My son is the same way with eating! It's exasperating at times, but my patience has come a long way. The funniest thing about it is it takes him 3x as long because he wants to talk, talk, talk to you and yet is impatient to get back to whatever activity I disturbed by having him come eat!
One of the things the book I read talks about is how sensitive RBer's are, how much they want to be perfect, etc. It seems like sometimes my son is waiting to be told to do/how to do something (even if he's been told a bunch of times before/knows how) because he doesn't want to be wrong/make a mistake. I have learned to wait before reacting or telling him to do something and sometimes it works. Like the other day someone gave him something and he was quiet for a sec. and my gut reaction was to say, "what do you say?" But I waited a minute and he said Thank u himself.
Originally Posted by scoobymummy
The Edison Trait is also a fabulous book for understanding the RB/ADD mind!
Just thought (actually just dealt with for the twentieth time today) the main thing that I struggle with having an rber in my house -- the distractability!!!! It still surprises me how easily he's distracted - how I have to tell him to do things over and over again - things as simple as eating - I still have to sometimes put the food on his fork to get him to eat it (Honestly! just jab all the beans onto one forkful, gulp them down and be done with it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!). Taking his supplements is also a challenge - I can put them in his hand, give him the water and they still sometimes don't get taken. For awhile I was tearing my hair out - I couldn't understand how we kept forgetting to take his supplements and then I realized my forgetfulness plus his forgetfulness makes for a bit of chaos around here. Dosettes, lists, notes, reminders...I can't live without them lol! I often feel like that 80's cartoon character Kathi - I don't know if you remember her, but she always had hair sticking up and things like paperclips and pencils flying out of her head. That's me - always on the verge of an organizational disaster!