Originally Posted by happysmileylady
Also, how much safer can RFing be if I'm constantly torquing my body around trying to hold her hand or offer her a toy while driving?
So, what you have to ask yourself is, do you truely feel that having her rear facing makes you more likely to be in an accident? If the answer is yes, than turn her. If not, than don't.
I disagree with the second quote. Whether she's RF or FF won't make it any more or less likely that someone ELSE will get in an accident with you. BUT, having her FF will make it 75% more likely that she will die or be seriously injured in such an accident.
Torquing your body around trying to hold her hand, etc., is not safe whether she's RF or FF. Many children go through a fussy-in-the-car period, especially around 1 year of age. My son certainly did! For most kids it doesn't really matter whether they're FF or RF. They just don't like being buckled in a car seat. She'll outgrow it. It's a totally frustrating stage but it will pass. You need to make sure that you're making safe choices, though, by not doing all that turning around while driving. If DS drops (or throws!) a toy, he knows he's out of luck until the next red light.
I think you need to ask yourself: What is the worst thing that could be done to her emotionally by keeping her RF? Answer: she'll be cranky for a while, and car rides will be pretty frustrating. But, what is the worst thing that could be done to her physically by turning her FF? She could be killed... and you would know that such a tragedy might have been preventable.