Originally Posted by blueholly
Hey mamas ... Really not trying to be dramatic but the "walking away from my kids" really is that. He chose to move an hour away from them and wants custody of them so he can put them in school across the street from his house and then aftercare. So that means,yes, I would have to give up my children if I lose this particular fight.
As for career - this is what I KNOW I can make a living doing while also being a hands-on mom. It really is the only way I see to make a viable living. How I see working full time in any other arrangement is trying to take care of kids, who are in school, and having to run back and forth to get them from the bus, take care of them when sick or snow days or summer. Who the heck can keep a job with that going on? I have a comprehensive business plan for my intended career. No one can argue with it. And stbx knows it too - he specifically told my aunt he didn't want me to get on my feet.
Yes, the $800 is in addition to $400 in CS. He's asking for the judge to let him off the support right away.
You wouldn't be walking away from your kids - you are fighting for custody. You may be forced to hand over custody (if you've been the primary caregiver, and are willing to work with your ex its probably a pretty even fight, if not tipped in your favor), but you are not walking away. Walking away is when you leave your children voluntarily - you are not doing that. And remember, custody is 9/10 who has the children - he moved out without them, so he's pretty unlikely to get them back.
If you have a comprehensive business plan, why can't you do that while your kids are in school? Why not start putting it into motion? Also, $400 child support is nothing - I get that for 1 kid (well, $98/week), and my ex makes almost nothing. You need to find out if you are entitled to more than that. I highly doubt a judge will let him off so easily. Kids being in school is definitely not the end of the world, and being super opposed to putting the kids in school when its what your ex wants may count against you since you're required to work together even though you have custody.
Yes, its hectic, and its difficult to get everything done - but its totally do-able. I honestly would never be able to handle the chaos of homeschooling, which is just to say that there are 2 sides to every coin.