough cash and have it remodeled and connected with the upstairs. These last two weeks have involved firing a contractor told us a bunch of lies, finding a new contractor, making final decisions and getting the project started again. So, that distracted me from getting to know y’all and sharing my conception story. Here goes…

We had a couple of beautiful insemination experiences last fall… One was hilarious and fun on a try with a known donor involving a funny hand-off from his partner to mine in a courtyard between two houses. That one didn’t take. The second one was peaceful and perfect, but led to a miscarriage in November. By the time we were ready to try again in January, we were both a little bit distant from the process and were worried that it would be less meaningful. We were still raw from the MC, and wife Ang had just started a new job and was stressed about that. Our donor choices (top three) weren’t available and we had to go back to the files. But, we called our midwife to set up the IUIs and got ready. I’d forgotten until I started writing this, but Ang and I had some sort of painful disagreement right before our midwife arrived. I think we both just felt distant and sad. But, we dug deep, connected and made it happen. We lit candles, turned up the heat, put on music, left a couple of alter items by the bed. Each insemination with our midwife is 100 times better that the one early on insemination we did with an doctor to get it covered by insurance. She brings a lot of peace into our house with her and she’s so easy and balanced about everything. Two docs… one at a fertility center about a year ago, and the one that did one IUI for me… couldn’t get the catheter in for the IUI because my cervix curves to the right. They spent a whole bunch of time painfully poking and prodding, and basically criticizing my cervix for its shape, which obviously offended her because she clamped up even tighter.  The first insemination with our midwife, she noticed right away and told me to put my legs up laughing baby style. Went right in. Our midwife complemented our timing and we all looked together--either with the mirror (me) or straight in (Ang and midwife)--to see that things were totally ready and then Ang pushed the plunger. Afterward, Ang and I rested happy at home and welcomed new life. After a week or so I started feeling familiar symptoms, but tried to just observe and not get attached. Then, we took test and were so grateful to see that we were pregnant again so soon, although the feeling wasn’t the giddy excitement of the first time because the understanding of loss was there…. Which isn’t bad, just another thread of feeling woven in. Now we’re 11 weeks down the path.

Thanks for reading!

Edited by julietea8 - 3/24/11 at 4:27pm

[justrose13]

Julietea, welcome back! Great conception storie(s)!

[DAWNMP1]

Hi all!

I wanted to say hello and introduce myself. I was hanging out for awhile over at the QC board so I see some familiar names here!

My partner and I are expecting our first little one on November 1st and we are really excited. We got lucky with our very first ttc experience. My DP (Ally) is the one carrying and has been feeling pretty good so far except for major fatigue and some random cravings. We had an early US last week and got to see and hear a HB at 8 wks which was awesome!

Looking forward to sharing the journey with you ladies!

Dawn

[2ezforyou]

Gumshoe - she's GORGEOUS!!! You, DP and baby are so cute! Congratulations!

I was just about to say that we should have a contest between Gumshoe, Library, and Wehrli, but....gumshoe wins. Ok girls, who's next? I am guessing Seraf and I can race one another come end of Nov/early Dec.

Thank you, thank you to everyone who has wished me a congrats. I am overwhelmed with all the love I feel. I just posted on TTC that I cry at every little thing now it seems. For the last week, I swear I can't see or talk to anyone. And if there's a happy moment on tv - pass the tissues. Whew!

Seraf - we'd LOVE to visit with you guys in Nashville in July. How fun would that be? We *may* be moving in August to Wehrli's neck of the woods, so that's perfect! DP is hoping to transfer, and we can kiss the south a good riddance! So long!

So maybe all you experienced preggos can help a newbie like me. How worried should I be about little cramps here and there? There's nothing painful or sharp going on, and maybe I am just more in tune with my body, but I have had a few here for there. At one point last night, I was convinced I had another implanting. Totally felt like it did last Sunday, when I am 99% sure mine occurred. Anyway, just wanted to ask. I also seem to be somewhat bloated a bit since Monday. Is this normal? We aren't telling any of our friends and family yet, so I need help! I wish there was a 1 hour crash course somewhere. LOL

Sending lots of baby love to each of you!

[justrose13]

2ez, I cramped for weeks after my BFP... Maybe up until 10 weeks even. Nothing to worry about! You got at least one little embryo burrowing deep inside your uterus!!!! As far as being bloated, I was somewhat but you were on injectibles, right? I think the bloating could be from that yet. I wouldn't worry at all! Seems like everything is going quite well for you!

Dawn, welcome among us!!! Congrats!

[CrystalPerez]

Hello everyone here at Q&P I just got my BFP! my EDD is December 1. I am still very much in shock, but very excited to be joining the mommy to be club! haha

2ez- I have been having cramps too, so much so last night that I was convinced AF would come today. I'm hoping all this is normal because I cant go to the doctor until tomorrow, also I have had some light pink tinted discharge that has been coming and going today. I'm SO SO SO excited to be here with you and seraf and race with you in the end of nov/dec!!

[escher]

Hi Everyone,

Crystal: Congratulations on your BFP! How exciting! I hope that your doctor's appointment goes well today. You'll probably have to wait until AmandaHope takes over the thread next week to be added to the list since Gumshoe is busy with her beautiful new babe!

Wehrli: How are you feeling? Congratulations on reaching 39 weeks! I was wondering if Gumshoe having her baby was making you feel even more ready to have the babe. I hope that you're having fun with your bff while you wait!

2ez: I had lots of mild cramping sensations early in the pregnancy. It seems like it is pretty normal, but I know it can be nerve wracking. I'm still fairly bloated (I think for me it is from being constipated), and it seems like a lot of people experience that too. So it sounds to me like you're having a great normal pregnancy so far! I hope your second beta goes well today!

Dawn: Welcome! I'm glad that you found your way over here. It's great that Ally is feeling good so far, and that you got to hear the heartbeat.

Julie: What a fun conception story! I'm excited that there are so many of us due in October or November.

AmandaHope: Your DD (or should I say DD1?) sounds great. It's sweet that she was able to be so kind to your grandfather and grandmother. And what fun that you're feeling the babe more strongly and regularly now!

Library: I'm thinking about you at your last day of work today. Hooray!

AFM: According to a pregnancy book I was looking at last night, this week is my babe's last week as an embryo! I have my first midwife appointment on Tuesday (9 weeks 5 days), and I'm hoping that they will be able to hear the heartbeat with the doppler, but I know it may be too early. If they can't find it, I don't know if I'll try to go in for another ultrasound or if I'll just suck it up and wait a month for my next midwife appointment. Thoughts?

[Mizyellow]

Popping out of lurking to say hi! Maybe I will stick around this time. Seems like all of your posters are having babies these days (how dare they)

Plus July is coming quite quickly and I am starting my ritual panic, sleeplessness, and general grumpiness. (DP is THRILLED)

Congrats Gumshoe. What a doll!

Perez: Yay!! Congratulations on your BFP! I hope your first trimester passes quickly and effortlessly!

EZ: You are pregnant! I knew when I read about your veins over in Queer conceptions, that is always my very first pregnancy symptom. That and random tears over anything sentimental.

Library: Are you having contractions? I can't remember, are you doing a homebirth?

Seraf: Are your pants still fitting? You are so tiny, I wonder if youare the type to pop right away or stay tiny til month 6! i bet you guys are getting excited for Sara's insem. I hope she gets pregnant right away, the pictures alone will be amazing.

Wehrl;: Your belly is adorable.  Are you a petite mama?

Ahope: This pregnancy is flying by for me, how bout you? I feel I am going to blink and be in labor!

AFM: almost 23 weeks. Hard to believe. We just had an ultrasoundand baby Harrison is a whole pound!!!!! What a big kid. I am so ready to meet him but yet don't want him out of my tummy. Like ever. Trying to get all the CD inserts/prefolds I will need to keep his little butt covered. I didn't save anything from Lennon (what was I thinking) so it just like starting over. I tried to sew my own insert last night. It is the ugliest thing I have seen in a long time and I am fairly certain it will fall apart in the first wash but we will see . DP is able to feel him move around which is super exciting, she tears up everytime. She's so cute. Met with a lawyer to discuss co-custody, dizzying process. How are you guys handling that one Seraf?

I wanted to show off the belly but I am not sure how to post pictures?

[seraf]

Dawn, welcome!

Crystal, Welcome!  I won't be racing you and 2ez, I'm due the first week of November!  My brother thinks his Sarah will go 2 weeks late and I'll go 2 weeks early and we'll have cousins on the same day.  I'll stick by Escher, we're only 12 days apart.

2ez, cramping, stretching, pinging and popping are totally normal.  As is bloating.  I look 3 months pregnant, I'm so bloated.I actually switched to kids' gummy vites because I think the iron in the prenatals was contributing to the constipation which was contributing to the bloating.

Escher, the dreams are insane, are you having them too?  I can't write about most of them here, because they almost all involve the sex (tire swings? vegetables?  dancing turtles?  but mostly sex).  I personally would just wait until the next month (holy mackerel, you may be able to feel movement before you would hear the heartbeat at that rate).  What you chose is totally whatever you feel comfortable with, tho.

Library, totally off topic, but where can I find out what reading level a book is recommended for?  Osha is reading animorphs (I have some issues with the social stuff in them, but he loves them), which is a huge leap from where he was before.

So, does anyone want to hear weirdness?  Once upon a time I spent early pregnancy with Ari crying about a tsunami in Indonesia.  I was 4 weeks pregnant.  Fast forward 5 years and here I am bawling my eyes out about a tsunami that hit Japan when I was 5 weeks along.  Now, I'm not a superstitious person, but a girl gets paranoid when thousands of people die every time she finds out she's pregnant!  Thoughts (besides the obvious, don't get pregnant again)?