Just to make certain this is what you mean, Smithie, as a woman who got pregnant and whose boyfriend took off after I moved out from his apartment, it was his right to choose to walk away and leave me to figure out how to support our son? It has been his right to not pay any child support for 15 years by working under the table and moving constantly?
Do your thoughts on this change when it was him who lied and told me he had been tested and he was shooting blanks so there was no way I could get pregnant (yes, I was naive but I had minimal sex education and no parental involvement in my life)?
How about if I tell you that he was abusive?
How about if I tell you I was 16 and he was 29?
In what instance do you say that a man should take responsibility for a child he created, even if it is outside of the institution of marriage?
As a 16 year old, I was unable to pay for an abortion by myself. I had no insurance, I had no job skills, I had no diploma or GED, I had no place to live for much of my pregnancy. Adoption wasn't an option for me as I knew my family would step in and try to raise the child which would have been a horrible thing for the child. So, options were scarce. Yes, in an ideal society there would have been help for me and I wouldn't have needed his assistance but we do not live in an ideal society.
And all of this was my responsibility to deal with but not his simply because he is male?
In addition, what about the instances where the male holds all the power in the relationship? What about when you are in a relationship with a male who promises to love and support you and then decides after the baby is born that he really doesn't want to be a father? You would really argue that it is therefor a woman's responsibility?