Originally Posted by ~Charlie's~Angel~
This guy talking about "Gods Plan" and "it was the Devil coming out in him" is code for "Im a lazy, emotionally abusive, narcisist who is going to stop at nothing to take advantage of you". The OPs quotes of some of the things hes said is downright creepy, and it would not surprise me one bit if his craziness begins to get violent when he doesn't get his way.
This sounds like a very scary individual, and I would run as fast as your legs can carry you and your CHILDREN. Because subjecting them to this craziness would be just, well, crazy.
Darcy...I get the twisting things up part. I get the "making" you feel guilty (I think we're responsible for our own feelings, but I also know how good some people are at pushing buttons and twisting people into knots). I'll take your word for "gorgeous" as 1) I don't know what he looks like, and 2) there's a huge subjective element to that, anyway.
Can you tell me anything about why you find him sweet or Godly? I'm not a Christian, so being Godly isn't a requirement for me - actually, it would be a drawback in someone I was considering dating - but I'm also aware that it takes more than saying "I believe in God", "this is God's will" and "the Devil kept me from this job" to qualify as being Godly. He's all talk. And, you haven't said anything about thim that sounds sweet. He tells you he used to date models, and makes it clear that he thinks he's lowered his standards. He blames you (and his mother and the Devil, of course) for the fact that he couldn't get his lazy butt out of bed to go back to work. He tries to make you stay with him, by twisting your religious and spiritual beliefs into a weapon against you and claiming he knows what God wants you to do. He guilt trips. He's not sweet. He's really, really...icky. Just reading your posts makes my skin crawl, and I have to assume he has some serious charisma, based on the fact that you can even stand to be in the same room as him.
Do not make a life decision about who you will spend your time/life with, based on that person telling you that you have to. Just...don't.
ETA: I skimmed some of the early posts in this thread again. I forgot:
1) He's also a disgusting slob (and, this is coming from someone who is all over a current thread in TAO about dirty houses, talking about how uncomfortable I am in really clean homes).
2) He doesn't argue, because he doesn't have to - he manipulates you to get his own way, intead of getting angry, because he can't have his own way. It's really not any better. (My abusive ex never got mad. DH, very occasionally, does. DH is emotionally healthy and non-manipulative, though. My ex was neither.)
3) He's a major game player, all around. I'd forgotten about that sick "if you're not available to me 24/7, you're playing games, but don't expect me to get back to you right away, because that's not how I operate" crap. Ick. Ick. Ick.