email stay at home support!

[mommariffic]

I feel like I'm posting this idea a lot (nerd) 

It seems lately a lot of mommas are struggling with balance, motherhood, staying home, and the likes. Why don't we create a support group for mothers who have similar interests/issues to talk about and start a ring? I know I would love to have an email (or 10) sharing the joys and downfalls of stay at home parenting. 

Okay so there's some interest, neat : ) 

Why dont we write about ourselves, and if you see someone you want to email or PM..go for it! 

I'm a momma to two kids. (3 year old and 7 month old..) I run a small natural parents group out of the Jersey area and we have some members that I've grown close to, but somehow I still feel isolated and overwhelmed at times? I am a freelance writer, student doula, HUGE bookworm (there are books in every corner of my house half read) and a huge animal fan (we have two dogs, two cats, and I try to rescue many more..) I am done having kids, plan on homeschooling, and am happily (most of the time) married. 

We are living in a fairly urban area and it's a huge difference coming from living on 15 + acres of land. I miss my chickens, I miss silence, trees and being surrounded by nature. Some people thrive in a city enviroment and while I'm certainly not TORTURED I don't really enjoy it. Nature makes me calm and happy, cars and traffic and so many people...eh. We will be here for another year at least, and I'm dealing :/ 

Edited by mommariffic - 2/4/11 at 4:00pm

[mommatooth]

What I could use right now is an 800 number to help me cope with the situation in my home.  RIGHT NOW.  I know I am not being a great mom, but I am just done, and I know if I even look at my 3yo I will blow it.  Does anyone know of a 24 support line for mommas?  Nothing weird like suicide prevention, it's just that I am single and have NO support and very few friends.  I could just use some help, could somebody please talk me out of this tree?

[asraidevin]

That's a brilliant idea. A mama support line.

Originally Posted by mommatooth 

What I could use right now is an 800 number to help me cope with the situation in my home.  RIGHT NOW.  I know I am not being a great mom, but I am just done, and I know if I even look at my 3yo I will blow it.  Does anyone know of a 24 support line for mommas?  Nothing weird like suicide prevention, it's just that I am single and have NO support and very few friends.  I could just use some help, could somebody please talk me out of this tree?

[onewayoranother]

I think it's a great idea! I live in a very rural community and lived here for 4 months before I even knew there were kids the same age as my ds. I don't know any SAHM who live in town (ok there's one but we are on opposite sides of the spectrum on everything) and with the winter weather, hardly leave the house unless it's for an appointment. There are no mom groups or activities out here. Just lots of open space, cows, wildlife & snow.

[Aithnea]

I agree, this is a brilliant idea.  I'm a SAHM to my 6 month old DD.  She is my first baby and I am slowly adjusting to being a stay-at-home parent instead of a member of the work force.  Well I am loving my time with my daughter I miss the social interaction that my work brought.  For the new year I became a vegetarian.  I take a ton of photos, knit, and somewhere in there I find time to write.  I grew up in Northern British Columbia, but moved to the big city 3 years ago when my husband got a job down here.  It's a lovely city, but I miss the North where things moved at a much slower pace.  Still his family is down here and it's nice being close to them.

[HappyHappyMama]

Great Idea!  Hi! I am a married stay at home mama to 3 kids, 2 boys 6 & 5 and a little girl who is 2 1/2 . we have moved around a lot the past couple years , recentley moved again, and now I am staying put otherwise I may go off the deep end, lol  if we are blessed with more babies we will be so happy! we have 2 dogs. we love camping and being out doors.  gardening, and trying to be crunchy in this un crunchy world.! would love to chat with others who share the same interests :)

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[princesstutu]

I've offered telephone support to mamas across the country for 7+ years now.  If anyone needs to talk, PM me.  I'm on the West Coast.

I have references, too. 

I am not comfy just putting my personal info on this thread, although I think it's a great idea! 

[asraidevin]

Skype! Who has skype? Free calling if you have a mic/webcam. You don't have to do video.

[faithsstuff]

I have skype!  We should have a skype 'n' wine group chat ;).  I meant wine as in the beverage, but I could definately do a bit of the verbal kind as well :)  I have a two year old ds who may be autistic, we're shleppign through the process. We're also hosting a 16 year old foreign exchange student and live in Atlanta.  Anyone want to e-mail or chat let me know.  You have to be a real mama, When I want to feel one upped and inferior I just go to playgroup

[sdm1024]

I concur that this is a great idea.

I'm a married SAHM mom of 4, stepmother to 2. Ages range from 2-11. I live in upstate NY, and while I have a few acquaintances, most of them either work during the day or aren't parents and just don't completely "get me". I have Skype too although I've only used it a couple of times .  I'm totally up for helping another mamma thru a tough time!

[asraidevin]

I was needing support this morning. My little monkey refused to sleep even though I knew he was tired. Took me over an hour to get him to sleep and I had to skip my errands. I'm supposed to go visit my job and tell them I won't be returning.

[scoter99]

I LOVE the idea for SAH support emails, and especially a phone line to call!  That would be amazing.  I too live in a rural area where cotton and tobacco fields abound.  I don't know of any other SAHM's in my area.  I've only lived in this town for a year.  I am so desperately lonely here.  I miss my moms group I was a part of in SC where we lived for 5 years and where both my ds and dd were born.  We moved to this small town b/c of my dh's job. OYE.....

Anyway, I digress,  I am lacking in support.  Not from DH, however,  he is amazing.  I miss my friends and being able to vent and I think an email support would be a great idea!!! 

[MamitaM]

I'm a first time mama and my son is 5 months old (tomorrow). I'm also a single stay at home mama. Before I was pregnant I didn't have many friends and the ones I did have don't have kids and they are so busy so we don't see each other much. I put in a huge effort to meet new friends who were also mamas and we've formed a small play group each week. Three of the mamas are actually from MDC, two of them posted to say they were new in town and wanted friends and one is a woman I donate my milk to. We're all stay at home mamas with little ones close in age. I get bored at home all day and have no routine with anything and I can never remember my appointments. I really need to organize myself better.

[Snapdragon]

I don't really want to join the email part, but I totally want to join the mdc thread about this. I have been trying since ds was born 11 months ago to find a group of or even a few moms with babies to hang out with regularly. I thought for sure there would be groups of other moms wanting the same thing- but I have had the hardest time finding this! In the town we were living in there was a small group that met a few times and then disapated. I tried to keep it going but others weren't interested. then I found a playgroup for babies in the next town but the crowd there was very exclusive feeling - I went once and did not feel good there at all. then we moved up to another town near by and there is a local group- I finally made it to the group last week and everyone was nice- but I didn't really connect with anyone yet and the babies were all younger than ds. there were only 4 others there, but I will go again- and I have sort of a hard time connecting with women friends- sort of a theme in my life- there are some people I have been slowly connecting with but their kids are toddler age or older. I feel bad for ds and for me that we are not hanging out with other babies practically at all. I don't know if this is the right thread to even vent about this! I am just sad about this because I thought that once I had a baby that i would find some other moms with babies and we would have some kind of regular thing. And I have put so much effort into finding groups and trying to make it work, but where I live there isn't too much going on. there is a group of moms who all seem to be friendswith each other in the next town over where we used to live- anyway- but I just did not feel good around them in this weird way.  I always felt kind of bad around them- they had this unfriendly exclusive kind of cold vibe. So maybe I am picky but I just want some nice peaceful open hearted moms with babies to get together with regularly! Still looking and still hoping more people will come to this small group I went to last wk.

[The Imp and I]

Just reading this made me feel better! so thankyou. I', a married SAHM with a 1yo and its really been a rollercoaster. we went from farm and horse operation to apartment inner city in three months post partum and it knocked me for six. It also left me very isolated as i haven't found anything i fit with here in the city. So i have a pation of greenery and a house full of books and a hankering for a cat.