I have recurrent unexplained pregnancy loss. Is there a test that the doctors are missing or some other relevant healthy info I need to know about that could make this a possibility or is this baby destined never to join us, i.e., is it time to stop trying to make it happen? Thank you.
Why can't this little soul make it through to us?
Jenjnersnap-I'm sorry for your losses, it's a painful experience.
I'm not seeing a fourth child and what I'm hearing is that there is a pushing for this when possibly it's not fully wanted from everyone. What that tells me is that someone's energy is blocking this situation. For example; are you pushing for this, but your spouse is not fully on board, but is going along with it. Or one of the other children does not really want this. Or even you, yourself may feel like you want this, but maybe the reasons are not really in the best interest of all.
So in order to make this happen, I would focus on making sure everyone really is on board 100% and is putting their best intentions towards it and not holding it back with opposite intentions.
Oh, that is very sad and, to be honest, unexpected news. And so definite too. :( There's never been a doubt in my mind during the three years we've been on this journey that everyone capable of understanding the implications of a new baby (that now includes me, my husband and, over time, the older two boys) was on-board. In fact, we just talked about this as a family when it became obvious that I was likely miscarrying again and everyone WANTS this child. My husband stresses about money sometimes, but, if financial worries kept babies from coming earthside, well, there wouldn't be many babies born, IMO; that is the only negative thought anyone has ever had. That leaves me with only the "not in the best interest of all" statement; I don't know why or how it could be true that the pain and suffering my family has endured - and still have empty arms - could be in our best interest but I will assume it is the truth and I am just not meant to understand why. Thanks for the answer.
It is very hard to describe what I see and feel. It is also not easy to answer questions like this because the answer is not always what people want to hear. However, I never claim to be 100% right. And I also don't claim to have any control over a someone else's situation. So instead of worrying about what I felt, I encourage you to say "screw you" and prove me to be the crazy psychic that doesn't know what she's talking about. And I am more than okay with that. I would rather you have the baby you have wanted for so long then me be right. Any day!
I do believe that in the grand scheme of things we all end up where we need to be. But i also believe that we have choices about the paths we travel and how we get there and I absolutely believe we can change and shift things as we need them. So you don't have to listen to a thing I say. It doesn't sound like what I wrote resonates in your soul at all and that is the most important thing. Sometimes I am able to point something out that people have been denying or even lying to themselves about and that helps them face it head on. That doesn't sound like the case here. So maybe I'm just completely wrong. Sometimes in my business, it's a good thing to be wrong. This forum hasn't turned out to be the easiest thing in the world.I know why people ask their questions and it's for hope. But I made a pact with myself a long time ago that I would be honest no matter what. But that doesn't mean I can't give hope. The hope is what is in you when you keep moving forward. It's what you see when you look in your other children's and your husbands eyes. It's in a tear drop and in a kind word. You shouldn't ever lose hope because without hope, what have you got?
I'm sorry that what I felt isn't what you wanted to hear. But don't lose hope. I'm just one person with an intuitive opinion. I certainly don't write your story. Only you can do that.
I wish you all the best on this journey. I just experienced a loss myself last month. It's not easy for sure.