I'm a major deferrer. My husband is a perfectionist. It's a bad scene.
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I have the same mix in my household. Should we start a support group? I've just decided to lead by example with DH. I'm not even going to deal with his stuff until I've dealt with my own. It's working a little bit but I really have to hold my tongue about ANYTHING of his, lest I activate the rebel!
We should totally start a support group!
Unfortunately leading by example works with limited success. And asking to "please put away a screw driver" or "can we get rid of this box you never open with the stuff from 15 years ago" totally activates the rebel.
Another perfectionist-deferrer! My problems with clutter started after moving in with DH, as I wasn't in control of our stuff and surroundings like I was on my own (I was minimalist even then). So it was like, it's never going to be perfect, so why try.. I totally procrastinated cleaning because it wasn't going to be good enough. And DH hated cleaning because it always made me mad. Getting DH into decluttering and minimalism a few years ago ( we both read Karen Kingston's Clear your clutter with Feng shui, and it was really great though I'm in no way into feng shui!!!) was the turning point, but there were some serious lapses of judgement along the way too. We are now finally at a point where I'm confident that this is solid!