My mom lives about an hour away, but our relationship is extremely stressful. She also barged in on us several times while I labored with DS1. Not sure I can handle seeing her even if she visits to watch DS1.
DH's parents are another story. Stressful altogether. They have disrespected me several times, calling what they do "out of love".
We have never left DH with a babysitter, other than a few times when we tried out church nursery. We never left him there again, and DS1 now stays with us at church and we walk out together whenever he gets antsy.
So that leaves us with bringing him to the hospital with us. Is anyone else doing this? I would have preferred to birth at home, but I am just not comfortable enough with that idea to do that. I am also concerned that I could be taken away for a C/S (I am praying for a VBAC)...and then who would watch DS1 other than DH? And in that case, DH would not be present for DD2's birth...
Does anyone have any kind of insight into my situation? Suggestions? Experiences?
Also, DS1 has several severe food allergies. Even well meaning friends who claim to "get it" bring out bags of nuts around DS until I speak up. DS1 is 2.5. He usually speaks up about foods and asks if something is safe or not, but he's only 2...he doesn't always and I can't handle the thought of him not being safe while I'm labor...
Sorry, this has just been weighing on me and making my heart race...thank you for your thoughts.