We heard from the judge- TPR! One parent's rights are now terminated and the other will be a shoe in once he's found. Now, how to move on for dfs, now age 4. Quick reminder, he had no obvious attachment to birth mom, having spent no more than 18 months with her in his first 3.5 years. She's incarcerated, impulsive, and has proven time and again, untrustworthy. This is the second time dfs has been in the foster care system. We were about to launch into phone calls with her when the decision came through. Now, what sort of connection do we maintain?
Dfs now has some interest in her since she has sent many pictures she's traced (along with many things that were inappropriate for a child). Our caseworker suggests that birth mom write a "good bye letter", especially since dfs did once say that he never got that chance, to say good-bye. I'm good with that since we can preview it to be sure it's ok.
Can anyone tell me what sort of annual contact they have with a birth parent that protects your identity? I'd hate to set up a PO Box just for a once a year letter. DHHS will obviously slip out of the picture once he's adopted (I still can't believe it!). Do the birth parents write inappropriate things? Do they also say things like, I miss you, I want to live with you again or Daddy (out of picture for 6 months) and I love you very much? I'm just worried about the emotional trauma and guilt. If you only send letters annually, how do you know they reach her/him? She will likely move quite often given her past decade.
Thanks. I so love this forum!