The games...ah the games.

[Halfasianmomma]

Bit of background:

XH hasn't seen DD since May last year. I have sole custody. We're divorced.

He sends my family emails every month or so, either insulting, boasting or threatening stuff that he can't really be gone after for.

In December I received my first c.s. cheque, garnished directly from his pay. In January, I received another cheque.

Last week, XH emailed me threatening not to pay c.s. anymore. Four days later, the guy overseeing my file at the C.S. Office called me to say that XH called him, saying he was no longer employed. No details on whether or not he quit or was fired. I doubt he was fired four days after he said he'd stop paying c.s. Anyhow.

I received one more little cheque which was garnished from his last pay but was told that I wouldn't be getting more. How surprising.  I was also told that if he tries to collect unemployment, he'll be garnished to 50%, but I doubt he's got the patience and knowledge to get through the necessary paperwork. I think he's found a way for his company to pay him under the table.

Last night, I received a FB message from his 3rd babymama (she has sole custody and he owes her 10K or more in arrears). She and I are keeping in touch for the kids' sake. She told me that now XH is emailing *her*, telling that since he's not paying me c.s., he'll start paying her. She further told me that he's been emailing her rather regularly, telling her how horrible I am.

My first comment was literally W.T.F.?

Why these games?

Just GO AWAY already!

[Super~Single~Mama]

Originally Posted by Halfasianmomma 

Why these games?

Just GO AWAY already!

Fingers crossed!!!!

But really, I hope he just leaves you alone.  Can you change your contact info or block him from your email and FB?

[NolaRiordan]

Originally Posted by Halfasianmomma 

My first comment was literally W.T.F.?

Why these games?

Just GO AWAY already!

Honestly I know this is totally perplexing but my advice is don't waste your energy asking why. There's no reason that you could ever understand anyway. Just focus on documenting what he says and does so you are prepared in case anything goes to court. And do what you can to protect your kid.

[MamitaM]

Geeze he sounds like a little kid! I'm sorry you have to deal with that crap. Is there a way to find out if his company is paying him under the table? Maybe the person in charge of your child support case can look into it? I can't believe any business would pay under the table to help someone avoid paying child support. Is there a way to block his e-mails from going through? Or you can save them in case you need them in the future, just don't respond to them. I've been told that not responding is really important.

[Halfasianmomma]

I have never responded to his emails, on the advice of my now very-pregnant lawyer. I do however keep receiving them and filing them in a folder named MORON for possible future reference. My father cannot change his email as it is associated with his business, and my mother's email is her work email. He's not on my FB, but babymama #3 is.

As for finding out if he's being paid under the table, the c.s. office is looking into it, but it'll take quite some time to get answers. I don't really want to know...I just want him to GO.

[doubledutch]

but your parents could block him, right?

i'd ask babymama #3 if he told her in an email that he was going to start paying her child support, to please forward that to you or to the child support office/enforcement as evidence that he still has an income.

[blessingscome]

Originally Posted by doubledutch 

but your parents could block him, right?

i'd ask babymama #3 if he told her in an email that he was going to start paying her child support, to please forward that to you or to the child support office/enforcement as evidence that he still has an income.

I was thinking the same. Fingers crossed that there is email evidence!
 

[Halfasianmomma]

hmm hadn't thought of that...good idea!

I'll see what proof there is to be had.