I'm sure this isn't a new topic, but I don't have time to search (sorry!)...
DH & I are pretty sure that we are not going to have another baby. We pretty much decided that it would be impossible to be good parents & do the things that make us happy as individuals (if that makes sense) with more children. Financial constraints add to our reasoning (we both have low-ish-income work that we're passionate about & unwilling to give up & it really would be a very big burden to have another child).
However, we both have at least one sibling ourselves, and get grief from family & friends about raising an only child. Add to that, I've been having some doubts myself lately... My husband, on the other hand, is ready to go get "the surgery" tomorrow. He is likely going to be the primary caretaker (maybe working part-time, maybe SAHD) as I start a new career so his personal happiness counts for a lot in this decision (not that we both don't recognize it's a decision for the entire family).
So, if you have been through this decision before, when did you know? How did you know? I'm not one who's big on regrets once a decision is made, but I still don't want to jump into anything before I'm ready. And I'll add that we are absolutely open to adoption if we realize down the road (and after I'm willing to go through pregnancy again).