My husband's mother is a compulsive shopper and hoarder. He grew up with her being like that. She would often ask him to hide things in his room so that his dad wouldn't know she bought them, and give him presents to "keep quiet". Their basement was totally full of things she bought and never used.
He complains that our house is always a mess. We have very little storage and what storage there is has things we don't use anymore. A lot of it is his stuff. Old game systems (and all of the games and accessories) that he hasn't hooked up in ten years. Hunting equipment that he doesn't use because the friends he used to hunt with no longer live in the area. Shoes that he will never wear again. I could go on and on. If I ask him if we can get rid of stuff he tells me to put in the the closet or a drawer and he will look at it later. Of course they are out of sight, out of mind so later never comes. I finally got him to remove the hard drives of SIX old computers we had sitting around so I can take them to the recycling place. Arghhhh...
I am trying to declutter the best I can, but if I don't have a place to put the stuff we do use then the house will always look messy. I feel resentful towards him because he complains about the way things look but he won't meet me halfway and get rid of stuff so we have storage room. I have tried the storage container route and have a few full of stuff but honestly I don't want to spend a hundred dollars on storage containers to hold junk we will never use (and he would say, "You spent $100 on WHAT???" LOL). I think part of it may be "this represents my old life before kids and added responsibilites" and he just isn't ready to let go of that. I used to be more attached to things but I've gotten practical over the years. :)
I need to find a way to make this work for both of us but it's hard if he won't budge.