Clutterwarrior - I had not seen that, but looking at the website, it does sound like a good idea, I am going to have to do some more looking into that, thank you.
BunnySlippers - I think one of my main issues is that that is how I like to clean, just whip through it all and get it done, and that hasn't been possible with my toddler and baby. I can get get done what I can in a few stolen minutes here or there, I don't even usually eat breakfast because our morning are pretty hectic with DH trying to run out the door, trying to get DD1 breakfast, dressing / nursing / changing / pottying everyone, and DD2 is generally very grumpy in the mornings and will not be set down without bursting into tears.
Philomom - No, the livingroom isn't too bad, in fact, it was the easiest room to conquer and why I was starting there. There are little bins and baskets around the room for toys, and everything does have a place to go, it just seems like while I am busy picking something up DD1 has several more things dumped out, played with, and disregarded by the time I finish with one. The livingroom probably gets put back in order pretty regularly, it's the rest of the house that is messier >.<
The basement was our main playroom, and has a built in playhouse, craft area, large desk, and a small room off of it with three platforms for playing or napping. So it is all going to be getting redone and I am hoping to move some things out of the livingroom into there to help clear space. We were running daycare from home until September, so all of our kids' toys were separate, so we will have a whole lot of going through, sorting, and getting rid of to do with the mass of stuff from running daycare, then it will be nice to only have the things we want for our own kids, and the majority of them downstairs instead of the living room. We don't have a door to our basement, it is all open on one side of the stair well into the living room at the top, and the bottom half of the stairs is open to the basement as well, with rails and spindles that the cats can get through. There is a gate at the top and at the bottom, but no real way to block off cats getting through or I would be shutting them out until we had things finished.
Bejeweled - There are baskets around the room for toys, they just don't stay in them What is on the couch is my clean laundry so I can fold it, I would leave it clear but I don't know where else to do the laundry, this way I can fold it in the room with my kids. Our washer and drying are in a small bathroom with no where to put the clothes.
Crayfish - I hear what you're saying, I think that is our biggest issue with laundry. We have way too many clothes. It needs to be gone through, but I can't stay caught up on the everyday things, it's hard to want to start another project! I do think that the kids have a reasonable amount of toys, though. The problem is that they are all in the living room, with bad storage solutions. They don't have a bedroom, we have a family bed, and our basement has been daycare, so the living room has been their only space. As I was saying above, we have stopped doing daycare, at least for now, so once the basement is done being fixed I am hoping to move most of their toys downstairs. Where there are cabinets, shelves, drawers, closet and so forth once we clear out all the things we had for daycare. We may open back up some day, but it will at least be a few years I think so I am going to box up everything we want to keep for daycare and move it to the garage, and get rid of the rest.
The thing with large bins for us (which is what I prefered as a kid, although I don't know about when I was 3) is that DD1 is very particular and detail oriented, she likes to have things organized and will get very frustrated if they are not and just start dumping everything out. She has a beautiful kitchen, but she will not play with it if it is messy, as goes for the train table in the livingroom and everything else. Hopefully this will be resolved some when we can use the basement, and we are working on making a bedroom for her as well, although that may be a while.
Lexapurple - I know what you mean, and I may be willing to put DD2 in a contraption just to catch up, but I haven't got one anyway. When we are really panicked we will sometimes let DD1 watch a movie, and I don't really feel like a movie every once in a while is such a horrible thing for a 3 y/o. We only have Miyazaki films, which are all very beautiful and as an artist I can feel like they are enriching rather than simply mind numbing.
Philomom - The huge issue I am having here is that there is no "after they go to bed" or "during naps". I've been up until between 6:30am and 7:30am with DD@ the last 2 weeks I can't get her to go to sleep. I am really operating on very little sleep. It wasn't as bad before then, but she has never gone to sleep before 2 or 3am, and by that time I want to be trying to get what sleep I can, not getting to work, before I get up with DD1 in the morning who goes to bed much earlier. And DD1 doesn't nap. It's easier to get some things done when DD2 naps, but she doesn't nap a whole lot and DD1 is all over me when DD2 is asleep since it is the only time we have some one-on-one.