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post #21 of 58

I find my best cleaning times are in the morning before breakfast, and when I get in the door in the evening.

I do a crazy fast clean, I don't hum or haw, or take my time, I just start rushing around like a mad-woman, then I get to eat.

I seem to be motivated by food.  

post #22 of 58

You know, the pictures don't seem that bad. Maybe clear off the couch and find some toy boxes to throw the kid's toys in? Then, run the vacuum and your done.

 

In the basement... I'd let your dad do what he could to make it good enough for cats and storage. Having a cat door in the door to my basement means that my home never smells like a littler box.

post #23 of 58
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Originally Posted by philomom View Post

You know, the pictures don't seem that bad. Maybe clear off the couch and find some toy boxes to throw the kid's toys in? Then, run the vacuum and your done.

 

In the basement... I'd let your dad do what he could to make it good enough for cats and storage. Having a cat door in the door to my basement means that my home never smells like a littler box.


yeahthat.gif I agree. I would get a bunch of pretty baskets and have them around to throw the toys in. Even if it were a big bunch of toys in one corner, at least most of the room would be clear. Run the vacuum and done. I'd make a pact with myself to always leave the couch clear. I did this with my dining room table. NOTHING is ever allowed on it, except fresh flowers or a plant. It makes a huge difference just to have that one space clear at all times.
post #24 of 58

 

Re:
 
"Which is why after getting things clean again, I really need to figure out how to help myself be able to maintain things. It should be possible. It really should. I will deal with that when I get there, though."
 
Is it crazy that when I look at that living room, I think "laundry hampers"? Several big, lidded, wicker or canvas laundry hampers. One for clean laundry waiting to be folded. One for dirty laundry waiting to go to the laundry room. One for largeish toys like stuffed animals and that toy car. And one, or perhaps two smaller ones to reduce the 'crush' effect at the bottom, for the little stuff like Legos and blocks and the zillions of other tiny toys.
 
Then cleaning up the living room could be a grab-and-toss process, rather than a process of putting a bazillion things away.
 
I do also think that the common phenomenon of a house that can be cleaned, that apparently has a place to put stuff away, but that falls apart shortly after being cleaned, is usually about too much stuff. Even if there's technically "enough" storage for the stuff, I think that there's something about the sheer number of objects that makes it easy to fall apart, and hard to put together.
 
Crayfish
 
Edited to add: I re-read my post and I sounded rather superior, to myself. So I wanted to return to note that my living room is also chaos right now, and I don't even have kids destroying it. :) I believe in the "get rid of stuff" advice, but I'm not finished following it yet.
post #25 of 58

You picture doesn't look bad and you can do it! Start with removing everything from the couch and chairs into big baskets and then arrange what ever goes there neatly. It will make your room look neater immediately. I had done this during times when I wanted to look for "how to get motivated" online instead of cleaning. I also have pushed all of the toys in one corner before sorting them into bins and putting them away neatly just to see that clear space. It does provide huge boost and than you can deal with sorting and things.

Also, I was not able to do flylady online but I often refer to her book "shine you sink" or something for inspiration.

 

 

I once was a member of a group of crunchy moms. Most of the members SAHM, had several kids infants included, made food from scratch and had clean houses. I thought that they just knew something I didn't and they were managing doing exactly the same things I did. I felt so inferior to them. I had one child and berelly had time to cook and my house was cluttered.

The moment of truth came during unplug week when those moms unplugged and started whining and crying because without even an hour TV show they could not get things completed in their houses. When I found out that they were relying on one eyed babysitter to keep their houses clean, I got easier on myself because I realized that putting my child in front of TV for an hour would have given me uninterapted time to complete my household chores. I did not have a TV to begin with and was not going to get one just so i can clean and cook. But I loosened up about needing distractions for my child so I can complete my chores. Having an exersoucer or something like that would have saved me a lot of frustration when DD was very little.

So my advise to you is, don't try to be super mom who can do everything with babe in the sling and never puts her down. You can have that room cleaned in 15-20 min, you DD will not suffer from being in the contraption of any sort for that long if she is interested and you will feel better about yourself at the end.

post #26 of 58

No, you don't need a tv to clean house. Clean after they got to bed or do a few quiet things during their naptime.

post #27 of 58
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Clutterwarrior - I had not seen that, but looking at the website, it does sound like a good idea, I am going to have to do some more looking into that, thank you.

 

BunnySlippers - I think one of my main issues is that that is how I like to clean, just whip through it all and get it done, and that hasn't been possible with my toddler and baby. I can get get done what I can in a few stolen minutes here or there, I don't even usually eat breakfast because our morning are pretty hectic with DH trying to run out the door, trying to get DD1 breakfast, dressing / nursing / changing / pottying everyone, and DD2 is generally very grumpy in the mornings and will not be set down without bursting into tears.

 

Philomom - No, the livingroom isn't too bad, in fact, it was the easiest room to conquer and why I was starting there. There are little bins and baskets around the room for toys, and everything does have a place to go, it just seems like while I am busy picking something up DD1 has several more things dumped out, played with, and disregarded by the time I finish with one. The livingroom probably gets put back in order pretty regularly, it's the rest of the house that is messier >.<

 

The basement was our main playroom, and has a built in playhouse, craft area, large desk, and a small room off of it with three platforms for playing or napping. So it is all going to be getting redone and I am hoping to move some things out of the livingroom into there to help clear space. We were running daycare from home until September, so all of our kids' toys were separate, so we will have a whole lot of going through, sorting, and getting rid of to do with the mass of stuff from running daycare, then it will be nice to only have the things we want for our own kids, and the majority of them downstairs instead of the living room. We don't have a door to our basement, it is all open on one side of the stair well into the living room at the top, and the bottom half of the stairs is open to the basement as well, with rails and spindles that the cats can get through. There is a gate at the top and at the bottom, but no real way to block off cats getting through or I would be shutting them out until we had things finished. shy.gif

 

Bejeweled - There are baskets around the room for toys, they just don't stay in them lol.gif What is on the couch is my clean laundry so I can fold it, I would leave it clear but I don't know where else to do the laundry, this way I can fold it in the room with my kids. Our washer and drying are in a small bathroom with no where to put the clothes.

 

Crayfish - I hear what you're saying, I think that is our biggest issue with laundry. We have way too many clothes. It needs to be gone through, but I can't stay caught up on the everyday things, it's hard to want to start another project! I do think that the kids have a reasonable amount of toys, though. The problem is that they are all in the living room, with bad storage solutions. They don't have a bedroom, we have a family bed, and our basement has been daycare, so the living room has been their only space. As I was saying above, we have stopped doing daycare, at least for now, so once the basement is done being fixed I am hoping to move most of their toys downstairs. Where there are cabinets, shelves, drawers, closet and so forth once we clear out all the things we had for daycare. We may open back up some day, but it will at least be a few years I think so I am going to box up everything we want to keep for daycare and move it to the garage, and get rid of the rest.

 

The thing with large bins for us (which is what I prefered as a kid, although I don't know about when I was 3) is that DD1 is very particular and detail oriented, she likes to have things organized and will get very frustrated if they are not and just start dumping everything out. She has a beautiful kitchen, but she will not play with it if it is messy, as goes for the train table in the livingroom and everything else. Hopefully this will be resolved some when we can use the basement, and we are working on making a bedroom for her as well, although that may be a while.

 

Lexapurple - I know what you mean, and I may be willing to put DD2 in a contraption just to catch up, but I haven't got one anyway. When we are really panicked we will sometimes let DD1 watch a movie, and I don't really feel like a movie every once in a while is such a horrible thing for a 3 y/o. We only have Miyazaki films, which are all very beautiful and as an artist I can feel like they are enriching rather than simply mind numbing.

 

Philomom - The huge issue I am having here is that there is no "after they go to bed" or "during naps". I've been up until between 6:30am and 7:30am with DD@ the last 2 weeks greensad.gif I can't get her to go to sleep. I am really operating on very little sleep. It wasn't as bad before then, but she has never gone to sleep before 2 or 3am, and by that time I want to be trying to get what sleep I can, not getting to work, before I get up with DD1 in the morning who goes to bed much earlier. And DD1 doesn't nap. It's easier to get some things done when DD2 naps, but she doesn't nap a whole lot and DD1 is all over me when DD2 is asleep since it is the only time we have some one-on-one.

post #28 of 58

I usually clean up the house real quick every evening...if I am not feeling well- I at least put one load of laundry on and load up the dishwasher, it makes it so much easier in the morning! orngbiggrin.gif

post #29 of 58

Juise, I'm reading and rooting for you!  I agree with everyone else, your living room really doesn't look like that big of a deal.  My living room looks like that most of the time, except for the 5 minutes in between when I throw all the toddler's toys back in the baskets, and when she takes them all out again!

 

Would you mind if I give you some babywearing advice?  I bet you could get so much more done with that baby on your back!  It sounds like you only have a sling, right?  You can do a back carry with a sling.  Here's the video that taught me how.  You can also do a torso carry with a beach towel.  Here's a video for that.  The video kind of makes it seem like that torso carry is only fine for emergency situations, and maybe not secure enough for safe times.  The tuck and roll method she shows is actually the method that women in certain parts of Africa use to tie their torso carries, though, it's very secure.  Torso carries are particularly good for housework because your arms are totally free, and the babies don't seem to mind when you bend over as much as they do when being worn in other ways.  I'm just hoping to give you some more ammo in the battle against your house! 

 

Sigh, why can't housework be like in Mary Poppins, and we could all just snap and watch the toys march themselves back into the toy box?

post #30 of 58
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Originally Posted by BunnySlippers View Post

I find my best cleaning times are in the morning before breakfast, and when I get in the door in the evening.

I do a crazy fast clean, I don't hum or haw, or take my time, I just start rushing around like a mad-woman, then I get to eat.

I seem to be motivated by food.  



LOL-I'm the exact same way.



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Originally Posted by lexapurple View Post

You picture doesn't look bad and you can do it! Start with removing everything from the couch and chairs into big baskets and then arrange what ever goes there neatly. It will make your room look neater immediately. I had done this during times when I wanted to look for "how to get motivated" online instead of cleaning. I also have pushed all of the toys in one corner before sorting them into bins and putting them away neatly just to see that clear space. It does provide huge boost and than you can deal with sorting and things.

Also, I was not able to do flylady online but I often refer to her book "shine you sink" or something for inspiration.

 

 

I once was a member of a group of crunchy moms. Most of the members SAHM, had several kids infants included, made food from scratch and had clean houses. I thought that they just knew something I didn't and they were managing doing exactly the same things I did. I felt so inferior to them. I had one child and berelly had time to cook and my house was cluttered.

The moment of truth came during unplug week when those moms unplugged and started whining and crying because without even an hour TV show they could not get things completed in their houses. When I found out that they were relying on one eyed babysitter to keep their houses clean, I got easier on myself because I realized that putting my child in front of TV for an hour would have given me uninterapted time to complete my household chores. I did not have a TV to begin with and was not going to get one just so i can clean and cook. But I loosened up about needing distractions for my child so I can complete my chores. Having an exersoucer or something like that would have saved me a lot of frustration when DD was very little.

So my advise to you is, don't try to be super mom who can do everything with babe in the sling and never puts her down. You can have that room cleaned in 15-20 min, you DD will not suffer from being in the contraption of any sort for that long if she is interested and you will feel better about yourself at the end.


I completely agree.

 

 

 

 

You can do it! I'll be reading along and watching. I tackled the worse of toy disasters today...dd's bedroom, otherwise I'd feel inspired by you. I'm too tired to clean anymore. lol

 

 

I totally feel you on the exhaustion and I understand the not having any time w/o kids. My youngest (20mths tomorrow) is a nightowl and my oldest (4) is an early bird. nut.gif

post #31 of 58
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Okay guys, here it is, the horrible, horrible documentation that I will be deleting from my computer as soon as I post and hope (once again) to never see the likes of again. I was not joking when I said the living room was not very bad! Not compared to everything else.

I have: tonight, tomorrow, Saturday morning. It is already midnight tonight. Me, two kids, the battle for the homestead fencing.gif

 

The terrible truth bawling.gif

post #32 of 58
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Bathroom A

 

Bathroom A 1Bathroom A 2

post #33 of 58
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Bedroom. I forgot I was going to take pre-pictures until after I started, so the laundry on the bed and by the door is laundry to be washed, sorted into 3 piles. It was all on the floor. Wash now, wash soon, wash last. I am washing the one pile now and tomorrow, and the rest I am going to have to hide until after this weekend, it just isn't possible. bag.gif

 

Bedroom 1Bedroom 2

Bedroom 3

post #34 of 58
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Dining area. Some of the stuff is there because I was just using it on the basement or because we are having carpet put in down there tomorrow. (i.e. steam cleaner, vacuum, etc) Did I mention that? People will be here tomorrow morning to carpet the basement!

 

Dining Area 1Dining Area 2

post #35 of 58
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Kitchen

 

Kitchen 1Kitchen 2

post #36 of 58
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Laundry Room / Bathroom 2

 

Laundry Room 1Laundry Room 2

post #37 of 58
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What we generously refer to as, "The Library"

 

Library 1Library 2Library 3Library 4Library 5Library 6

post #38 of 58
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Bathroom 3

 

Bathroom 3Bathroom 3 2

 

post #39 of 58
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The living room that was just clean since my last post, excepting the couch full of laundry. I would also like to note that the dining area was also just clean Monday, as was most of the kitchen, although not all the counter clutter. The bouncing horse is up from the basement for carpeting, although I got most the rest upstairs, the crib is a remnant from daycare that I took out of the closet to have a safe place to put DD2 in the basement while I was getting it cleared out.

 

Living Room 1Living Room 2

post #40 of 58
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And yet today I finished DD1's birthday shirt I promised her and made a blog post! Ahhh! This is why I went to art school for 6 years and never graduated! I get so terrified that I ignore greensad.gif (To be fair, though, the blog post was made in short spurts while nursing)

 

Birthday Shirt

 

Aside from cleaning, add to the list baking a cake, decorating, making party food and beverages, putting together treat bags, and painting the basement, although my parents are coming early for the party, they will be here tomorrow night to help with painting. Oh and shoveling snow, because our driveway is a tunnel 3 1/2 feet deep with a skinny path to the door.

 

Please think happy productive and victorious thoughts for me! goodvibes.gif

 

(P.S. I would like to reassert that this is worse than is normal because of the flooding disaster, so much work has gone into that, instead of elsewhere. Still. It is what I have to contend with now.)

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