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I'm guessing it's because it's a level of familiarity thing.  When I talk about my husband, I might use my in front of his name, or say my husband, Dan, or even Dan Smith if there are several Dans and I want to be clear.  I don't want to say Dan and just assume everyone knows I mean MY Dan.  When someone says, "Mom is in the hospital" it's kind of like Mom is her name and not acknowledging the fact that most of us use the name Mom to refer to our own mothers, so it at feels either overly familiar or kind of proprietary.  Although it's not something I've really noticed or that bothers me.  If I know the person well, it seems fine.

 

My church choir director always refers to her mom as Mom, and I know who she means now, but when I was new to the choir and she said that Mom was sick, I didn't actually know who she meant because I didn't know one of the women in her choir was her mother.  But I just am realizing now that she always says Mom to us like it's her mother's name, and it doesn't bother me, although I call her mom something else.  I wonder, though, if it's regional or if it's simpler because we all know her mother.  But then sometimes people whose moms I've never met do the same thing, so I don't kno. 

this - the first part.  And it's not a huge deal, but we are discussing pet peeves, so.
 

post #122 of 176
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When people refer to their own mother of father as just, "mom" or "dad" in conversation.  As in, "mom was in a car accident today".  Unless we are siblings, please say "my" mom when you are talking to me. 




Why is that an issue, it's their name. Pretend my dh's name is Dave. I don't say "my Dave" I say "Dave". If someone says Mom, and you are confused, well...

 

I'm not confused wink1.gif  I just find it presumptious.  I am not even sure if that is the word I am looking for.  But "Mom" is not what I would call your mom.  I would call your husband dave, though. So there is a difference. 
 


No, but that's what she calls her mother. Her name is Mom. You may call her something different. I call people by their first name, my kids say Mrs. lastname. It's not confusing to my kids when I say first name. And if you can't figure that when someone says "Mom" they mean their mom, not your mom, unless it's a sibling, then I don't know what to say.
post #123 of 176
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No, but that's what she calls her mother. Her name is Mom. You may call her something different. I call people by their first name, my kids say Mrs. lastname. It's not confusing to my kids when I say first name. And if you can't figure that when someone says "Mom" they mean their mom, not your mom, unless it's a sibling, then I don't know what to say.


She just told you she's not confused, so why persist with the "if you can't figure" thing? It's a pet peeves thread. That's one of her pet peeves. Is that really such a problem? 

post #124 of 176

I had to add more, because this REALLY annoys me..

 

People who interrupt me when I am talking or telling a story-for no good reason-especially when they are not the person I was talking to.. DRIVES ME INSANE....You couldn't wait two seconds til I was done??

 

Also, people who pretend to be stupid when they are not.

post #125 of 176
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No, but that's what she calls her mother. Her name is Mom. You may call her something different. I call people by their first name, my kids say Mrs. lastname. It's not confusing to my kids when I say first name. And if you can't figure that when someone says "Mom" they mean their mom, not your mom, unless it's a sibling, then I don't know what to say.


She just told you she's not confused, so why persist with the "if you can't figure" thing? It's a pet peeves thread. That's one of her pet peeves. Is that really such a problem? 

Thank you :)  I am not confused.  It's just annoying.  Sue me. 

 

You know what is another pet peeve of mine, when someone posts on a pet peeves thread, and the gets jumped on for their pet peeve not being considered valid.  Or having someone insinuate that one is a dolt.
 

post #126 of 176
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No, but that's what she calls her mother. Her name is Mom. You may call her something different. I call people by their first name, my kids say Mrs. lastname. It's not confusing to my kids when I say first name. And if you can't figure that when someone says "Mom" they mean their mom, not your mom, unless it's a sibling, then I don't know what to say.


She just told you she's not confused, so why persist with the "if you can't figure" thing? It's a pet peeves thread. That's one of her pet peeves. Is that really such a problem? 

Thank you :)  I am not confused.  It's just annoying.  Sue me. 

 

You know what is another pet peeve of mine, when someone posts on a pet peeves thread, and the gets jumped on for their pet peeve not being considered valid.  Or having someone insinuate that one is a dolt.
 


Isn't that what pet peeves all about though?  A sort of intolerance about how other people do things or how they think.  I can't relate to a lot of the peeves here.  That's my pet peeve.  :)  No apologies.  It's a pet peeve thread.

post #127 of 176

I have the same pet peeve as Swede!  I've had it for years.  When people who work in early education (or whoever!) are talking about a certain child and refer to that child's parents as "mom" and "dad", rather than saying "his mom", etc.  As in "Well, apparently mom isn't home until 7:pm, so Gramma is the one who picks Timmy up after class, and Dad isn't available on weekdays."  

 

I'm not confused about who "mom", "gramma" or "dad" are, I just find it super annoying that the teacher inserts themselves that intimately into that child's life and assumes that they can leave out the word "his" when referring to that child's parent/s.  Really bothers me.  I guess it comes down to a matter of respect for me.  But, that sounds like it could turn into an entire debate thread of it's own!!  

 

(( Please keep my post as stating a pet peeve and agreeing with Swede that it's just a pet peeve!!  lol ))

post #128 of 176
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Overuse of quotation marks.  This one really, truly makes me feel like the top of my head might blow off, although I'm not sure why it bothers me so much.  Especially when it's in a context that I can't imagine why someone would use them - like if I had said, "I must be more "cranky" today." 



You might like this:

http://www.unnecessaryquotes.com/ smile.gif

 

Hoo!  Thanks . . . those made me cheery . . . in an annoyed old-grandmother, "what's this world coming to?" kind of a way.

post #129 of 176
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I have the same pet peeve as Swede!  I've had it for years.  When people who work in early education (or whoever!) are talking about a certain child and refer to that child's parents as "mom" and "dad", rather than saying "his mom", etc.  As in "Well, apparently mom isn't home until 7:pm, so Gramma is the one who picks Timmy up after class, and Dad isn't available on weekdays."  

 

I'm not confused about who "mom", "gramma" or "dad" are, I just find it super annoying that the teacher inserts themselves that intimately into that child's life and assumes that they can leave out the word "his" when referring to that child's parent/s.  Really bothers me.  I guess it comes down to a matter of respect for me.  But, that sounds like it could turn into an entire debate thread of it's own!!  

 

(( Please keep my post as stating a pet peeve and agreeing with Swede that it's just a pet peeve!!  lol ))


See, I totally agree with that! But that's now how I read Swede's pet peeve.
post #130 of 176

I have another one - people who don't wash their hands after going to the bathroom. My roommate never washes his hands after he pees AND he always leaves the door open a crack when he's peeing. YUCK!

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The very Christian woman who works at the grocery store and always wants to talk to me about bringing my kids to her church.

 

People that complain about spelling and grammar errors on pet peeve threads.  They complain about someone else's idiocy and then inevitably turn around and spell something wrong.  When will you people ever learn?

 

Folding cold laundry.  If it has been sitting there long enough to get cold, I'll touch it up just so it's warm when I fold it.

 

When my husband (or anyone) opens a package and leaves the wrapping on the counter instead of putting it in the trash.  This drives me nuts.

 

On a similar note, when he finishes ice cream then fills up the carton with water in the sink instead of throwing it away.  WHY oh WHY do you do this?

 

Hairbugs in the bathroom.  When a person cleans the extra hair out of the brush then balls it up and leaves it there.  We have enough hair in this family that we have hair mammals.  And apparently I am the only person to them in the trash can.

 

post #132 of 176
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When my husband (or anyone) opens a package and leaves the wrapping on the counter instead of putting it in the trash.  This drives me nuts.

 



My husband does that too!. Sometimes he will have walked past the trashcan in order to set it on the counter. What the heck? dizzy.gif

 

 

 

This thread has made me paranoid by the way. I had to research past vs passed before I could click submit shy.gif

post #133 of 176

No!  Don't be paranoid!  The whole idea is that even though it bothers us, we know that's unreasonable!  That's why it's called a pet peeve, and not "something people should never do".  I mean, sure, it would make me happier if no-one ever committed the grammar errors I mentioned, but that would be MY problem.

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I have another one - people who don't wash their hands after going to the bathroom. My roommate never washes his hands after he pees AND he always leaves the door open a crack when he's peeing. YUCK!



 Gross! I was just talking with my friend about how gross it is when people use the bathroom and don't wash their hands afterward.

 

Another one I thought of is when you're on the phone with someone and they are having a conversation with somebody else. That drives me nuts. I don't mean a couple words, like a whole conversation....just get off the phone!

post #135 of 176

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Mine is when people end a sentence with "...., okay?"  Especially when they are giving direction to a child.  It always seems to me that they are really asking the child's permission to be giving them that instruction.  Like - "Junior, clean up your room and brush your teeth, okay?"  It always seems to me that one day Junior is going to say back - "no it's not okay and what the *** are you going to do about it?"

 

I know for many people it is an unconscious speech mannerism, but it really undercuts any power their words might have. 


 

This is a pet peeve of mine, too... I do it all the time, and I cringe when I catch myself doing it.  I also find myself saying "Kid, could you do xyz chore?" when what I mean is "Kid, go do xyz chore."  The kids are constantly peeved at my habit of asking them to run and do something when I'm trying to tell them to do it now or quickly.  "Run upstairs and get dressed!"  "Do I have to run?"  Well, no, I just mean do it quickly.

post #136 of 176

Everything that has been posted and everything that will be posted.  I have a LOT of pet peeves.

 

 

 

Okay, fine.  A few ones that are especially irksome to me right now:

 

  • Misused apostrophes.  When you pluralize a word, it does NOT need an apostrophe. 

 

  • "Should of/would of/could of".  I KNOW  "should've" sounds like "should of" but if you're writing it, it's should HAVE or should've.   

 

  • Over exaggerating (I hate exaggerating as it is).  I HATE when people say "That's the funniest/weirdest/fastest/whateverest thing I've ever seen/smelled/saw/whatever"  If you say this, over and over, it makes you annoying AND a liar.  Also, when people say 110%.  There is no such thing.  I understand they're trying to say it was above and beyond but it's just trying too hard.  Saying someone is giving 100% most of the time isn't even true so just calm down on the over exaggerating.

 

  • People randomly singing.  I don't care if you're Whitney Houston, if I'm in line at the grocery store, I don't want to hear you belting a song out.  It makes me so uncomfortable and it's just odd.

 

  • Self-photos.  Narcissistic, much?

 

  • When people don't turn off their headlights when in line (like a drive-through or whatever).

 

 

 

post #137 of 176

I thought of some more. I agree with the overuse of exclamation point. I have a facebook friend who uses multiple exclamation points after every sentence. It doesn't even have to be exciting. Example: "I went to the grocery store today!!!!!". And she follows every post with "Love it!!!!!!!!!!!!!" Ugh. Annoying.

 

Barking dogs. They bother me more than anything. I am the one that either calls the police or cusses you out for your dog barking all night.

 

People who don't do what they say they're going to do. Like calling when they said they would or showing up when they said they would. Irritating.

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Yeah, me too!  My mother would tell us to run and do xyz and it always kind of made me laugh and being the smarta$$ that I am, I would usually sprint off to do xyz.

 

Another pet peeve along those lines is my mother would often say she'd "let" us do xyz or we "can help her" do xyz chore.  As in, "I'll let you do the dishes now and then you can help me clean the bathrooms."  Worded as if it was a superfun treat to be able to do dishes and other chores.  YAY, mom, thanks!!!

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This is a pet peeve of mine, too... I do it all the time, and I cringe when I catch myself doing it.  I also find myself saying "Kid, could you do xyz chore?" when what I mean is "Kid, go do xyz chore."  The kids are constantly peeved at my habit of asking them to run and do something when I'm trying to tell them to do it now or quickly.  "Run upstairs and get dressed!"  "Do I have to run?"  Well, no, I just mean do it quickly.


 
post #139 of 176
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I thought of some more. I agree with the overuse of exclamation point. I have a facebook friend who uses multiple exclamation points after every sentence. It doesn't even have to be exciting. Example: "I went to the grocery store today!!!!!". And she follows every post with "Love it!!!!!!!!!!!!!" Ugh. Annoying.


That is annoying. I always want to comment thusly, "OMG!!!!1!!!!1!!!!11!!1!!LOL!!!!1!!!!1!!!!!!1!!!1!!!!!"

 

My friend was interviewing applicants at her company, and one woman submitted a cover letter in which every single sentence ended with an exclamation point. She even added one after her name that was typed under her signature, like this,

 

Dear Mrs. Jones!

 

Hello! I'm Jane Smith and I'm looking forward to the opportunity to work at your company! I have 6 years of experience in this field and am looking for a new challenge! I feel that my skill set would be an asset to your company because of x, y, and z! Thank you for your time and consideration, and I look forward to meeting with you in person!

 

Sincerely,

[signature]

Jane Smith!

post #140 of 176
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Everything that has been posted and everything that will be posted.  I have a LOT of pet peeves.

 

 

 


  • People randomly singing.  I don't care if you're Whitney Houston, if I'm in line at the grocery store, I don't want to hear you belting a song out.  It makes me so uncomfortable and it's just odd.

 

I do this. :) Sorry.
 

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