My BFF is pregnant with boy #2. First little guy is circed. She had no clue. I had no clue, I only had an older daughter at the time. BFF has learned some functions of the foreskin, the pain in circing, some complications, etc etc. She is very adament about learning about how to manage the pain if she does do it. But GOOD NEWS! Today she called me and told me I DO NOT WANT TO DO IT, but her DH does. She said she is going to learn the techniques and see what can be done. She said her DH is willing to wait a week or so she can get breastfeeding down first. He said even if a DR said it wasn't medically necessary he would still want it done. For no other reason then that he is circed. I don't agree with them, but at the same time its his opinion. She has watched the videos, several times infact. Her DH denies that the baby was crying any more then usual. He doesn't even see the need for pain meds and insists they talk to the DR first. BFF is not stupid and will insist on them anyhow. Her DH is not a cold hearted guy by any means, he is just so damn reliant on doctors. Silliness, but whatever.
I am hoping BFFs mama bear instinct kicks in and she wins this battle. I told her that when she holds that little guy and looks his whole precious body over , she will realize how perfect he is. Especially if she waits that week, I doubt she can bond with him and then take him in to have it done. What can I do to push her over that edge. She has slowly gotten more and more receptive to the whole circ/intact topic. First it was the pain meds and now she doesn't want to do it at all. I can't believe it. This is the woman that told me "it doesn't matter what anyone tells me I will circumcise any future boys". My heart melted in to a big pile of mush when she called me today and said she didn't want to do it. I wanted to just go from CO to OH and give her a big hug and some more encouragment. But alas I can't lol.
Does anyone have some really great links?? I sent her the page to the reference library on cirp.org. I told her to ignore the stuff that may seem "crazy" and overly emotional. I encouraged her to focus on the facts: pain, techniques and their complications, what is lost in a circ, the function of the foreskin, possible maternal bonding issues. She needs to focus on facts now, so she can feel informed and educated when people argue with her about it. Oh man I am on the edge of my seat and my stomach is in knots over this. I am SOOOO happy she still has 15wks left. She has come a long way the last 25 wks!