Court today.

[hillymum]

I hate going to court! Even though I'm not the one in trouble. Sbxh is there for contempt. He hasn't been paying medical's like he should, morgage or his credit cards. His second attorney fired him just over a week ago so he is representing himself. My attorney asked me last Friday if I thought sbxh was emotionally unstable at this point. I just want this all over and behind me. Can I ask the judge to make a rulling on support and maintanance today and get it all over? I wish! Can you hear me screaming????

[Super~Single~Mama]

HUGS  All of use hate going to court - heck, I just finished law school and I STILL hate it!

[Phoenix~Mama]

*hugs*   Court does suck... no matter the reason you have to go.

[hillymum]

Thanks you two!  I got through it ok. Sbx arrived 30 minutes late and started arguing with the judge which didn't go down too well. He was totally unprepared and basically looked like a wreck. The judge wants us to go to mediation again which just made me cry. it cost me $250 for the mediator and $1400 to my attorney last time and we agreed on nothing new other than the every wednesday evening visitation which sbx hasn't been doing. Oh, and sbx didn't pay his share of the mediators expence. At least sbx was told he has to pay bills and medical expences, but being told isn't enough. Guess i will wait and see what happens there.

[blessingscome]

I'm sorry that it was sent back to the mediator.  I'm glad though that the judge saw a true picture of what your ex is like.

I wish the judges would realize that just saying that something should be so doesn't make it so...

[orangecanoe]

I'm really sorry that he is making this process so tough. Did you get any kind of idea of what a next step would be if mediation fails? You have been so on the ball with everything and he is just. not.

[hillymum]

the judge did mention setting a court date but I don't know if that is to hear the verdict or if it's to finalise the divorce. I sent my attorney an email asking what happens next. I don't know why this week has affected me so badly. I have cried far too much today and yesturday, and last night woke up needing to throw up. I'm on edge with the kids and so they are trying so hard to be angels. I'm so worried about the fact there is now noone telling sbx what he can and can't do or expect. Now he really is a wild card! I think one of the things getting to me is that he is treating this as a huge joke! Also this is the second wednesday in a row that he has missed his wednesday visitation and thats the only new thing we agreed on last time we did 4 hours of mediation.