Originally Posted by Smithie
"His role in choosing is in regards to where he puts his sperm. That is when he has choice. Tons and tons and tons of choice."
I heard a similar remark once about women, only the phrase was "when she spreads her legs." That choice is not good enough for me and my daughters - and the moment-of-sperm-depositing choice is not good enough for my son. Forced birth and coerced paternity are two sides of the same sex-as-punishment coin.
I agree with all of the bolded. However, men and women know that man + woman sex can equal reproduction (ie, baby). Abortion is not just a choice - for those who have never actually had to face that choice, its not an easy one to make (I have faced it, and chose not to have one - it was not an easy choice), its a MEDICAL procedure, that should not be legislated.
When people choose to have sex, they are choosing to deal with the consequences. Those consequences may be, but are not limited to: Paternity, Maternity, Abortion, ectopic pregnancy, stillbirth, death, traumatic birth, cesarean section, premature birth, etc. None of these things are easy to swallow, necessarily, but are all possible outcomes of the one simple act of having sex. Abortion can be a devastating thing for BOTH partners. It can also be the right choice for one and the wrong choice for the other. Paternity may be financially imposing on the father, but its DEFINITELY financially imposing on the mother. When 2 partners have sex, they choose the consequences. That may be forever mourning making the wrong decision.
People act like abortion is the easiest thing in the world emotionally and physically. It's not. It's a difficult choice with permanent results that affect 2 different people (3 if you count the fetus). It's still a medical procedure that should not be legislated.