First visit on sunday. needin some love.

[babygrey]

DH left almost a month ago. I know he's still watching me online, so I won't say much, but we had my PO hearing and he was awarded supervised daytime visits w 21mo dd. first visit is sunday. We're using an agency to supervise, so Im not worried about safety.
More I'm looking for advice on how to emotionally prepare myself, my dd and my ods (not dhs bioson and not visiting, but having a hard time thinking of all this) right now, it feels like theres.nothing I can do to.make this feel ok, but maybe some btdt advice would help? Mantras or meditations for me? Words to comfort ods? Things to send w dd?
Shes never been away from me all day. And I have to hand her off to a complete stranger. I have truly never put her in a strangers arms. Wah.
Eta sorry for the really annoying phone typos...

[lmevans]

I'm sorry, I don't have any advice. Just wanted to offer some hugs and positive thoughts for you! 

[rubelin]

try to focus on the fact that, while you do need to hand her to a stranger, that is only so the stranger can take her to her daddy, who she does know and will be happy to spend time with. Plus, supervised means that stranger will be watching her be with daddy and will make sure she's ok and that daddy is actually doing a good job with her (and will make a report if he isn't!)

the one good thing I can say for visitation after a split is that it does force a lot of men to spend quality time with their kids.

[lac_2233]

When my daughter went to visit her dad I cried all weekend.  And I mean ALL weekend.  She was 2.5 and I had never been away from her like that.  But then my sister pointed out that since she visited from Saturday am to Sunday pm I still saw her every day.  Even though she was gone for over 24 hours I technically saw her everyday.  That made it so much easier.  I know that wont help every mom since some kids go Friday night to Sunday, but it sounds like at least for now you will still see her everyday.  My daughter is now 4 and we both look forward to her visits with her dad.  I still worry and sometimes I even check up on her while she is there because I miss her so much.  But she deserves a relationship with him and some day she will grow up and know that I never interfered with that relationship.  Good luck and remember it's ok to cry, just try not to do in front of her!

[littlemer]

Yes don't worry, I'm sure things will be fine! Maybe you can have the agency person spend some time with her and you before they leave to visit her father - so it won't feel like a stranger really.  Or maybe give her a new toy or treat to have in the car ride over so she's otherwise occupied? Good luck, keep your chin up! :)

[Super~Single~Mama]

hugs hugs hugs.

Comfort yourself by knowing that she will be supervised, and that your ex cannot hurt you or her.  To help your dd, send a book she likes, and a toy that is comforting to her (or a bottle, or something else that will comfort her - didn't catch her age, sorry!).  Also send something for the car ride to help her be OK in a strange car.  If it will be all day pack her a lunch. 

It's not overnight, its just for the day.  Both of you will be ok!! 

Lastly, do something fun with you ods for the day, to keep you somewhat distracted.

HUGS