a few ppl pm'd wanting to know about my story but im having tech issues with pm's so i'll post on here, moderators feel free to remove etc
hello! congrats on the pregnancy :D
I warn you i will mention "pain" and stuff so if you're worried about triggers etc then please, delete this message before reading!
i'll try to cut it short (partly for my own sanity) and cut out a lot of grisly details
Firsty, take in to account adhesions, nobody told me this, but if you have a lot of adhesions or internal scarring from previous c sections (some ppl get both some ppl dont get either) that it can cause established labour to be excrutiating as the contrax pull apart the adhesions etc so be prepared to need pain relief. i had asked for a totally unmedicated labour and not planned for any pain so the HB midwives and doula resisted my screams for pain meds for quite a few hours, which they of course took as transition and kept saying the baby was gonna be here any second - she wasnt lol, i knew she wasnt too. eventually i had some gas and air, oh how i loved the gas and air. luckily my LO's heartrate stayed perfectly stable, but that along with her head blocking the "exit" (so no large volumes of blood could be seen) they didnt pick up on the rupture. it was only them finally doing an internal and realising my cervix was swelling and stuck at 7cm (though you could see her head and hair every time my body involuntarily pushed, bless her) and my constant insistance on going to the hospital that made them eventually call in the ambulance. walking to the ambulance may have been the most painful thing in existence but i was so darned pleased to be on my way. in the hospital it took about 40 minutes for the doctors to sedate me a bit with meptid (was screaming blue murder still) and do an internal, i then had an epidural and talked (and sobbed) over my options for about two hours. the pain was still there even with an epi so i *knew* something wasnt right (still felt really embarassed for all the yelling id done though) when i was having the surgery they realised i'd ruptured but my sweet girl was acting as a compress stemming the flow of blood with her hugeness (9lb 5oz) i had to be transfused etc and they had a job getting the placenta out, but while they were doing that, i was holding my naked wet little one on my face, she was sucking my lip and i'll remember that forever <3 also the hours of bissful labour i spent woodland walking in labour, or swimming in the birthpool with my ds (it was my birthday n we had cake in the pool lol)
I guess if you take anything from my story is that even when a rupture happens, you can survive, in my case (and in most cases of UR) it sort of "peels" gradually, rather than just tearing open suddenly. that there are signs and symptoms that give indication that something isnt right OTHER than the fetal heart rate and heavy blood loss as that doesnt always become apparent until the surgeons are in there. and you MUST listen to your body, trust your body to birth, you CAN do it, but there is no point in trusting your body if you dont trust it when it's telling you something is going wrong.
i really hope this msg hasnt upset you etc, but i kinda wish id read a negative story or two when i was preggo rather than just all the great successes, because it left me feeling a failure and in shock. prepare for every eventuality and im sure you'll be fine no matter what x