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post #21 of 30

DH and I bring it up occasionally. Right now we're thinking him taking off 2 weeks. He's self employed so taking a lot of time off can be kind of stressful. Like you worry if you're gone too long people will find someone else or whatever, lol. Anyway, my Mama helped me postpartum last time and with this being a summer babe she would be able to again so I'm hoping for that. In terms of DH staying home if I have my Mom's help it's mostly just so we can give our toddler a ton of attention so he doesn't feel left out, or like last weeks news so to speak, lol.

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I know DH is planning on taking one weeks vacation maybe more since he has 4 weeks a year.  He also has a job that he can work from home and just do conference calls for his meetings, so that is pretty handy. I am hoping the baby comes before my LO is out of school for the summer so we have a chance to adjust before she is home 100% of the time. Of course babe is due right in the middle of alpcaa birthing season so it should get interesting for a bit.


LOL, I was reading all the comments, thinking "yeah ... I'll be chasing kids, feeding chickens, gathering eggs, weeding the garden, canning preserves and maybe even milking goats on my babymoon."  The work doesn't slow down, and dh doesn't get any paid time off.  Thankfully, my family all live close (some VERY close ... like next door) and will be around to help out.  I was hoping for an extended maternity leave this time, but the fates shut me down again ... 6 weeks and back to the paying job. ;)

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I want a vaginal birth so bad!!!!!!!!! My scar is still numb and sore to the touch. I remember trying to sit up and nurse DD in the middle of the night and tears streaming down my face from the pain of the c-section, not to mention having it added onto the pain of first time breastfeeding! Whenever I would lay her in the pack and play to take a shower or make dinner, the process of getting her down and then picking her up was dreadful... Let's pray again for a natural vaginal birth so I can be up and about enjoying my new baby :) Not crying and drugged haha


I wish you a beautiful birth and speedy recovery!  My scar is still numb too.  I am not feeling fetal movement for about 4" up from my scar and 6" wide (above and below yes), and last week I just realized that I am not feeling BH either - I'm 6 weeks behind when I felt them with DD, but I lay down for an hour or so with hands on belly and I can feel the BH in my hands!  I do NOT like this lack of sensation and odd feeling in that area one little bit!!  Ok, that might not have been consoling, but wanted you to know that you aren't the only one.  I've asked around a bit, and it seems to be fairly common.  Recovering from a CS is horrid. I am truly sorry that so many of us have to deal with it.

 

I'm planning on convincing myself to take it easy this time around.  I was so determined to not let the surgery get me down and make me miss out on things, that I pushed it too hard last time.  I was 'everything as usual' within 2 weeks (struggling internally), DH was out of town at 2.5 weeks, and was mobile and doing most things myself in less than 12 hours (overnight).  I bled for 15 weeks.  Lesson learned.   I was also in too much pain to really enjoy the new family, and don't think I really had a babymoon.  I started activist work almost immediately because I was so absolutely angered at the conditions surrounding my daughter's birth.  I expect it to be much different this time around.  DH will be taking 2 weeks or so.  My mother will likely visit (she did last time), and we have an offer from DH's aunt.  She has all sons and hasn't been able to help out with the grandkids, so when she asked if she could stay with us for a week, I welcomed her offer!  Seems win win.  Also, DD is the first girl on that side for 2 generations, so she wants to maximize time with her too - will help me out immensely!  And right now I'm considering taking a bit of time off before the birth too ... I have some extra vacation and need to decide whether to take it before or after.  I don't plan on returning to this job after my leave, so ...

 

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Thanks so much! I think that I definitely needed more recovery time as well. I wanted to be up and with everyone and spending time with my DH because he was deploying soon...like when DD was exactly a month old! This time even if I get my VBAC, I'm going to take it nice and slow.... and enjoy my BabyMoon---> My Dh says this is the last baby so I'm gonna soak up all the love I can get! :)

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I wish you a beautiful birth and speedy recovery!  My scar is still numb too.  I am not feeling fetal movement for about 4" up from my scar and 6" wide (above and below yes), and last week I just realized that I am not feeling BH either - I'm 6 weeks behind when I felt them with DD, but I lay down for an hour or so with hands on belly and I can feel the BH in my hands!  I do NOT like this lack of sensation and odd feeling in that area one little bit!!  Ok, that might not have been consoling, but wanted you to know that you aren't the only one.  I've asked around a bit, and it seems to be fairly common.  Recovering from a CS is horrid. I am truly sorry that so many of us have to deal with it.

 

I'm planning on convincing myself to take it easy this time around.  I was so determined to not let the surgery get me down and make me miss out on things, that I pushed it too hard last time.  I was 'everything as usual' within 2 weeks (struggling internally), DH was out of town at 2.5 weeks, and was mobile and doing most things myself in less than 12 hours (overnight).  I bled for 15 weeks.  Lesson learned.   I was also in too much pain to really enjoy the new family, and don't think I really had a babymoon.  I started activist work almost immediately because I was so absolutely angered at the conditions surrounding my daughter's birth.  I expect it to be much different this time around.  DH will be taking 2 weeks or so.  My mother will likely visit (she did last time), and we have an offer from DH's aunt.  She has all sons and hasn't been able to help out with the grandkids, so when she asked if she could stay with us for a week, I welcomed her offer!  Seems win win.  Also, DD is the first girl on that side for 2 generations, so she wants to maximize time with her too - will help me out immensely!  And right now I'm considering taking a bit of time off before the birth too ... I have some extra vacation and need to decide whether to take it before or after.  I don't plan on returning to this job after my leave, so ...

 



 

post #25 of 30

I'm planning 1 week in bed, 1 week around bed (no stairs), and finally 1 week around the house.  Absolutely no visitors, no exceptions, the first week - well, except for the mw follow up & the pediatrician home visit.  I'm even iffy about visitors the 2nd week but I know my mom is going to be chomping at the bit to see LO.  For now I'm thinking immediate fam the 2nd week and extended fam can come the 3rd week.  DH will probably take a few days off after the birth & then work from home 2-3 days a week thereafter.  With this being our first & me becoming a SAHM I'm sooo looking forward to 3 straight weeks of no responsibility other than falling in love w/ LO & getting a great start at BFing!

 

I know nothing about making food to freeze... I'd better get started on learning!  If I don't stock our freezer I anticipate too much take out with DH in charge of meals. lol 

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Absolutely no visitors, no exceptions, the first week - well, except for the mw follow up & the pediatrician home visit.  I'm even iffy about visitors the 2nd week but I know my mom is going to be chomping at the bit to see LO.  


 

Really? You won't let anyone see the baby for the first week? May I ask why? I understand if you don't want friends and relatives to show up at inappropriate times and camp out, interrupting your rest, but it seems a little harsh to have a blanket ban. I've seen a number of posters here (on MDC, not necessarily on this thread)  proclaim a "no visit" period, and I always think it seems rather sad. Babies bring such joy to family and friends, it seems a bit extreme to keep them all at arms' length.  
 

 

post #27 of 30

I don't plan on keeping them at arm's length after our baby moon.  I see it as very special, private time for our immediate fam (me, DH, LO) and feel they will have unlimited time to see her for the rest of her life, so the first week(s) are just for us.  This is what my gut/instincts are telling me to do.  ETA: I realize the norm in our culture is family meeting a new babe within days of birth but I don't feel compelled to do it this way.

 

On a side note, just about everything I do is viewed as unconventional by my fam (they are generally "anti-natural", anti-AP, etc) so I don't need/want them around "helping" when I'm developing my own parenting style.  I don't anticipate anyone is going to take it personally because even though they have vastly different lifestyles, they still mostly respect mine.  The last thing I need to subject myself to during this tender, precious time is baby-training advice or my mom gaging aloud every time I mention the words "organic" or "breastfeed" lol

 

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Really? You won't let anyone see the baby for the first week? May I ask why? I understand if you don't want friends and relatives to show up at inappropriate times and camp out, interrupting your rest, but it seems a little harsh to have a blanket ban. I've seen a number of posters here (on MDC, not necessarily on this thread)  proclaim a "no visit" period, and I always think it seems rather sad. Babies bring such joy to family and friends, it seems a bit extreme to keep them all at arms' length.  
 

 



 


Edited by lyndie - 3/3/11 at 7:53am
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Edited by Tumble Bumbles - 4/10/11 at 5:04pm
post #29 of 30

Dh is taking 7-10 weeks like last time, well he took 10 or so last time. 

post #30 of 30

I've always heard of babymoom as referring to a vacation taken by mom and partner during the pregnancy; never in this context!

 

But that is besides the point. With DD, DH had been deployed 10 days prior, so my mom was with me and then my dad drove down to collect our stuff and my dog. At 5 days old, we ladies flew back to my parents' house for my 6 week maternity leave. It hadn't really occurred to me that I have much of a choice about how it will all go down this time around!

 

I suppose I'd like a week or so to veg around the house with just the 4 of us. I've been telling work to not plan on me until after Labor Day (8 weeks or so), but I'd really like to bring her to work very part time for another month or so following that. I work in retail, so I have to have full-time care lined up by the holidays (Halloween or so). DH is working reduced hours this summer while his students are at training along with most of his coworkers, which is more like 30-40 hrs a week instead of 60, so hopefully he can stay with us one day a week or something. Clearly I haven't given this a whole lot of thought!

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