Im not a Christian - but i was a single mother for several years. i know how desperate it can make you feel. I felt old and used up and ugly and thought i would never find someone to love me EVER AGAIN after my divorce. Interestingly my ex was similar to this 'man' you describe - it took me three years to move out. Eventually, i did meet somebody who was kind and thoughtful - and always seems to consider my feelings before his own. IT WAS WORTH THE WAIT! heres how i knew he was the one for me - i broke up with him....(long story but mostly - i was scared something would inevitably go wrong , this guy lived far away i had an old car and felt i shouldnt spend so much $ on gas!) so i quickly broke up with this kind sweet man ...you know what he said?
" OK, I wasnt expecting this, im sad -but OK - i hope we can still remain friends" then he got out of my car.
I was flabbergasted - he didnt argue with me and try to tell me all the reasons i should NOT break up with him....he simply said OK and got out of my car.....i cried my eyes out on the ride home - two weeks later i called him and asked to see him again.... two years after that we moved in together , got married and this past summer had a baby together.
its not worth compromising everything in your life - just to be able to say "i have a boyfriend" . Get rid of this awful person now and forever!
This is exactly what I've been telling myself for four weeks now!!! I am so thankful he is gone now. I know he will never talk to me again. He made that clear. I don't worry about him trying to call or get me back. It will NOT happen, trust me, I know. He is pissed I figured him out and I know he is. He was evil and he was manipulating me. I finally figured it out and he got upset and this is how he deals, makes me out to be like allllll the other past girlfriends, a total psychotic, devil possessed woman. Oh lordy. I knew he would do this once I found out he said all his other girls were the bad ones, he never was. He even said in his good-bye email not to even look at his face cause I am so evil if I were to ever see him out anywhere, lol. hahahaha!! Oh my freaking goodness. That is so hilariously insane.