2 questions - CPC's and homebirths

[gardenofsimple]

Question 1 :

I had my 18 week ultrasound last week and when I had my follow up with the midwife, I found out that there is a choroid plexus cyst (a very small one) my midwife assured me it's nothing, that sometimes there is a link to trisomy 18 but that everything else looks perfect (no defects) so I really shouldn't worry about it. I was also told I'll need to go for another ultrasound at 28 weeks to see if the cyst is gone. I asked what happens if it isn't and she said she's only had one patient where the cyst wasn't gone by 28 weeks and when she went to a specialist, it was gone by 32 weeks. I asked what happened if it wasn't gone then and didn't really get a clear answer.

From what I can tell, they are almost always harmless, it's on a part of the brain that does not affect function or personality. So, why do I need the 28 week ultrasound then? I mean, I'll probably get it, because I'll be dying of curiosity by then - but I'm also not a fan of unnecessary ultrasounds.

Has anyone else had a CPC on an ultrasound? Any experiences you can share?

The 2nd, unrelated question is about home births.

I contacted a hb midwife a few weeks ago - she returned my call last Wednesday finally. She's on vacation in July and August as is another popular midwife. She gave me a couple other names - but since I"m hoping for insurance to cover I want a CNM hb midwife. I found one - filled out the online contact form, she said she would contact me Thursday and I never heard. I'm getting frustrated. Is it normal for it to take several days to weeks to get a call back? I understand it's a much smaller operation - so am I just being impatient?

Also, my husband is pretty against me having a home birth. He has some very valid concerns. Initially I had no issues with a hospital birth. I had mostly good hospital experiences the last 2 times (I just hated my midwife last time) and there were some slight complications where I can understand that he would be more comfortable in a hospital. I am pushing for him to come to at least a consultation. If he's still not comfortable with it, I won't push it - I'm not into bullying or deceiving my husband. But the problem is, after witnessing my sisters birth in the same hospital with the same midwife I'm supposed to have - I'm terrified of giving birth there.
I don't want monitors. I don't want an IV. I don't want to be told I'm taking to long in labor (yes, she was told this - after 6 hours). I don't want to be asked every 20 minutes if I want an epidural yet. I just don't want any of it.

Now, I know that I am more informed than my sister was. I know that I can speak up. But I don't want to. I don't want to be in the position to have to fight when I'm in labor. I don't want people just walking in and out.

My husband says that he knows I don't want those things and will do the intervening for me and I won't have to worry about it - yet, with my sister when I asked questions I was treated pretty rudely.

The closer I get, the more anxious I am getting about a hospital birth.

I've explained this to my husband and he tries to be understanding, but I don't think he quite gets it.

Also, we're less than 10 minutes from the hospital I delivered at. I thought it was closer to 20 minutes, but it's about 8 when traffic is good.

So - is the midwife call back thing normal? And if I do this consultation and he's still not comfortable - what sort of steps can I take to ensure that I don't have to deal with any of this stuff in the hospital. I do plan on laboring at home as long as I can (if we have a hospital birth)

[ArcticRose]

filled out the online contact form, she said she would contact me Thursday and I never heard. I'm getting frustrated. Is it normal for it to take several days to weeks to get a call back? I understand it's a much smaller operation - so am I just being impatient?

It's possible that she is dealing with a birth right now and hasn't had an opportunity to get back to you. Unless it was really urgent, I'm sure no one would expect her to leave a laboring client to talk to another client. That's all speculation though. I'd try contacting her tomorrow and see what response you get. If she doesn't have a good reason for not getting back to you sooner.. I'd keep looking for a mw.

If your hospital is willing to work with you, make up a very detailed birth plan. Make sure you put everything in there! Discuss it all with the hospital before-hand to understand what things they aren't willing to compromise on.

You might also want to consider hiring a Doula to help run interference with the hospital staff. That takes the burden off your husband and you can both focus on labor.

Getting your wish for a homebirth would be great, but if you can't convince your husband, then you'll just have to try and ensure that the hospital birth is what you want it to be.

Oh, and I have no answers to your first question, sorry.

[greenmama66]

Had a CPC at my 17 week US~ did an amni because my age is 44- waiting n resuts- a bit scared but baby was fine aside frm that and it's a tiny CPC- MWife fine abut it and if baby is fine then HB nt  a cncern- srry keybard messed up and wn't type certain ABC's

[noahs.mom06]

I don't know about your first question, but for your second question, I agree with ArcticRose about hiring a doula if you end up birthing in the hospital. I don't know why you're having such a hard time getting a midwife to call you back, but I agree that she's probably busy or has a reason... I haven't had that problem, but I'm also good friends with my midwife so it's different...

[gardenofsimple]

Thanks ladies. I sent another message to the new midwife yesterday. Still nothing, so I don't know. :/