a friend recently had a baby that she was completely unprepared for--and when i say completely, i mean she found out she was pregnant at 39 weeks and delivered a week later. right after she found out, i lent her some baby books [at her request]. i lent her my best ones, because those were the ones with [in my opinion] the soundest information.
after the baby came, i made her a gift basket with bf'ing supplies and snacks and stuff. i also put a couple other loaner things in a separate bag [marked 'more loaner stuff!'], including my very first wrap and my mother's minder bracelet. i had to leave it all with her boyfriend, so i didn't get to see her or talk to her about the stuff.
it's been two months. how long is too long to continue to wait for her to return the stuff? i fully understand that having a baby brings insanity into your life, and she had a much crazier time than i did--no time to plan, having to move back in with her parents in that brief time, and all the emotional stuff that goes along with a completely unplanned baby. also, dcf had to get involved because she smoked pot regularly until she found out, and now they're doing unscheduled visits and she has to go to some 'rehab classes' and stuff. because of all this, she has completely retreated from all her friends, is not returning phone calls or emails, or visiting anyone besides occasionally her boyfriend's mom.
so i get that she's going through some major stuff. but i'm starting to get a little nervous about it, mainly about the wrap; and there are some questions/things that have come up that i really would have liked those resources for. i haven't emailed her in weeks, because i don't want to hound her. i facebooked her once or twice in the beginning saying 'hope everything's going well!' or whatever, with no reply, and then sent a message saying 'hey could you just let me know you got the gift basket' and got a very brief affirmative response back. should i start to bug her? wait it out a little longer? this got a little rambly but wdyt? thanks :)