I recently had a 25+ minute long conversation with my DD's father. I knew things had been quiet for far too long. Short background is that he tends to be quite emotionally/verbally abusive.
At home, DD takes everything in. She just turned 20 months and has been speaking in sentences since about 14 months--but ONLY when she wants to/has a purpose. She flat out refuses to talk, sometimes, which makes it hard to guage her capabilities. Her vocabulary is upwards of at least 200 words and she has a sense of "I", "you," and "me," with their differences. Sometimes she babbles like she is carrying on a conversation and others she carries on conversations. One example is when she got water in her nose/mouth while blowing bubbles in the bathtub at about 16 months, she told me, "I din mean to do that." I can hear her practicing at night and early morning when she thinks no one is listening. She doesn't like to say things in front of people unless she thinks she has it perfectly.
She plays, pretends to read while throwing in a letter or a couple words, here and there, that she IS reading (from books we may not even have read yet). She has already started learning some of the motions to many of the children's songs. She usually is very social with other children when with me, and has been playing short songs, like "Twinkle Twinkle Little Star," from hearing them, on the keyboard.
At her father's, however, he and his mother describe her as, "having a glazed look, sometimes for 3-4 minutes, then going back to normal," and "not talking." He says something is "seriously wrong," and is concerned at her walking on things on the floor, "like they aren't there," (she has always walked on things, but she also tries to do it). His mother compared her to a dog they used to have that had seizures and they want to drag her all over the place for a second opinion.
Any thoughts or recommendations? Even my counselor can see that DD is incredibly bright and happy. I'm unsure what is going on.