Question 1 :
I had my 18 week ultrasound last week and when I had my follow up with the midwife, I found out that there is a choroid plexus cyst (a very small one) my midwife assured me it's nothing, that sometimes there is a link to trisomy 18 but that everything else looks perfect (no defects) so I really shouldn't worry about it. I was also told I'll need to go for another ultrasound at 28 weeks to see if the cyst is gone. I asked what happens if it isn't and she said she's only had one patient where the cyst wasn't gone by 28 weeks and when she went to a specialist, it was gone by 32 weeks. I asked what happened if it wasn't gone then and didn't really get a clear answer.
From what I can tell, they are almost always harmless, it's on a part of the brain that does not affect function or personality. So, why do I need the 28 week ultrasound then? I mean, I'll probably get it, because I'll be dying of curiosity by then - but I'm also not a fan of unnecessary ultrasounds.
Has anyone else had a CPC on an ultrasound? Any experiences you can share?
The 2nd, unrelated question is about home births.
I contacted a hb midwife a few weeks ago - she returned my call last Wednesday finally. She's on vacation in July and August as is another popular midwife. She gave me a couple other names - but since I"m hoping for insurance to cover I want a CNM hb midwife. I found one - filled out the online contact form, she said she would contact me Thursday and I never heard. I'm getting frustrated. Is it normal for it to take several days to weeks to get a call back? I understand it's a much smaller operation - so am I just being impatient?
Also, my husband is pretty against me having a home birth. He has some very valid concerns. Initially I had no issues with a hospital birth. I had mostly good hospital experiences the last 2 times (I just hated my midwife last time) and there were some slight complications where I can understand that he would be more comfortable in a hospital. I am pushing for him to come to at least a consultation. If he's still not comfortable with it, I won't push it - I'm not into bullying or deceiving my husband. But the problem is, after witnessing my sisters birth in the same hospital with the same midwife I'm supposed to have - I'm terrified of giving birth there.
I don't want monitors. I don't want an IV. I don't want to be told I'm taking to long in labor (yes, she was told this - after 6 hours). I don't want to be asked every 20 minutes if I want an epidural yet. I just don't want any of it.
Now, I know that I am more informed than my sister was. I know that I can speak up. But I don't want to. I don't want to be in the position to have to fight when I'm in labor. I don't want people just walking in and out.
My husband says that he knows I don't want those things and will do the intervening for me and I won't have to worry about it - yet, with my sister when I asked questions I was treated pretty rudely.
The closer I get, the more anxious I am getting about a hospital birth.
I've explained this to my husband and he tries to be understanding, but I don't think he quite gets it.
Also, we're less than 10 minutes from the hospital I delivered at. I thought it was closer to 20 minutes, but it's about 8 when traffic is good.
So - is the midwife call back thing normal? And if I do this consultation and he's still not comfortable - what sort of steps can I take to ensure that I don't have to deal with any of this stuff in the hospital. I do plan on laboring at home as long as I can (if we have a hospital birth)