i see you posted this yesterday, what did you end up doing in regards to prepping the kids, have the come home from their visit, and if so how did they react when they got home?
all i cant say is reassure them of your love and the love of their father and that you two are there for the long haul andnot going anywhere ever. be honest with them, you dont know why their mom is that way, you cant speak for her, you can only speak for you and how you feel about them.
in time as they get older they will either not want anything to do with her, or they will hunt her out and either seek a relationship with her or they will go to her for answers why she abandoned them.
giving them a safe stable loving home is all you can do to prevent any damage that could be caused by her abandonment of them. i am thankful to think that they have a loving smom who really loves and cares about their feelings.
let us know how the visit went, vs
Im looking in on this thread to see how your visit went too :).
I wish Id seen it yesterday. my mother was very absent until I was 11 years old (when I went to live with her because I hated my now very very beloved stepmom). It is so hard, especially during the arrival of new siblings. I know I always left with a sense of disgust that she was caring for and loving them, but not me.