Am I the only one who gets continuously asked if and when I'm having more kids? And doesn't like it? Everywhere I go, it seems like that's top on everyone's list to ask me. I don't understand how people can be so insensitive, not to realize that for a lot of people it's a personal, and sensitive subject- you really never know if someone has just had or has had many miscarriages, if having more children or not is a sore spot in their marriage, or if they're experiencing infertility and desperately want more children and can't, and then are put in the position of having to come up with some kind of chatty answer to people's nosy questions.
For me personally, when people ask this it feels akin to someone asking about my sex life and reproductive health and honestly I don't feel like casually conversing about that with everyone I meet. I have had unplanned pregnancies and simply chatting about that and coming up with a cute response when it's a deeply emotional issue for me is very tough. Rude examples I have experienced-
My boss constantly bugging me about when I'd be having baby #2, when said baby had died a few weeks prior and I was waiting for the miscarriage. Often in staff meetings. I am usually at a loss for words and say something lame like "don't worry, you'll be the first to know".
My kids' doctor asks every single time we see her if this is it for us or if we're having more. Once it was while I was in the process of a miscarriage, and I said "well, I'm losing one right now" and she seemed taken aback and sympathetic, yet STILL ASKS EVERY TIME WE COME IN!!
I met with someone who was seeking a professional mentorship relationship with me, and after knowing her for 5 minutes she asked how many more kids I'd be having!
And in general, probably several times a week, I get asked this question by people I know well and near strangers. I honestly don't know what to say, I don't even feel like it's deserves a polite, upbeat response since I think it's an intrusive question. Usually I am just blank, and blurt out "No" or deflect it back on them and ask how many more THEY'LL be having. Yet I don't want to be outright rude in return b/c most of these people I have to maintain professional relationships with, or are parents at my kids' school who I'll see all the time.