I am a single SAHM of a beautiful barnacle daughter, most days I feel like she has taken root on my arm. Last night we were up ALL night and again this morning, missing preschool AGAIN. It is my only breaktime and I am desperate and now I am totally frustrated. My daughter is screaming in her bedroom and I don't know where to go from here. I don't even want to go up there. I need to calm down, I can hear her smashing things but I don't trust myself to be in her presence. WHat do you do when things get intense?
What do you do when you can't calm down
another vote here for eating something! also, i tend to feel better if i take out my frustratsions physically. i seriously PUNCH my bed. i feel like that is so opposite of what i strive to be like, but sometimes i just want to hit something lol and i dont want it to be my child. when my ds is screaming and throwing a fit, that is when i first, feed him, then give in and play with him. i will always want "my" time, but he will only be little once.
Hummmm, don't know your childs age but preschool could mean from 3 to 5 yrs old? Up all night and in a really rotten mood this morning. I would first give the child some ibuprofen or something because I would guess she is in some sort of pain, and that can cause the sweetest child to go nuts.
I also find heading out of the house can help. If she is in a room where she is safe then you head outside so you really get a bit more distance. Do a little bit of exercise if you can, jump roap, shoot some hoops, run on the spot. Something to get you physically moving will help decrease your stress level. if you're still stressed is there someone you can call or text and say how your normally dd is driving you nuts and being a real ^%#$%$ ? Verbalising always helps me, just because it's sharing how I feel and not being judged.
I've been there. I've smashed a remote control on a table instead of taking frustration out on ds (ds was in a different room and couldn't see or hear me). I've also kicked a laundry basket which resulted in a hole in a wall which just made me laugh. Cheap thin plasterboard!!
Hope the two of you are feeling better!!!
I usually go out on my balcony and take a breath of fresh air. or i sit really calmly and breathe. or i lock myself in a room and breathe. or I make some tea.
i also try to remember that she's clingy (i also have a barnacle child) because she is unable to communicate a need, and I try to establish what that might be: food, sleep, pain relief, entertainment, exercise, affection... and usually once i've discovered and fulfilled her need, the clingy-ness stops. and if it doesn't, i remind myself that "this too shall pass" and that it won't always be like this. because it won't.