DP's family seem overly concerned that our 6 month old son still isn't sttn, as in 12 hours straight. Until today it was mostly his parents who would drop comments about it, with his mother singing CIO's praise with her other grandchildren. In the meantime, DP is practically on board with them although I even got him a Dr. Sears book on baby's sleep in German. So today we were visiting his family again and his SIL asked about how well our baby is sleeping and of course, she recommended a popular Ferber-related book that worked perfectly on all four of her children. From what I've heard, DP's other SIL also did the same with her kids. That or DP got his SIL's mixed up. So I'm the only one in a huge family with 7 grandkids - excluding my 2 children - who won't CIO and am being made to feel like I'm inexperienced or I'm just shooting from the hip. I did accidentally roll my eyes by reflex when she mentioned the book name because I really didn't expect her or all people to CIO her babies. I mean, she smiled when she brought up the book since I'm sure she's heard all the discussions herself and probably knew I wasn't going to CIO. It makes me think that somebody else asked her to talk to me about it since I do ask her for advice occasionally on other things.
I don't know what I really want here. I guess just some support. I feel like I'm going to be treated like some stubborn AP fanatic with no rhyme or reason for her decision to not CIO. I've got plenty of resources. I could have been snarky and said that my dd learned to sleep all by herself in her own time without CIO. But I didn't because I don't want to create a rift. I like and respect DP's family. I'd like to receive the same respect. But if I keep getting pressured there WILL be a rift, and it won't be my fault if they can't respect our parenting. As far as I'm concerned, this is a matter to be discussed between DP and myself. So I guess I need to work a little hard on getting him on my page so that he can support me or stand up for himself when such discussions come up. Otherwise, I'll just stick to saying "he's sleeping just fine" as an answer if his family insists on staying nosy.