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post #41 of 110

Great.  Thanks for the info.  I had a hard time really finding out what the consiquences were if I was to get pregnant again and now here I am.  I'm sure the midwife will give me all the info and figure out my urgency to get bloodwork done when I talk to her on Wednesday.  My baby was dead by 6 weeks at the maximum when I had my m/c but the actual m/c didn't happen until 12 weeks.  Hopefully it won't be a problem.

post #42 of 110
Hi ladies. I joined the DDC a week or so ago, but haven't had much to say. We're expecting again after losing twins last summer - I'm feeling a lot of the same things as many of you. I'm excited, and scared...and still missing our twins (and our first baby, that we lost in 2007). Our twins due date would have been in just a couple weeks, and it's tough, especially because I have 2 friends due the same week (one of them the same day!).

Things are going well so far - my betas are growing as they should, and I'm scheduled for an ultrasound on Wednesday. I'm anxious, tbh - I'll be 5 weeks 4 days along, so I know there's a chance that they won't be able to find a heartbeat...but I'm sure it will still be hard news to hear if they don't. Another week is a long time to wait for the follow-up!
post #43 of 110

Ugggggg! I just had a really long post and it dissapeared into nowhere land. grrrrrrr!

I am happy to see several others from the July ddc. That was the last ddc that I was in.

I am still pg! Today I am 5 wks 5 days. The day that I started bleeding with my earliest loss. If I make it to 6 wks I will reach my first mile stone and then I only have about a 1,000 others left. (6 wks, 8 wks, 12 wks, 17 wks, etc.)

I tell people right away. Not that I don't think something bad can happen but bcs I know that I don't want to feel alone when it does. I hate that being pg doesn't mean having a baby that really sucks. I have a hard time thinking that I will actually get a baby out of this deal. I think I will be really surprised if I do. I have a hard time not thinking ahead and a hard time not freaking out but really what can I do about it anyways.

I hope that everyone is doing well. I pray that everyone on here has a happy and healthy 9 months!

 

(sorry about not doing individual responses, I just don't have the energy to go back and do it all over again)

post #44 of 110

I really do hate losing big posts - it's happened to me twice today, and I think it's actually my fault - I'm hitting a key on my husband's laptop that makes me go back a few pages, and then my post is gone.  Grr.

 

Anyway, I sure hope you do get a baby out of this!  I hope we all do, in fact.

 

Jane:  Thanks for calling me normal.  That was oddly comforting (I'm not usually comforted by being normal, but in this case it really helps).  So thanks.

post #45 of 110
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I tell people right away. Not that I don't think something bad can happen but bcs I know that I don't want to feel alone when it does.


This me too. We don't tell the world right away, but we do tell everyone we'd need or want for support, should there be a need for it.
post #46 of 110


 

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Originally Posted by ThreeCats View Post

Hi ladies. I joined the DDC a week or so ago, but haven't had much to say. We're expecting again after losing twins last summer - I'm feeling a lot of the same things as many of you. I'm excited, and scared...and still missing our twins (and our first baby, that we lost in 2007). Our twins due date would have been in just a couple weeks, and it's tough, especially because I have 2 friends due the same week (one of them the same day!).

Things are going well so far - my betas are growing as they should, and I'm scheduled for an ultrasound on Wednesday. I'm anxious, tbh - I'll be 5 weeks 4 days along, so I know there's a chance that they won't be able to find a heartbeat...but I'm sure it will still be hard news to hear if they don't. Another week is a long time to wait for the follow-up!


i am really sorry about your losses. I hope that your levels keep continuing to rise! I feel like I am/was in the same boat as far as having friends due on the same date. A friend actually did deliver on my due date 2/6. It was bittersweet to say the least. I go for my second US on Thursday. The one I had on last monday was too soon to hear a heartbeat and you are right it did send me into a panic and the fear is creeping up more and more as thursday approaches -wondering what ifs?-

post #47 of 110

THank you for the welcome! 

 

I'm 7 weeks now...and still FEELING all the good exhaustion and on and off queasiness.  I've decided to wait until at least 10 weeks to get the sono...

since (as was said) there is nothing they can do before that anyway. 

I am under SO much stress though with other things that have been going on...but I am trying to just BE pregnant and focus on the growing creative forces within me. 


I find myself though...every day...checking my underwear constantly for spotting.  It's so hard to not remember and fear. 

My first loss had stopped developing around 8 weeks when I went in for the 10 week Doppler which turned into a sono revealing the situation.  I just keep imagining that little heart and praying it forms and beats strong.  That's all I can do until we HEAR it. 

 

It is comforting to know there are others praying for the same thing! 

post #48 of 110

I find that today I am actually letting myself think ahead to a full term pregnancy and healthy baby. Actually feeling a little excited. Hoping that letting my guard down doesn't completely screw me. As of today I have made it past the time of my earliest loss.... just a million more milestones to go.

I am always second guessing my symptoms, checking my undies, etc. I really wish I didn't have to live like this. I just go with the assumption that this will not end well then I figure I won't be as hurt? I don't know the best way to go about this and don't feel that I will ever have a point in this pg where I feel safe.

I hope that everyone is doing well and trucking right along. Thanks for this thread and a place to express myslef. I really need it.

post #49 of 110

oh and Mollie I wanted to ask you if you were in the dec ddc (it was either 06 or 08, I think 08) I am pretty sure I remember you from there.

post #50 of 110
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oh and Mollie I wanted to ask you if you were in the dec ddc (it was either 06 or 08, I think 08) I am pretty sure I remember you from there.


Yes, I had my youngest in Dec. '06. Then I was in the Dec. '10 DDC, but had my miscarriage. I'm praying I get to stay in this one all the way.
post #51 of 110

mollie- It is good to "see" you again. I thought i recognized you but couldn't remember which year. dec 2006 is when I had my rainbow baby after 2 losses. Let's hope that is what I get this time as well.

Sorry to hear about your loss.

 

I hope everyone is hanging in there. I am 6 wks today!!! Oh this is going to be a looooooonnnnnnng ride!

post #52 of 110

I'm still here, 8w4d today. Still torn between "things will be fine, there will actually be a baby in October" and "I wonder when he/she is going to stop growing, I wonder how much time I have left". So odd. I'm not scared, but very aware of how delicate this whole process is, and I just feel like the odds are stacked overwhelmingly against me. This is crunch time for me, with my missed miscarriage in June 2010 the baby stopped growing between 8 and 9 weeks. It was another three weeks before we found out, and then another week before the miscarriage actually took place. I plan on making an appointment around 12 weeks, to see if we can hear a heartbeat. If that works out, I may be able to feel a bit more confident and less fatalistic about it.

I hope all you ladies are doing well, hanging in there, and I'm sending oodles of sticky growy vibes to all your little babes!

post #53 of 110
greensad.gif I had a nightmare last night that I started bleeding, and I just knew it was over for me again. I cried, DH cried, and he asked what do we do now. I said I don't know.

I hope it was just a dream, and doesn't become reality.

{{{HUGS}}} to everyone!
post #54 of 110
Thread Starter 

Hugs MamaLove! Sounds horrible- I'm so, so sorry. I've had some creepily accurate dreams in my day- but more often than not they just reflect my fears. I hope that yours is the latter- thinking of you! I know how rattling dreams can be.

 

but... its nice to see that we're all still here so far!

 

I've been feeling absolutely horrible (nausea) so I've been so focused on managing it that I can barely worry about losing the baby these days. I had a first day at a new job today and my greatest victory was that I didn't puke! yay!! The perpetual maintenance of the nausea I find worse than the puking. Just about everything sounds foul, and I have to eat every 2 hours to prevent disaster. I keep trying to remind myself that this is a good thing, right? But I'm 7 weeks tomorrow- so this could be a looooong ride.

this is good, right? right?

post #55 of 110

I won't even see my midwife for the first time for 4 more weeks.  I wish I knew if there was an actual baby in there.  I feel like there is but I felt that way last time and even had pregnancy symptoms until the very end.  I don't want an early u/s this time but how will they know everything is okay?  Blood tests?  My crazy hormones kicked in today.  I cried hysterically after a hard day at work. 

post #56 of 110
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The perpetual maintenance of the nausea I find worse than the puking. Just about everything sounds foul, and I have to eat every 2 hours to prevent disaster. I keep trying to remind myself that this is a good thing, right? But I'm 7 weeks tomorrow- so this could be a looooong ride.

this is good, right? right?



I am sooo with you! This morning I thought:"I am sick and tired of being sick and tired." But like you, I keep telling myself:"It's a good sign, it's a good sign!"

And speaking of good signs... This morning when I was lying on my stomach, I felt the odd and familiar sensation of "lying on a tennis ball". I had that with my first, and with my second, but not with my miscarriage. It was actually the first thing that tipped me off that I wasn't nuts and something was actually off. At ten weeks I should have been able to feel my uterus like that, and I wasn't. But this time I am, and I am so relieved and so happy. This has really given me a little bit of confidence! I hit 9 weeks today and for the first time I am feeling rather optimistic. (And now also scared that I just jinxed myself rolleyes.gif So silly!)

post #57 of 110
Hey ladies, how are you holding up? It's been a rough couple of days for us around here. We had our first sono last Wed (5w4d)., but the tech couldn't find a heartbeat. We went in for a follow-up yesterday (6w2d) and did see one - 112 bpm. My doctor said she thought that was on the low side, but it seems like it's in the normal range for 6 weeks (according to Dr. Google). Also, she ordered a 6th beta, and was concerned that they aren't doubling appropriately. It's normal, though, for your doubling time to increase as your betas do, right? Here are my betas and doubling times...do they look normal to you?

13 dpo - 188
16 dpo - 560 - 46 hours
19 dpo - 1,907 - 41 hours
23 dpo - 6,957 - 51 hours
25 dpo - 12,845 - 54 hours
30 dpo - 34,954 - 83 hours

My doctor told us yesterday that she felt another miscarriage was likely. She's a realist (which I appreciate) but I wonder if she jumped the gun a little saying that. She suggested a third sono on Monday.
post #58 of 110


 

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Originally Posted by ThreeCats View Post

Hey ladies, how are you holding up? It's been a rough couple of days for us around here. We had our first sono last Wed (5w4d)., but the tech couldn't find a heartbeat. We went in for a follow-up yesterday (6w2d) and did see one - 112 bpm. My doctor said she thought that was on the low side, but it seems like it's in the normal range for 6 weeks (according to Dr. Google). Also, she ordered a 6th beta, and was concerned that they aren't doubling appropriately. It's normal, though, for your doubling time to increase as your betas do, right? Here are my betas and doubling times...do they look normal to you?

13 dpo - 188
16 dpo - 560 - 46 hours
19 dpo - 1,907 - 41 hours
23 dpo - 6,957 - 51 hours
25 dpo - 12,845 - 54 hours
30 dpo - 34,954 - 83 hours

My doctor told us yesterday that she felt another miscarriage was likely. She's a realist (which I appreciate) but I wonder if she jumped the gun a little saying that. She suggested a third sono on Monday.


I am praying that your dr is wrong ... Good luck on your next sono!

 

post #59 of 110

I'm sorry, I really don't know anything about those numbers, but I do think that the line between "realist" and "pessimist" is often pretty blurry.  I hope she was just making a foray into pessimist and that all will remain well.  Hopefully someone with some real knowledge will chime in for you.

post #60 of 110
Thinking of you ThreeCats, sending a hug your way. It's so hard to wait. Hope your next sonogram shows a sticky, growing baby.
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