February Chat! - Page 3

[mclisa]

Jack is adorable!  We have those monkey jammies too.

[msmiles]

nerdymom--I'm in the same boat as you were! We just bought a king size latex foam bed set yesterday. My large and in charge pregnant self, my 2 year old bed hog, and my sweaty-sleeper husband have been sleeping on a cheap, used, thin full size on the floor for over a year…and before that, a daybed...and before that, a futon. We've been living together five years and haven't ever had a real, comfortable bed…a bed frame…or bought new sheets and pillows! I've been on my own since I was 17, and yet I was just dumbfounded while shopping for sheets.

 

I also just ordered everything necessary for baby, and it should be here early next week. I'm feeling very self satisfied, because I got what I wanted while staying under budget on all of it. It's compelling too because it means we're doing well by our money, when two years ago we couldn't even afford groceries. It's also reassuring…if I go into labor this weekend, the baby will be stocked up when we return home. Now I just have to MEGA clean my house…but I'm so easily fatigued and I'm feeling so overwhelmed by the amount of cleaning that needs to be done that I'm finding myself unmotivated. All that bending down, picking up, bending down, picking up, dirty dish water all over my big belly…all while recognizing that it's never ending…

I just have this gut feeling that baby is going to come sooner rather than later…so I'm feeling rushed…

[nerdymom]

Mandy and Michelle, thanks! I think he's pretty cute too. Some days it's the only reason I don't give him away. lol!

Originally Posted by msmiles 

nerdymom--I'm in the same boat as you were! We just bought a king size latex foam bed set yesterday. My large and in charge pregnant self, my 2 year old bed hog, and my sweaty-sleeper husband have been sleeping on a cheap, used, thin full size on the floor for over a year…and before that, a daybed...and before that, a futon. We've been living together five years and haven't ever had a real, comfortable bed…a bed frame…or bought new sheets and pillows! I've been on my own since I was 17, and yet I was just dumbfounded while shopping for sheets.

 

I also just ordered everything necessary for baby, and it should be here early next week. I'm feeling very self satisfied, because I got what I wanted while staying under budget on all of it. It's compelling too because it means we're doing well by our money, when two years ago we couldn't even afford groceries. It's also reassuring…if I go into labor this weekend, the baby will be stocked up when we return home. Now I just have to MEGA clean my house…but I'm so easily fatigued and I'm feeling so overwhelmed by the amount of cleaning that needs to be done that I'm finding myself unmotivated. All that bending down, picking up, bending down, picking up, dirty dish water all over my big belly…all while recognizing that it's never ending…

I just have this gut feeling that baby is going to come sooner rather than later…so I'm feeling rushed…

Cool! Did you sleep well last night? I'm not used to it yet. I had the hardest time getting into a comfortable position because I've been sleeping on the edge of the bed where there is a big sag for my belly, which is more comfy than it sounds actually. And I'm sooo used to dangling my toes off the end of the bed that I kept searching for the edge all night! lol. :o 

As for the never-ending housework cycle...yeah. I feel ya!!!!! Our house is all topsy turvy and I'm having a hard time find my motivation, since I know it'll just get messed up again. And congrats on being under budget! I always find other things to spend the $ on if I'm under budget...I'm bad!
 

[StarCat]

he is adorable!!  you'll get used to your new bed soon.  and I agree.  sheets are crazy expensive for a king sized bed.  I actually kinda like the tshirt sheets that you can get at target  sometimes for 19.99.  I'm not a fancy girl- they are soft and when they get ruined i don't freak.  I don't think i've ever really had nice, nice sheets.  I'm afraqid to get any.  then I might not like my cheapo target ones anymore!! 

I have a hot date tonight.  going to dinner and a movie w/ the hubs.  girls are staying with grandma. thank god. because they are jumping on every nerve I have today!!!  Unfortunately, I have to work in the morning so I won't get to enjoy sleeping in.  I'm usually up before they are most mornings anyway so I guess thats no big thing.

[mclisa]

Yea for date night!

I'm at home with the kids since DH's friends are all in town for a Super Bowl Party.  They do it every year and hang out at the one friend who is still single. 

[nerdymom]

Enjoy your date! That sounds nice. We are going to have that next Saturday, and I'm looking forward to it. Today DH took DS out for the afternoon, so I am at home by myself. I'm getting the laundry caught up again and doing some cleaning. Blech. The IL's are coming over tomorrow so I'd like to have the place looking presentable again. Though MiL is no stickler for a tidy house so if it's messy she won't care. In fact she would probably help me clean it up. I didn't know how I'd like her as a MiL at first, but honestly I love her more and more each year. I'm a very blessed woman.

[jenniferadurham]

Have y'all tried looking for sheets on overstock.com? They have really awesome stuff on there for way less $$ than stores. My MIL got a pillow top sheet thing that she really loves from there.

Nerdy, congrats on the new bed! I want one too! We would have to get a new frame as ours is a queen and heavy, real wood, and DH had it way before we were together...as with the matress yuck. And I watch too much HGTV...and know how to make our own inexpensive headboard and can't wait until I get to do that one day!

I'm getting pretty uncomfortable...can't sit back...can't breath, can't sit up with baby lump in-between legs....he gets so pissy that I'm taking up his space lol. He is really getting some jabs in there...ouch. At least 7 more weeks and I can have a baby! Hahaha, I will be 38 weeks. CRAZY to think about! We bought newborn diapers yesterday so at least his butt is covered for a couple weeks...even if we don't have everything else that we need lol.


DH is freaking out about $$. Our insurance doesn't cover anything that isn't in an HCA hospital...DH works for a hospital that is owned by HCA. And of course a birthing center isn't even close to that....they are only wanting to cover 25% ....which means that we are more than likely going to have to pay out of our wazoo for this birth. My possible MW is trying to get them to accept me and pay at least 75%.... trying to get the medical director to realize how safe birth center births are. ACOG even came out with that statement in their Jan issue. So we aren't getting to do fun stuff like shopping, going out to eat like we normally do. And its sorta making me mad with some things. We *could* put some of it on the credit card...but we are trying to get out debt. It would be about $2000 on there. Ugh..I don't know. So blah about it all.

[mclisa]

It's so hard to think about going into debt for a simple birth.  Hope you can figure it out soon.  I've butted heads with a few medical directors in my time without much luck.  Hope you succeed.

[StarCat]

date night was good.  dinner was great- didn't love the movie but it was nice to have some alone, grown up time.  and I had a great nights sleep.  Unfortunately, interrupted by having to wake up and go to work and run myself crazy for 12 hours. 

Jennifer- I feel your pain.  bc wasn't covered for us on my old insurance. Luckily, our open enrollments ran at the same time and we were able to switch to DH's.  It is a bit more per check, plus we have a deductible and higher co pays.  we still have to cover just under $1000 out of pocket but thats better than the $4000 it would have been.  if we hadn't been able to switch I would have either had to deliver in a hospital or I would have continued pre-natal care with the midwife at the ob's office and then switched in the last couple weeks to the homebirth midwife and paid like $2000 or so to do that.  hope you get it figured out.  it sucks to have to worry about how to pay for this.  everyone should have the choice to birth how they want without being concerned about how to pay for it.  It is ridiculous to me that I could have a c-section at a hospital with every intervention in the world and pay less than I will going to a birth center!!!

[minkajane]

You know, I keep forgetting about that whole "sit down and rest every once in a while" thing you have to do when you're pregnant. I keep expecting to be able to do just as much as I did before and I keep thinking, "Man, I'm really tired, I wonder why." Then it hits me that I'm pregnant and I need to sit down for 10 minutes. It's hard not to feel lazy, but ya gotta do what ya gotta do!

[jenniferadurham]

Thank you ladies for the encouraging words. And thank you SO MUCH mclisa for talking about u's being in debt...this words really struck a cord in my brain. I realized how selfish I was being...it was going to lead us into being hermit crabs for the next several weeks and not be able to do ANYTHING fun, eating out/buying fun stuff/clothes for kids, etc. Thats no way to live. It's not fair to everyone else that lives here.

I thought about how much debt we'd be in and what we could really use that money for. And it just made sense to deliver at a hospital...it's free and we only have to pay 25% to the OB for his services. And IF I get an epidural it's 25% as well. I will have a doula there to help me and KEEP reminding me HOW MUCH I WANT A NCB! We only have to pay $600 for the rest of our deductible, and $250 to pay the rest of the money to doula. I'm ok with this decision..I've quickly made peace with it. AND I'm relieved to not have to tell MIL about the MW/HB...she's WHOA hospital minded(has worked in them for the past 20 years) and it Wasserstein one more thing I would have had to deal with.

I asked DH a few hours after I told him of my changed plans if he felt relief and he said yes. Now don't get me wrong...he is TOTALLY on board with whatever I choose, bc he KNOWS that it's MY choice...but he was really worried about $$.


In other news....tell me if this is that pelvic separation thing....it's right in the crease where my leg meets my privates. The most horrible sharp pain...feels like it is separating. I had it with DS, but it was much later in the pg when I was soooo miserable, so I don't really remember how bad it was. We went to eat, I went to the bathroom and walked in a stall...it was gross so I pivoted to turn around and OMGEEE! It hurt so bad out of nowhere. And for the rest of the night I was walking with a limp. And I had to ride in the dang wheelchair to get groceries again. Ugh. Lol.

Sorry so long...thanks for reading if you got this far!

[nerdymom]

On the subject of sheets - my DH has simplified it for me, because the man REFUSES to use a top sheet. Just won't use it. I fought that battle for three years before I gave up. Now we just use fitted sheets and washable duvet covers. It still annoys me a little because I really like a properly made bed, but he is so stubborn on this point and I've given up. Xp

Jennifer - glad you were able to find peace about your birthing situation. I'm in a very similar situation. For $2,000 I could have the HB midwife I love, or we could have a completely free hospital birth. I couldn't justify it to myself, knowing that we're finally getting our finances into really good shape and just paid off the last of our cc debt. I'm at peace with it, the peace that comes from knowing I'm following God's will and what happens is in His hands.

Becca  - I'm glad you had a nice date night. I too feel the irony of insurance restrictions. It would be so much cheaper for them to pay for my HB MW, but they won't do it. Ridiculous.

Originally Posted by minkajane 

You know, I keep forgetting about that whole "sit down and rest every once in a while" thing you have to do when you're pregnant. I keep expecting to be able to do just as much as I did before and I keep thinking, "Man, I'm really tired, I wonder why." Then it hits me that I'm pregnant and I need to sit down for 10 minutes. It's hard not to feel lazy, but ya gotta do what ya gotta do!

LOL! I don't really have that problem right now, I'm struggling more with getting up and getting things done. I've got no energy whatsoever.

In other news this kiddo is so high, I can barely bend over, if I am forced to sit in a reclining position, like in the car, I feel like I can barely breath. Today I've felt the strongest movements above my belly button, and some light fluttering down by my cervix so I'm hoping that he is now head down for good. I don't want to go in and hear the MW talk about how he's breech and yadda yadda blah blah. I know about spinning babies, I know about proper posture and cat/cow and etc etc. I'm doing everything I can. And DS is helping make sure I spend lots of time in squats or hand and knees, with his constant mess making. *growl*

At church today, I was very thankful for my thick skin. One of my friends husbands asked me how long I had left and when he heard 12 weeks his eyes popped wide open and he said "that long?!" wile gaping at my stomach. Yes dear. I know your wife is a tiny little woman and didn't look pregnant until her 6th month. I am not like that. Also, did you notice my two year old is head and shoulders taller than yours? Go figure. LOL! And two other women told me I looked "very tired". Thanks. Thanks a lot, that is just what I was hoping to hear. Didn't you notice my new haircut??? Ahh well. I try not to let it bother me.
 

[minkajane]

I'm feeling all of the movement way down low, so I'm pretty sure this little one is still breech. It's hard to tell - I can feel the back, so I can tell what side s/he's laying on, but I can't really tell if I'm feeling a head or a butt at either end. I'm watching my posture and spending a lot of time rocking on a ball. At what point should I start doing the breech tilt and things like that? DS was breech and ended in a C/S at 37 weeks - I am NOT doing that again! I'm about to be 30 weeks.

[kaPOW!]

I just posted on facebook yesterday that i'm getting the pubic pains way earlier this time than i did last. Or, i'm noticing it sooner. mine is a lot less painful than what you're describing, more like the slow movement of bones and muscles. it sounds like you might have strained a tendon. i can't remember the name of the one that's down there in your thigh pit. I hope you're able to rest it today!
 

Originally Posted by jenniferadurham 


In other news....tell me if this is that pelvic separation thing....it's right in the crease where my leg meets my privates. The most horrible sharp pain...feels like it is separating. I had it with DS, but it was much later in the pg when I was soooo miserable, so I don't really remember how bad it was. We went to eat, I went to the bathroom and walked in a stall...it was gross so I pivoted to turn around and OMGEEE! It hurt so bad out of nowhere. And for the rest of the night I was walking with a limp. And I had to ride in the dang wheelchair to get groceries again. Ugh. Lol.

Sorry so long...thanks for reading if you got this far!

[jenniferadurham]

It is SPD. I dr.googled it lol. Fun fun. It happened last time too. So I guess I just get to hang out for another day and not walk.


I started going through DS clothes..finally...and I at least have onsies for this LO. DS is a Dec baby...so the clothes might be off season a bit. BUT...if this LO is anything like his brother was...he will be wearing a bigger size than his age. DS was wearing 12 month around 8/9 months. But at least I'm doing something to get ready for this baby finally instead of sitting around! Lol

I'm feeling movement everywhere...no clue where this baby is! Lol I feel most movement down below belly button and on the sides....like he's tickling me. Well, he actually HAS tickled me, no joke!

So now that we don't have to save up $2200+...we get to celebrate my bday and our 3 year Ann!!! Yay! So excited! I may even get a nice top to wear out! Oh yes...tops...mine are getting a little on the short side....may need to get a handle on that soon. Lol

[windymama]

Becca - glad to hear you got a date night on Saturday too!  DH and I went out with some friends to a comedy club and dinner.  It was so nice to return home to sleeping children that I didn't have to put to bed. 

Nerdymom - My DH believe that the top sheet should be wrapped into a little ball to cuddle with.  It drives me nuts and we've gotten to the point that we sleep with seperate coverings in the same bed.

Jennifer - my baby is also taking up as much room as she can.  It's very hard to get into a comfortable position most days, and nights can be worse.

Mandy - I too keep wondering why I'm feeling so tired!  It feels like there's so much to do and no time to do it, epsecially since I'm constantly picking up after the kids.  I think you can start doing breech tilts around 33 weeks, but I can't remember where I read that.  Hopefully this one turns and stays vertex for you!

I hope all of you worried about where you're going to give birth can actually have the birth you want, where ever it is.

I can't get comfortable at night and the kids are driving me nuts during the day, DD especially since she's not walking unassisted yet (she's 21 months).  I'm not supposed to pick her up but it's impossible.  My mom is coming next week to help me and I'm really looking forward to it.

I'm starting to get heartburn.  I didn't have it with either of my previous pregnancies and both kids were born with full heads of hair so I'm wondering how much, if any, hair this one will have?

[mclisa]

I've had heartburn with all my pg and my kids are bald so I'm planning on another bald baby as I take my prevacid.

They are trying to get birth centers approved in my state, but that won't be an issue for me as this is the grand finale.  I doubt my insurance would cover it anyways.

[minkajane]

So, I found out today that my XH and his DF have announced their wedding date, which just happens to be the Saturday before my due date. A few days after I announced my pregnancy, they declared they were moving in together (after only dating a couple of months), a few months later "oopsie" she's pregnant so they're going to get married, now they've decided that they just can't wait two weeks, they have to get married pretty much exactly at my due date. I can't help but think they're doing it on purpose. If DS misses the birth because he's at their out-of-town wedding, I'm going to F'ing lose it.

Can you tell it's been a tough day? XH was supposed to have DS back by 6 last night, but he called me at 6:40 to tell me he hadn't left WV yet (3.5 hours away). He ended up bringing him back at 3pm today after DH threatened to call the cops if he didn't show up in the next hour. Then I find out that they're going to be taking DS away for three days just when I'm most likely to be in labor. UGH.

[Stayseeliz]

Hugs to everyone! I'm kind of out of it this week with a nasty cold and the continued bedrest. Dr's appt was fine today. Still not dilating but feeling like crud with the constant contractions and the cold on top of it. My bp was high at my appointment so they ran a quick panel of bloodwork for preeclampsia since I had that with DD2 but it came back neg so that's a good thing. The dr told me to avoid decongestants since my bp is high though. Hoping saline spray will kick this thing. I'll try to respond more later. So ready for this cold to be gone. Hang in there everyone! We're getting there!

[SeattleMolly]

Stayseeliz- You can do it! I'm in awe that you are on bedrest and have kids!

I had to go to the hospital on Sunday night at 31 weeks. I had cramping all day (thought it was BH) then finally had bloody show at 8:30pm. Called the midwife and she sent us right to the hospital she works with for these kinds of situations. My cervix remained closed, but my contractions were 2-3 minutes apart upon entering the hospital. I got an IV, the oral and injected meds to stop labor, and finally ibuprophen was what relaxed my uterous. Stayed the night in the hospital, and had a normal ultrasound. They can't find where the uterus was bleeding, but it has stopped.

I'm not on bedrest, but no sex (no problem, I'm not going to stimulate that muscle until baby should come!). I'm at home recouping today, but am planning on working tomorrow (I'm a teacher). The work load to leave the year early has been hard in the last couple of weeks. Just trying to squeeze everything in. I wonder if mental stress effects my uterus like physical stress does? A nice walk seems so much better than my 2nd period whiners...

Anyway, just nervous for all the noise and chaos of teaching middle school tomorrow. I am getting rid of all my extra tasks ASAP. "Pre-term labor" makes people pretty understanding, thank god.